If I get a wife I want her to take care of the household.
She should be able to do the bare minimum of household duties and work.
The more children we make, the harder it will be for my wife to take care of
so I hope I can support her a little bit there.
Hey guys it's Cathy Cat. Today we are gonna go and ask the guys of Japan
if they would like their future wife to be a housewife
or work?
That's gonna be interesting. Let's go and Ask Japanese.
I want her to take care of the household. My parents are working you see.
I think a household will be tranquil if the wife takes care of it.
I believe so. However if she should say she really wants to work...
I will try to respect that.
If she is working, would you prefer jobbing part time or having a career?
If she ...
should really have to work then...
she should work.
Depends on her but...
If she wants to work, I don't have preferences there.
Why do you want a house wife?
It might be traditional thinking but a man has to work
and a woman has to protect the household.
Not protect but well, sort it out.
I think that is a good tradition.
There will be kids you see.
That's what I believe in.
If I get a wife I want her to take care of the household.
I want her to work.
People psychologically need to work in my opinion.
I want her to know how society works, I need to learn it too.
She should be able to do the bare minimum of household duties.
But I still want her to work.
I think that depends on if we have kids or not.
Once the kids are bigger she should work again.
Once the kids are in school, we have to spend a lot of money.
We will need the money, so she should work.
I want her to work.
I will work. She should do the household and watch the kids.
Once she bears kids, I want her to become a housewife.
I want her to watch the kids all day.
So after having kids she will be housewife forever?
When the kids are in high school, I think she is allowed to work.
I want her to work.
If she works, we will have more combined income and can enjoy life more.
I want to be able to talk about work things with her too.
I want a housewife.
When I come home tired after work...
there should be some tasty food waiting. That will motivate to work better.
Same, I want a housewife.
I will work and get the money. She should properly do the household.
If it definitely not conflicts with her household duties...
she can take on a part time job, something like that.
As long as it doesn't conflict with household duties,
she is allowed to have fun.
I want her to become a housewife, but I think we won't have enough money.
I want a house wife.
But if she wants to work she can do whatever she likes.
This depends on my income.
If she wants to work she should do that. If she wants to be housewife
she should do that.
And if she wants to work... that really depends on the circumstances.
I don't know now but a proper employed position would be best.
She can do what she likes.
If it isn't too tough for her, she can work and take care of the kids.
I don't want to force my image of of marriage onto her.
She should be what she likes.
I want a house wife.
However if she says she wants to work, then she can work.
But once she is 30-40 I want her to quit work and do the household.
Especially when we have kids. In Japan there are not many babysitters.
So she needs to be home as mother to watch the kids and the house.
Talking about kids, how long should she be in the house before working again?
I want her to watch the kids for a year.
Until they enter nursery.
So until they are 1 and a half years old.
After having kids, how long shall she wait before working?
What? About two to three years.
I think that's necessary.
I think kids have to be a certain age before going to nursery.
Find a place like the kindergarten or nursery if the kids are the right age.
And then she can work.
You said earlier you want her to protect the household...
Will you help with the household or...?
Of course I will help. It's hard work.
I want to become a mature enough person do to that.
I will work to earn money and also...
I will do the same amount of help for making food, the washing and such.
I think I will do some household things... and help a bit with raising the kids.
If I help a bit, our relationship will be better.
Will you help with the house duties? - House duties... uh yeah.
I like doing household things. I will help.
Wow, glad are we glad to hear that.
How about you?
I love kids. I want to help taking care of the kids.
So setting the case you have your wife. What will you do for her?
I want our relationship to be same way as now, in my student years.
Sometimes go on dates, don't always go without fights...
and study and work hard together.
I don't want things to change after marriage. I want thing to stay the way they are
I want to travel a lot. I want to take the kids to other places.
Would be nice if I could show them foreign countries too.
The more children we make, the harder it will be for my wife to take care of
so I hope I can support her a little bit there.
I am different from him, I don't know how to do household duties.
Instead I will work hard so we don't have to worry about money.
I will work 24 hours, without sleeping if necessary.
And the woman should be in the kitchen, making my food like "welcome home"
And I will be working 24 hours, with barely time to sleep.
And if there are kids, I will play with them.
I want 3 kids, boys and girls.
I have an older sister and 3 siblings all together.
I am really happy I have two older sisters.
That's why I think three kids are a good number.
I want two boys. With me, we are actually 4 brothers.
Wow.
- 4 brothers? All boys!
If I had a daughter I would give her too many rules and strict curfews.
- You will be a strict dad. - And she would hate me for it.
If I had a daughter, she would get to hate me. But on the other hand with boys
I would let them have all the freedom they want.
I don't want to get hated so I think I want boys.
- Two kids. - Girls boys?
Boy and girl. An older brother and a younger sister.
Let them become good siblings.
Three kids. The oldest one has to be a boy.
And he has to protect the others.
I want about 2 kids.
Girl? Boy?
I really want a daughter.
Two daughters or one girl and one boy? - Two daughters would be great.
Economically thinking, 2 kids is the limit. One girl and one boy.
First boy then girl. I always wanted to have an older sister.
That's why I want a daughter. And a boy will get along with the dad better too.
So I want a boy too.
I want two kids, one boy and girl.
I want two boys. If its two boys, they can get along fine together.
- and with their dad too.
Yeah I hope so.
I want two or three kids.
If its two kids then they should be boy boy or girl girl, same gender.
And if it's three, I want the oldest one to be of a different gender.
The older brother and two little sisters.
I think the different genders are good and it would be nice.
I want a son and a daughter.
My ideal would be an older sister and two twin boys.
That would be my ideal.
An older brother and a younger brother.
If there is an older brother, you can also get hand me downs.
The younger one can get the stuff the older has. That's quite convenient.
I might not need any kids.
In a marriage without kids, what do you want to enjoy the most?
Travelling, going places and such. Really treasuring the time together.
I want two kids. One girl and boy.
I want two kids too. I don't care about their gender.
Those were all our questions. Thank you.
Taradada.
Do Japanese men want their wife to work after marrying?
Most seem to stick with the traditional idea that a Japanese wife should stay at home
its better for her to keep the home save and to take care of the kids.
A couple of people said they will leave it to their wife so they were
a bit more 21st century I guess.
Many of them said once a wife has kids they want her to stay at home.
Some of them wanted her to stay at home for a very long time,
until she can job. In Japan, many women will stop working
if they marry, so that has been a thing apparently.
Then it's really hard to go back into work if you had a profession.
so many can only job after that. It's hard to get full time employment afterwards
It's not as easy, hopefully things will be changing
in a couple of years to make it easier for girls.
Another things is we asked how many kids they want.
They said generally two but mainly boys.
You can see that in society boys are more important or
you can see many of them prefer boys that might come from the idea that
The Chounan the first boy of the family inherits a business and similar things
but some of them said they would like to have a girl.
How about you? What do you think about this?
Looking forward to reading your comments, catch you soon on Ask Japanese!