What is up everyone, welcome back to my channel.
Now last week I posted a video about the three types of friends that you need to let go of
in order to live your best life in 2019, and find massive success.
However, what I left out was exactly how to attract the right people into your life, in
other words mentors.
Now in today's video you're in luck, because I'm actually gonna share the step by step
process on how I've been able to attract high quality mentors into my life that have significantly
improved my career, my business, and my overall life success.
So if you're interested in that then keep on watching.
Now to kick off the video I'm gonna actually share something that I learned from Tim Fares
on the topic of mentorship, and that is instead of saying things like how can I find a mentor
and freaking out about that, start actually being more concerned about how you can be
the best apprentice.
That's why I decided to create this video because there are so many people out there
that are approaching mentorship in the completely wrong way.
As my viewer I wanna be able to teach you strategies that are gonna set you apart from
these people and actually help you land these mentors so that you can optimize your life
and your success as well.
Also, before I go make sure that you keep watching until the end of the video because
I'm actually going to share with you a free resource that I created that is absolutely
bulletproof and is going to guarantee your success when approaching mentors.
Now I'm gonna share the resource until the end of the video, so definitely, definitely
keep watching.
Now the first piece of advice that I have for you is that like attracts like.
That means if you want top performing mentors to be attracted to you then you need to be
a top performer yourself.
Now what I noticed a lot of people doing is that instead of actually putting in real work
and working on themselves they spend the majority of their time looking for mentors, rather
than mastering their own performance.
I really hate to break it you, but there's no good mentor out there that's going to waste
their time coaching someone for free if they are not an action taker and if they haven't
even attempted to reach success themselves.
Trust me, when you can demonstrate that you are a top performer then you're going to naturally
attract high performing mentors that are interested in you and that want to also invest in you.
So ask yourself, if you were Jay Z, if you were the richest rapper in the world would
you waste your precious time and energy on someone who has not even attempted at a music
career?
Probably not.
On the flip side if you were Jay Z would you invest in someone who has actually hired a
music coach, who has actually performed at local clubs, who has actually tried their
best to make their career work.
Absolutely.
That person has a higher chance of getting mentorship by Jay Z than the person who has
not even tried at all.
This same principle applies to any mentorship that we're talking about, especially a mentorship
that comes for free.
Now of course there are paid mentors and these mentors are so amazing, because they help
you full time, and because you're compensating them for their time.
Now if you're looking for free mentors it's completely different.
You need to show that you are worth their time and their energy to volunteer themselves
to help you.
How exactly are you going to do that?
It's by being a top performer yourself.
So the key takeaway of this first tip is that successful people attract successful people.
When you show that you are persistent, that you are hungry, that you are an action taker
you are naturally going to attract mentors into your life, because they see potential
in you.
If you sit there on the sidelines and you spend all your time Googling people, like
adding them on LinkedIn, literally asking anyone you see on a coffee chat that is actually
such a wrong signal to send to high quality mentors.
You need to put your blinders on and actually put in the work, so that you can prove yourself
to the people who are worth mentoring you.
People who are actually going to move the needle for you.
The second piece of advice that I have for you is to put yourself in the right environment.
People can't mentor if they cannot find you, that means if you want to attract mentors
into your life then you need to make sure that you are at the right places.
So actually take some time to think about where your ideal mentors hang out.
Whether that's a business conference, whether that's a private Facebook group, whether that's
a certain forum on Reddit or on a different website.
Think about where these mentors are hanging out so you can put yourself in those environments
to attract them.
Regardless, whichever location it is, the key point here is that you need to actually
step outside your comfort zone and be with the big players.
For example, when you pay for a 600 dollar conference, you're not just paying for the
knowledge that you get or the presentations that happen.
You're also paying for access to high quality people because you decided to invest in a
600 dollar ticket instead of investing in a free conference.
By investing in those high level place you're gonna naturally surround yourself with high
level people who are also playing big.
Whenever you are thinking about going to an event, think about which event is actually
going to have the highest potential people for you to have potential mentorship relationship
with, and use those event opportunities to network and to also put yourself out there
as a high performer yourself.
Now speaking of investments, I do also wanna add that the same concept applies to if you
want to hire a mentor.
Honestly, the best advice doesn't always come free and for me the best and smartest decision
that I ever made was hiring my business mentor.
In less than four months I was already able to make money off of my business, and I would
not have been able to do that had I not had a mentor with me full time, helping me with
all the strategies and helping me overcome the fear of running a business.
Regardless of whether you choose to have a paid mentor or you try to find a mentor that's
going to invest in you for free, the bottom line is that no one's going to invest in you
if you're not willing to invest in yourself.
The third piece of advice that I have for you is to always exchange value, because when
you exchange value with someone, especially a potential mentor, it shows that you aren't
taking their time for granted and that you are showing deep appreciation for them even
spending time with you.
For example, when you are going on a coffee chat always offer something in exchange for
that person's time.
Let's say the potential mentor that you're at a coffee chat with has a blog or likes
to write articles on LinkedIn.
Why don't you say something like hey you know what?
Thank you so much for your time, I definitely don't take it for granted.
I'm actually really good at copywriting and I would be more than happy to review one of
your articles or even be a ghostwriter for one of your posts, that's the least that I
can do to thank you for all the advice that you've given me on this coffee chat.
Now don't you think that, that approach is so much more sincere and effective versus
the person that is saying hey thank you so much for meeting at this coffee chat, we should
keep in touch.
This person is not going to build rapport with the person that they're on a coffee chat
with.
The first person that actually offered something in exchange for that person's time is definitely
going to be way more memorable than the person who doesn't offer anything at all and just
takes their free advice and runs with it.
When you show appreciation and back it up with an actual offer to someone, that shows
so much of your character.
So remember reciprocate value, because I guarantee you're not only going to earn your potential
mentor's respect, but you're also gonna be able to form longer term relationships with
the people that you exchange value with.
The fourth advice that I have for you is to be teachable and show your results right away.
In other words, what I mean by that is if your mentor is giving you advice during a
coffee chat or a phone call or an email, implement their advice as soon as possible and then
get back to them on the results that happened by implementing their advice.
Don't be that person who makes your potential mentor feel like they just wasted an hour
of their time giving you free coaching.
There is a massive benefit of doing this, because not only are you showing your potential
mentor key characteristics.
Such as: being a great listener, being a top performer, and being an implementer.
By sharing your results you're gonna be able to keep in touch with them even more.
That's gonna help you convert that potential mentor to be an actual mentor in the future,
because remember one of the easiest ways to kill rapport with someone is when you waste
their time and when you fall out of touch with them.
So definitely find ways to keep in touch with your mentor and show them that you have the
characteristics of someone that they wanna invest in.
Now onto my last and final, fifth tip.
That is to pay attention to who your ideal mentor mentors.
Now that's not meant to be a tongue twister, let me explain the concept.
Now many of us we look up to people like Tony Robbins, Gary V, Mel Robbins, Jay Sheddy,
Sam Oven, Dan Locke, all these key players in the business world.
The truth is, is that majority of these people are totally not attainable especially at our
level.
These people are world class performers and if you are still in the bottom part of the
success ladder then it's gonna be very hard for you to access these mentors one on one.
But I do have to tell you that there is a little hack for that.
Take me for example.
My mentor's name is Erin Henry, I'll link her channel right here, I've mentioned her
before on my channel.
Her mentor is James Wedmore, now at this stage I definitely can't afford James Wedmore's
mentorship.
He is one of the bigger online marketers in this space, but because I work Erin I get
a byproduct of all the things James Wedmore is teaching her.
Similarly, if you worked with me you're most likely also going to get some byproduct of
the things that Erin has taught me.
This concept applies to any industry that you're looking at.
If you wanna be the best chef in the world then work with someone whose worked with Anthony
Bourdain.
If you wanna be the best singer in the world then work with someone who has worked with
someone who has worked with someone, who has worked with someone, who has worked with Beyonce.
I hope you get the point and I really hope that this tip is going to widen the mentorship
pool for you, because good quality information is everywhere, you just have to open your
eyes and look for it.
So remember whether it's paid mentorship that you're looking for, meaning that you're hiring
someone to help you or it's someone that's helping you for free, regardless whichever
one you choose you need to first invest in yourself so that other people can invest in
you.
For me to help you to do that I'm actually going to share with you a free resource that
includes all of my bulletproof tips that I use myself that has helped me get a 100% acceptance
rate every time I ask someone out for a coffee.
I really think that this resource is going to help a lot of people do coffee chats the
right way and put your best foot forward when you are seeking potential mentors.
So, I'm going to link that resource in the description box below and in the comment section
so that you can get it.
With that being said let's recap what we learned today.
The first is be a performer yourself or at least work towards being a performer.
The second is to put yourself in the right environment.
The third is to always offer something in exchange for that person's time.
The fourth is to implement someone's advice right away and share your results with that
potential mentor.
And number five, always pay attention to who your ideal mentor mentors and so on and so
forth.
If that person that you want to do mentorship with is currently unattainable.
Now I really hope that this video helped, also let me know if my resource helps you
at all with landing those successful coffee chats.
Other than that I'll see you next time, bye guys.