Hey, everyone.
In this video, coming up.
I'm Rebecca Zung.
You know, all of you, who follow me on a regular basis,
that I have a tremendous amount of compassion,
but I'm also pretty straight with you on a regular basis.
Yes, I have a huge heart but I also,
like to be pretty to the point, right?
I am a lawyer,
I do have a lot of heart, but I am a lawyer.
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All right,
so you want to know what you want to stop doing right now.
You ready? You ready to hear it?
I'm going to tell you and then
I want you to stay with me.
Don't leave, don't leave.
I'm going to tell you what it is,
but then you got to hear me out. All right?
Let me tell you why. Okay?
You got to stick with me here,
because you can't be in two places at once.
You can't be a victim and also a victor, right?
I know those two words, they just have like
two little letters that are different,
but they are totally different destinations,
they are totally different places,
you go totally different directions, and
I know because I've been there,
I've been exactly where you are,
I've been like, ‘‘Oh my God, why is this happening to me?’’
Why did they keep, these narcissists,
they're like the whack-a-mole
for any of you who's ever been to the fair and
you've tried like that whack-a-mole thing,
you're like with the mallet and like the mole
they just keep popping their head back up and
you think you got it down and
there they are again,
like, you can't get rid of this freaking thing, there they are.
I know you guys think the court system is rigged,
that they always get their way,
How are they getting away with this?
How come everybody always believes them?
Everyone's always on their side. They're super charming.
First of all, please just let that go right now.
There's a huge difference between divorce law and
divorce justice, and I have a whole lot more on that,
by the way, in my video called ‘‘This is true justice’’,
which you can definitely check out when you have some time,
go check that out after this video.
But if you keep sitting there saying,
like the narcissists always get their way,
always get away, and I should, first of all,
one of my best friends, she always says like
‘‘Do you want to be right about that?
Or do you want to change it?’’
Because if you keep saying that, and saying that and saying that,
How is that helping you?
How is that changing anything?
By the way, you're placing orders to the universe and so,
therefore you're going to keep getting more of
what you're getting if you keep saying that and
something else I do want to mention to you,
when you say, ‘‘How are they getting away with this?
How are they getting away with this?
How are they getting away with this?’’
If you have a court case that's going on, and
as the lawyer, I have to remind my clients this a lot of the times,
is there are no fairies that jump out in your living room,
that go ‘‘Oh, hey, you're not supposed to be doing that,
What are you doing?’’
Like, how they're getting away with it, is because
they just do until somebody comes along and stops them and
the only person that has any power to stop people
from doing things is, think about it.
Who would that be? The judge.
The judge is the only person that has any power
to order somebody to do something.
So, in order to get the judges’ attention,
somebody has to file something in the court system.
Once it gets filed,
the judge can't just order stuff most of the time,
I mean, very few times can the judges like enter an order
without any evidence, without a hearing,
there has to be notice and opportunity to be heard,
like, we have the constitution, things like that,
people have rights.
So, you have to have a hearing and
the judges have to take evidence,
they have to listen, they have to have testimony,
the whole thing; so you have to set it for hearing,
There's like a procedure in this country.
That's how it works. So, how are they getting away with it?
Will they get away with it?
Because of the way our court system is built.
So a lot of times, they get away with it because
we have this system that is the way that it is sometimes.
So, it seems like they're getting away with it sometimes
because the wheels of justice are long and
it's a bit of a long game sometimes and
that's why you do have to create strategy and
you do have to create leverage and
you do have to build your negotiation,
the way you have to build it and all of that.
But, the one thing I want you to stop doing right now is
I'm going to use a word right now,
that is a little bit of a bad word, and so
for those of you who don't like that language,
cover your ears, but there's a term that I like
Start manifesting instead saying,
‘‘I can win, I can get what I want’’.
You can say that just as easily as saying ‘‘I can't win’’.
Have you noticed like they both come
out of your mouth the same way?
I can win. I can't win.
They both come out of your mouth just as easily.
So, what I want you to do right now is
Start manifesting for yourself,
I've had tons of people,
get the results they want, get the outcomes they want,
get the settlement they want, the custody that they want,
whatever it is,
get away from business partners,
to manifest their businesses,
they wanted the careers,
whatever it is that they wanted to negotiate
because you have to first decide,
has to first come from you and your mindset.
So, stop giving away your power, stop doing that.
All you have to do is at least start with a
major shift in your own thinking,
because I'm telling you, right now
that you cannot sit there and say,
‘‘I'm never going to win,
They're always going to get their way,
I always lose, the court system is skewed,
my lawyer sucks, I never get my way’’ and
then have the opposite of that happen to you.
That is not going to happen, that I know for sure, right?
So the only way that you have a chance of winning and
the chance of getting the outcome that you want, is
So just start with that.
Start with the premise that you can, because
I know that you can manifest for yourself,
Manifest!!!! Manifest!!!!
All right, so ‘‘I can win’’ start with doing
what you need to do to win, to get what you want.
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I am so glad you're here.
I'm Rebecca Zung.
I will definitely see you in the next video!