So important is because if you don't practice self-awareness then you're not aware any daylight
Thank you now. The new you and you're trying to be very aware of your thoughts guys welcome back
Thanks for joining me this week so in this week's video
I wanted to talk about something that has been coming up a lot lately, and I'm getting a lot of questions on it
And it's self confidence. You know how do I have more self confidence? How do I have?
More self esteem. How do I start practicing self-love? What is self-love all of these types of questions and?
this video is really about how to change our negative thoughts into positive ones and
And the reason why I'm making this video and creating this title you know how to change your negative thoughts into positive ones is
Because every question that I get in terms of yourself
Self-confidence self-esteem self-love starts with self and starts with the things that you're saying to yourself
So if you don't have self-confidence it could be because of what you're telling yourself if you don't have
Self-love, and you're not practicing it or self-esteem or self-worth or self value
It's because the stories that you're telling yourself day in and day out, so it's really
important to
Hone in on. What are the things that you saying to yourself on a day-to-day basis, and how do we begin to?
Change any kind of negative story that we have going on into a positive story
And how do we believe that story so the first thing towards?
changing our negative thoughts into positive ones is you have to practice self-awareness and
Practicing self-awareness is not something that can be easy right off the bat
Especially if you've always kind of lived on autopilot
And you've never really you know taken responsibility for your life, and your happiness
And you know maybe you have this awakening moment where you're ready to say you know what I?
Don't have the life
I want and I'm ready to change things whether I've gone through a divorce or heartbreak or have dealt with narcissistic abuse or whatever the
Situation is it could be a ton of things
But the reality is whatever you're looking for more self-confidence self-esteem a better life a better job
Whatever it starts with you
and you have to take the responsibility to say I'm going to make this change happen because it's my
Responsibility to create the life that I want not anyone elses so the reason why self-awareness is so important is because if you don't practice
self-awareness then you're not aware of the thoughts that you're thinking and when you really begin to
Start practicing this and make it a part of your day-to-day life
This is now the new you and you're trying to be very aware of your thoughts
You know we're not gonna always be aware in every single moment in time of course you would be
Highly enlightened and good for you if you are
but most of us normal humans are not that enlightened and so we have to practice this and
When we're able to start practicing self-awareness is when we say when we're aware of what we're thinking when we're aware of a situation
And when you're aware something you can decide how you want to react to it
What story you want to believe that you're telling yourself?
So one of the tools that I always give my clients is
Put a reminder on your phone a couple times a day and the reminder just says check-in and when the reminder comes up check in
With how you feel, you know how are you feeling are you feeling sad you feeling happy hopeful. What is the feeling that you're?
experiencing and
something that is
So it was such an eye-opener for me
And it really started to change my entire life
and it started to create less pain and suffering was when I realized that I am NOT my
Feelings I am NOT my thoughts I am
The observer of my thoughts and I know Lisa Ramona says this she's a great life coach definitely go check her out
I believe it's Gary singer I think
He talks about this a lot on
Super soul Sunday with Oprah, and I mean this has been talked about for years and years
This is not like a new phenomenon, but it's the aspect that you are not your thoughts so your thoughts are in your mind
They're coming from your ego. They're coming from a lot of places, but you
Your essence your soul yourself is not your thoughts you have to be able to observe your thoughts
- then decipher which thoughts you want to believe and if a thought is coming up that is a negative thought or a
Self-limiting thought or just a thought that doesn't help a situation number one you have to know that that thought is not
You and it's not
actually true so in that moment of
Hearing that negative thought and knowing that it's not true
You know sometimes the thought is really convinced about. It's your ego
It is coming at you like a bully. You know the toughest bully
you've ever seen at times and you have to be able to fight the bully you have to be able to say I
Know I'm not believing that thought that thought is actually not true and the more you
Don't attach to the thought the more
You don't get wrapped up in that bully talk the more it actually just passes through you and you can replace it with something
That's positive and and
Uplifting and the truth we all have to parts of ourselves. We all have our ego part our false self
That's always giving us that negative stuff right it's always judging and it's always it's always bullying us
It's always giving us that negative self-talk and then we have the other part of ourselves
Which is our soul our essence, which is connected to you know God the universe?
Source or whatever it is that you want to call it which is?
unconditional love so when those
limiting thoughts are coming up of
you know why would I go up to that person and talk to them like they're not gonna like me like I'm this this and
This and all that negative stuff starts coming into play if you don't know how to shut that up right away
You're gonna get involved in that conversation
And then you're gonna believe everything that that false self or ego is telling you and that is the trick the hardest part is
Nipping it in the bud when it happens
You're never going to be able to fully shut that ego up you're never gonna be able to shut off that false self
It's a part of you. It's it's it's in us. It is what it is, and it's never going to shut up
Even you know the most enlightened people at times still have self-doubt they still have points where they don't feel
confident in their in themselves
But the difference between those people that are happy and successful is not that that voice and comes up. It's that
They know how to shut it up right away and replace it with the truth
And that's the hardest part and that takes practice
And that's why beginning to just have self awareness on when those thoughts are coming up is
When you're going to be able to nip it in the butt right away
Because when you don't have self awareness
And you're just letting your thoughts kind of take over on a day to day basis. You're getting wrapped up in every story
that's going across your mind, and we have
Like thousands upon thousands Ott's that we're thinking you know in a minute
essentially so being able to
Practice what am I thinking? What am I thinking is it something?
That's serving me
And if it's not replacing them with something that will and being able to nip that bully in the butt right away
Will allow you to start having more self confidence in yourself
It'll allow you to be able to change those negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones and the more you do this
It's like any muscle the more you do this the easier it gets so in the beginning. It's gonna be it's gonna be tough
It's not an easy thing to do you're essentially training your mind
You're training a muscle that you've never used before and when you start practicing
Self awareness is when you say okay
I'm going to pick and choose the thoughts that I want to think the other thing that I always recommend
People to do that are looking to have more self-confidence
And this helps with changing your negative thoughts and turning them into positive ones is
start listening to
positive affirmations and start doing meditations now
and this is
you know even Tony Robbins says this if you don't have 10 or 15 minutes a day to give yourself to do a
meditation or listen to a positive affirmation
Then I mean that's just like
Absolutely pathetic everyone has that it's just a matter of this is another example of self-love
This is another example of you giving yourself that 15 minutes, or if you can 20 great
To give yourself good stuff right you need to always be feeding your mind with stuff
That's going to serve you so if you've always gone on autopilot
And you've never practiced self-awareness and now you're ready to take responsibility for your life
Need to feed your mind with stuff
That's going to replace all the negative stuff that you've always had in your mind, and the only way to do that
I mean there's multiple ways to do it, but one of the ways that for me worked great
And I know almost every single you know coach or guru or anything does it is
meditations and affirmations and
What I always tell clients to do is before you going to bed put a headset in as you're falling asleep your
Subconscious is wide open. This is why?
It's so important to never go to sleep listening to the news never go to sleep
Listening to something that's negative and toxic so as you're falling asleep and your subconscious mind begins to open up
This is when you need to be feeding it with like good stuff
And it's the same thing first thing in the morning your your mind is not fully conscious
Yet, right
We're still kind of in that like days sleep phase, and we're kind of waking up and getting out of it
And that's when you should be feeding your mind as well so putting a headset in as you're going to sleep
Listen to positive self love positive affirmations
I mean there's a ton of free information on youtube and you can find the people I know for me
I only like listening to a group of people a group of people that do meditations and affirmations their voice for me
Just like soothes me
But you can find anyone that you kind of vibe with and listen to as you're going to bed and those
Affirmations that you're listening to whether or not you're aware of it are getting into your mind, and and it's basically
Replacing all that old stuff and put it and we're putting in new stuff
That's the goal of doing this and same thing when you wake up
You know if you wake up, and you don't really want to go to the gym
And you don't want to workout, and you know you don't want to go to work today
Or you just don't want to deal with life in general
listening to an affirmation and doing a meditation is
huge it's
absolutely huge
And the more you do it the more you'll almost get addicted to it because you'll realize that it makes you feel
Ten times better when you do do it then if you hadn't done it
So I hope that this has helped you understand that you know changing your negative self-talk
It's something that it just takes practice. It's not something that you're going to master
It's something that will get easier over time the more you do it because like I said
It's a muscle that you're starting to work and the more you work in the easier it gets to
Have to practice and have in your life
But be really patient with yourself throughout this process and just know that all of these tools
You know there's no destination to life
You know life is a journey and we're all learning and evolving and growing and expanding
And this is just another tool for you to use to put away
That way you can start to change those old thoughts and turn them into positive
Uplifting ones that allow you to have the self-confidence that you desire so again
I hope that this has helped everyone. Don't forget to leave any comments below
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