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let me ask you a question if you were a
superhero what model superpower would
you have well cool self-awareness is
super power and it has the ability to
change our lives but you know sometimes
you forget things that we did through my
dad over and over again in 1992 my life
fell flat
when I say flat I think that are waiting
to deep deep question I haven't broken
relationship that I'm David is kind out
I love to kinetic question for one
always ten years and you know it out two
years later incidentally my mom passed
on cuz she had times I shall be busting
it times it for two years and you don't
need it so scared to tell you but at
this point my life will be piped into
depression anyway let's not talk too
much about what depression fear but
let's go announce fast forward to
nineteen ninety five hours three my
eight surveys and then the depression
skill return you know I was so bad I
became like a thick fog over my life and
everything I did which really came from
this time points on depression and
hopelessness you know a sense of what
business of rejection I'm that I'm money
to get a job that paid me about $2,500
I'm sure some of y'all won't be hoping
anybody about that no I know if ya later
I ended salary of about $3,500 and then
I became a voice like a church I think
because I thought well that would solve
all the problems but it present
continuing I lived a life of depression
it was more like a companion it was my
daily companion more or less and then
fast forward to 2016 September and here
I was leading a group a team or for my
hundred people in a multinational
corporation in the armed group of Scobie
I was actually they had reporting to the
Board of Directors having a Facebook
group it over 12,000 members from
about 58 countries around the world
speaking on reputable platforms and
everybody who knew me then is suddenly
wondering hey Nancy what's going on you
have changed the big question now is
what has changed since then what was it
that I was able to do that got me to
where I am today
self-awareness that is the super power
is able to change your life you'll be
able to activate it self-awareness means
that you need to take responsibility for
your life you get to that point where
you get tired of blaming people and
talking about everything that is not
working and how everybody has done this
and that to you and how the country's
just unfair and so I'm gonna take us
through a bit of what actually you need
to do as a person to get to that place
the first thing to do is to take
responsibility for your life you start
blaming everybody how you look
internally so actually find out what
exactly this is about and what you can
do to move your life forward I notice
that you need to find out what your
temperament is everybody was born with a
temperament and no one is an exception
I'm melancholic for example and that
means that my life has his own weakness
but basically by being a melancholic my
life has its weaknesses and has certain
strengths and so I came to the strengths
and then I start to work on the
weaknesses another thing you need to do
is to have a SWOT analysis of your life
you need to find out what your strengths
are where your weaknesses are what
opportunities are available on what
trades are you know some of us are
actually very used to doing the SWOT
analysis for organizations but if Fox is
on to you do a personal analysis of your
life a SWOT analysis you really may not
be able to discover yourself so that's
one of the tools you need to have and
then you need to stop feeling bad about
what everybody's done and stop taking
things personally because it truth is
everybody acts at the level of the
understand
and even your mere existence is getting
on someone's else's nerves by virtue of
the decisions that you take daily
because they too are viewing you from
their standpoint of who they are so
December you're looking at them and
saying you know you did this to me
I can't even forgive it I can't move on
they are seeing the same thing about you
so you stop taking things personally I'd
like to invest in your personal
development consciously by buying books
and reading them investing in courses
the relevant courses and seminars and
workshops I'll get you to a place of
discovering you and bridging the gaps
that you have discovered in your
weaknesses now it's so common to see
people pile of books I don't know how
many of you do that but it was it some I
used to have a stack of books and I felt
really proud to own books you know I can
be a fight to own books by is another
thing to read them and reading them is
one thing because sometimes you can read
to preach at people right and sometimes
you can read just so that you can have
good arguments have the upper hand in
arguments I win that place sometimes am
i hitting it there okay and then
somebody thing is until you start
practicing what you have lands in those
books the knowledge is not yours because
you've got to come to a points where you
actually practice and on it and begin to
apply it in your daily life and then you
also need to invest in a coach or a
mentor a mentor would normally see
beyond you because they've been on that
journey I think in my career my Mike my
career took a different path when I got
a mentor even there wasn't a paid
mentorship my boss recognized the
potential in me I was able to say hey
Nancy there's an international training
I think you need to attend and that was
really at the beginning of what one of
the things that helped my personal
development journey and then a coach you
have to unlock the potentials in you by
asking you the right questions I'd help
you you know bring out that part of you
that needs to really be showcased
the world and you begin to do amazing
things like that you never thought you
could do in 2017 I took a coaching
coaching program and I remember the end
of it when we were making up we had to
do a few presentations and then the
coach looked at me and said he said
Nancy you have an amazing voice and I
want to hear this voice on the world
stage one of the things that's part of
my speaking engagement was the statement
that coach made and Here I am today
speaking at a TEDx event so you need a
coach everyone needs a mentor and
everyone needs a coach and then you need
to have a growth mindset a growth
mindset to help you to take take hold of
opportunities it will also help you to
stop you know always thinking that you
could you need to you have scared to
take to take hold and opportunities you
need to have a yes mentality you need to
have that kind of mentality that says oh
well yes I can and I can try it and then
you need to also go back to your
background you know we all have our
parents and guardians who raised us in
the best way that they could and in the
process they passed on things to us that
may not necessarily serve us anymore
this may be a bit hard to discuss in a
climb but some of the things that our
parents told us were born out of fear
for example I was told as a woman my mom
taught it was the best thing to say to a
lady hey you've just you've got to be
quiet just stay in a corner let the men
do the talking but you know that that
doesn't serve me anymore because when I
had to start taking on leadership roles
I knew that I had to find my voice and I
had to speak out and sometimes I'll hear
her voice in the background telling me
no we went don't talk Nancy you have to
stay in a corner so I had to revisit
that part of my upbringing to say yes
she meant good for me maybe she meant I
shouldn't be found in the wrong places
or speaking the wrong places but I need
to speak when it's necessary and I need
to find my voice another thing I was
told was that you know I just needed to
to
I'll give you know I just you know of
myself I'd not even know the boundaries
outsourcer learned that sometimes you
need to draw boundaries so one thing I
urge you to do is to find out the
upbringing that you had and then take
the positives from what your parents
weight trying to instill in you while
you were growing up and then leave the
negatives one of the positives I've
taken with me is never cheat always
display of honorable integrity wherever
you work and in every organization of
what's one of the key things I've always
said about me when I'm leaving we learnt
integrity from you I'm II didn't know
that that was possibly in a leader in
our claims okay so if self awareness has
actually done this in my life I think
that it can do a whole lot more if you
can activate your superpower of
self-awareness