- What's up, everybody.
Welcome to Personality General Hospital.
I'm Dr. F.J. from the clinic.
Today we're going to be looking at the question,
What if I feel like,
or if I'm testing as being like 50/50
when it comes to my personality.
Usually it's like 50% thinking, 50% feeling,
50% J,
50% P.
And it might not be an issue with the test,
it might be like you, yourself are like, I don't know.
I feel like I am equally thinking and feeling.
How am I supposed to know what personality type I am?
Which is my preference?
The reason that this happens
and the reason why it can be so difficult to see
what our own preferences are,
is because we all use everything.
We use thinking and feeling, we use intuition and sensing.
We're all a little introverted, a little extroverted.
We're a little judging, a little perceiving.
Think of it like this.
If you are right-handed,
that doesn't mean you don't have a left hand.
In fact, you use your left hand a lot
if you're right-handed.
It's just like certain tasks,
you're left-handed, not so well-suited.
I cannot write to save my life with my left hand.
However, in other tasks like playing guitar,
my left hand is better than my right hand for, you know,
playing the frets, or when it comes to typing on a keyboard
my two hands are equally skilled.
But when push comes to shove,
in a situation where I'm trying to do something
that requires dexterity,
I'm not going to trust my left hand,
at least without the help of the right hand.
It always comes down to this bad boy right here,
Johnny McGee.
That's my right hand's name. (Frank laughs)
Bobby McGee's brother.
And this is Chaz McGee.
It's the same thing with any of this personality stuff.
With intuition and sensing, you have to use both every day.
And there are many situations where you may use
your non-preferred function.
If you are an intuitive,
there may be situations where you have to use sensing.
You don't really have a choice
and you're good at using sensing in those situations.
But, but when it comes down to it,
the intuition is always going to be your fall back.
When the time when the times are tough,
when the chips are down, you're like, okay,
intuition, it's go time.
And What makes it especially-
(Frank laughs)
Especially.
That is so funny.
What makes it most especially difficult
to figure out your preferences
is that they are so obvious to you
that you're not thinking about it.
When you have to do something against your preferences,
you're very aware of it because it's like, oh crap,
I got to get this right, I got to use this now.
If you're a feeler and you're using feeling,
you don't think about it.
It's like, if you are right-handed
and you're writing something down,
you don't have to think about how to formulate the words.
But if you are using your left hand if you're right-handed
and trying to write something,
you've got to be like, okay, to make an A, I do this,
and then I do this, oh crap, I messed it up.
You see, you're very aware and concentrated on the one
that you don't prefer,
and the other one is just like, afterthought, who cares,
I'm doing this while I'm doing something else.
All right, so what should I do, Frank?
How do I know what I prefer
if you say it's so difficult to know?
Well, we got to start using some science
or whatever passes for science on this channel.
What you got to do is start tracking your emotions.
Now, already, just your response to me saying that
might give you some insight,
and especially if you're looking at thinking or feeling.
The thinkers out there probably like, oh, come on, man.
Feelers are like, oh, feeling, cool.
I can do that.
Because a lot of times, not all the time,
there's always exceptions to this.
So that's why you got to track it
and look at the trends over time.
A lot of the times, if you are using
your non-preferred way of making decisions
or seeing the world,
if you're a feeler and you're using thinking,
if you're an intuitive and you're using sensing,
you're going to get a little bit irritated.
You might get angry, awkward, embarrassed.
You might start pointing fingers at people around you
and being like, guys, I shouldn't have to do this.
Or, and this is really interesting,
a lot of times when we use our non-preferred functions,
we end up getting really proud afterwards
if it worked out okay.
Like if you're right-handed
and you're able to use your left hand
to like write a sentence, you're going to be like,
wow, look at me, I wrote that sentence with my left hand.
There's just a lot of energy and emotion
surrounding the times when we are going over
to that other side, that non-preferred side,
versus when we're in autopilot all the time,
doing what we prefer, doing what our personality type is.
So this is helpful.
So when you're getting like upset, irritated,
you feel embarrassed or awkward about something,
stop and think to yourself, what just happened,
what am I reacting to?
Let's take a short break.
And then in part two,
I'll go through the letter pairings
and I'll point out some things that you can look for
if you are 50/50 to be like, am I one, am I the other?
Stay tuned.
Welcome back to part two
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First of all, let's look at intuition versus sensing
just because I think that's probably the one
that people struggle with the least.
I think most people just assume they're intuitive
and move on.
If you are a sensing type,
you're going to find yourself becoming a bit anxious
when it comes time to make a guess about something.
If someone is like, what do you think is going on here?
And you find yourself more often than not just being like,
I don't know, I can't prove it,
I can't look to any details so I'm not going to guess.
But maybe find yourself in a situation
where you have to guess what's going to happen next,
why are these things happening?
And you start to like, get the beating of the heart.
You get, you get flustered,
you get like me right now.
I can barely talk.
That might be a sign that you prefer sensing.
Intuitives on the other hand
are going to get very stressed out when it's like, okay,
I'm in charge of the details right now
and I got to get them all correct.
I got to get all my ducks in a row, all the facts straight.
This is really important, pay attention.
Like, you know, me as a doctor.
(Frank laughs)
In real life, I would not make a good doctor
because I would always be freaked out
and double, triple checking, all these things about like,
am I going to accidentally kill this person?
Is there some detail that I am missing here?
Not to say intuitives can't be doctors,
but I'm just saying that is an example.
Another example would just be like,
you get stuff wrong factually,
you miss details all the time.
Pretty good sign that you might prefer intuition.
Okay, now let's take a step backwards
and look at introvert versus extrovert,
which is a little bit different, I'll be honest with you.
As I've said many times before,
the whole introvert extrovert dichotomy
with Myers Briggs 16 personalities
is not the most useful thing in the world.
Unless you pair it with the last letter of the type.
I'm talking about the temperaments.
If you haven't seen my video
about the four temperaments of the 16 personalities,
that is an eye-opening video, if I do say so myself.
Check it out in the card above my head.
Whoa.
Introvert versus extrovert can be tough.
If you are a 50/50 on that,
it's entirely possible that you are just like an ambivert.
Most people are ambiverts,
which is going to make this one, like just dicey all around.
But occasionally some people are like, I changed.
Like, I used to be an introvert and now I'm an extrovert.
So what I would say in that circumstance
is did you really change
in terms of introversion extroversion,
or did you just gain confidence?
Did you happen to just be shy before,
you had fears surrounding social interactions,
and now you've kind of worked through that, you're over it
and now you enjoy talking to people.
That's not really getting more extroverted.
That is just kind of developing your social skills.
Take fear out of the equation.
Because if you are saying, I avoid social situations
because I'm afraid of them,
because I'm afraid of people's judgment,
that is not really introversion.
That's being shy.
That could be social anxiety.
Not a doctor.
But Frank, you're in a doctor outfit.
How can I trust you?
You're clearly in a clinic.
But yeah, take the fear out of the equation
and ask yourself,
would I actually like to hang out with people,
do parties and things.
Would that theoretically be something I'd enjoy
If I wasn't afraid of people judging me
or afraid of embarrassing myself?
If you are an introvert, you still will be like,
that just is going to make me exhausted, let's avoid it.
If you're an extrovert, you're going to be like,
actually that seems like fun.
Now, we go to thinking versus feeling.
I got to say, this is probably one of the biggest things
I see people say is 50/50 when they test for this stuff.
This stuff being what I talk about on this channel
all the time.
When you get
those upset, and anxious, and irritable feelings,
can you attribute it to a decision that you had to make,
or maybe to a decision that someone else made,
but you were affected by it?
Because the thinking types
are going to be getting weird about it.
There's going to be a lot of energy around decisions
that they had to make,
or that they were a part of that were made
using feeling, using the emotion,
or just like using the value of things.
It's like, the decision didn't necessarily make sense,
but everyone thought it was good.
Like, it would be a cool idea
or maybe everyone just said we would like this to happen.
Or maybe it's you, yourself.
You feel weird because it's like, I made a decision
based purely on how I felt
and that I don't think that I can stand on that ground.
I'm not sure about it.
I feel weird and insecure about that.
Feelers on the other hand, you guessed it.
You're getting upset, and agitated, and whatever,
because you made a decision or were involved in a decision
where
a logical thing was chosen
rather than the thing that was emotionally appropriate
or socially valuable.
The feelers get very upset when it's like, you know,
this decision was made, all these people made this decision,
or I had to make this decision
just because that's what made sense.
(Frank laughs)
But you know what, it's going to make people upset
and I don't like that.
That ain't right.
Or it could also be like,
this is against like the group's values or my values.
Feeling types are like, no, the people's feelings
and my feelings, that is more important.
And you know, I don't care if the thing gets done,
'cause we got to feel good about it.
So start tracking your emotions around those decisions.
Then we come to the judging or perceiving
at the end of a type J versus P.
This is another one where I see all the time.
It's like 50/50, what am I?
This one in particular is a bit difficult
because you know, the general gist of it
is the J types, the judging types are organized.
They like to be planned out.
They like to have finality and things.
The P types like to always have new things.
They like to be spontaneous.
They like to keep their options open.
And that is generally true, but everyone kind of does both,
even here.
J types, for example, can sometimes be spontaneous
in certain ways.
A J type is not going to have every minute
of every day planned out.
However, over time, and with the stuff
that they perceive to be the most important,
the things that they are focused in on,
they will be very planned out,
very organized and controlling,
perhaps even to the point where they let other things
get out of control.
And you're kind of just trying to figure this out
on a spectrum.
Like, how do I compare to all the people around me?
Am I more organized than these people over here?
Am I less organized than these people?
You're going to fall somewhere in the middle
of the people you know, and you got to ask yourself,
am I preferring to be more organized or less organized?
What do I feel more comfortable with?
And the proceeding types
are not just like always spontaneous.
You know, I like to make the jokes about the ENFPs
who are making a, they're taking a trip overseas
and they don't plan it until the day before,
or they don't even plan it at all.
The proceeding types will occasionally do things like that,
but they will also plan things out to a degree,
but they'll do a lot less planning than the J types.
So you've got to look at it in relativity.
So you can also track the emotions here.
When you have to like stop and plan something out,
when you have to stop
and get the organization right for something,
does that make you feel weird
or does that just seem like obvious, yeah.
I got to do this, whatever.
If you stick to a routine
and you go back to the same old stuff over and over,
does that seem obvious to you?
Like yeah, of course, that's what I'm going to do.
I'm going to stick with the tried and true here.
Or does that seem like a drag,
something that's been forced on you in order to, you know,
just function in society.
When you try new things, when you are spontaneous,
when you're just going with the flow,
does that feel obvious to you or not?
Thanks so much for watching.
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