So, what's important to you, your morning coffee, making time to walk your dog or getting that
assignment to your boss on time? Or is it important for you to spend time with your
family? Maybe the most important thing to you would be the assignment that you need
to take on time to your boss. Okay now another question, what's valuable to you? Maybe to
that you will answer that, spending time with your family is valuable to you. So certain
things are important to us but certain things are valuable. If yes, then healthy relationships
are a core value for you. People who like to spend time with their family value healthy
relationships. So core values are the principles by which you live your life. They decide what
comes first for you from a list of things, because they are what matter the most to you
when it comes to a lot of other things in your personal and professional life. So these
are core values and your values are that little voice in your head that often talks to you
and tells you what's important for you and what matters to you. What is it that you care
about? So your values are the things that you believe are extremely valuable to you
so these are core values and morals about which we are going to talk today. These values
define who we are while helping us find our purpose. So if you want to find your purpose
in life then you must know what your values are. Some good examples of core values are
a person who is reliable, a person who is dependable, someone who is respectful, loyal,
committed, or caring which one of these are you? Can you relate to any of these qualities?
Well if you can relate to any of these then that is your core value and as an adult people
around the world are tending to lose the core values and that's why it's hard for us to
decide what's important for us and we end up living a very non satisfactory and unhappy
life because we don't know what's valuable to us. So join me in this session where today
I'm going to talk about core values and morals to you. ‘What's valuable for you’, that's
the topic for the day. You're watching me on Skillopedia the place to learn skills for
the real world and today we are developing core values.
So in this session today I'm going to ask you five major questions. Let's start with
the first question. So my first question is do you think core values affect our decisions?
Well let's try to answer this, let me give you an example, remember that thing that you
bought once which you really didn't need at that time, but you just felt like you want
it maybe a dress or maybe a phone but you didn't need it but you still got it and you
decided to spend money on it. You made that decision to spend money not so wisely because
you were spending money on something that was not valuable to you. So what do you think
how did you feel after that? Think about it, now it is the end of the month and the bills
are due you need to pay all your bills maybe now would be the time where you would like
to have that money back, so that you're not so stressed out. But that decision of yours
caused you so much stress because you spent money at the wrong place and at the wrong
time. That happens when you live a life that is not based on your core values. We tend
to make wrong choices and those choices affect us later in our life. But if we keep our core
values in place which means if we make them important for us. In this example if we value
money and we would not have brought that thing that we so wanted but did not need it we wouldn't
have to suffer later. So it's true that core values affect our everyday decisions. We should
keep valuable things first and not our wants.
So now let me ask you the next question, do you think core values make life easier? Well
let's try to answer this one as well. So in this situation if you want people around you
to be loyal to you and due to some reason you end up becoming disloyal to someone else.
Maybe you're lying to someone or cheating on someone then what you are doing is you're
actually hurting your own conscience, which means that you will not be able to be at peace.
So if you don't live according to your own values and principles you will not be able
to live at peace with yourself. In short you will lose your peace and life will become
very hard for you. Now let's say that, you really value honesty, okay? And every time
you're tempted to lie, which means in a situation you feel that okay if I lie maybe I'll get
out of the situation. But just because you value honesty you choose to be honest. Maybe
this might hurt you but this will give you a peace of heart and a confidence about yourself
and it will also give you a clear conscience. So if your choices do not agree with your
values you will find yourself to be extremely unhappy and not so satisfied and you won't
even know why is that happening with you. So the answer to the second question is, yes
core values do make life easier because they allow us to be more happy and satisfied.
Now let's look at the third question for this session, how do we find out what are our personal
core values? All of us have different important values in our life and they are very important
to us. As I've told you in the previous two points so here are two ways to find out what
is your personal core value which you should stick to in your life to be more happy. So
start with something that you already know. Let's talk about your morals. If you know
what your morals are you will also know what your core values are because they are both
practically the same thing. Think about it, if it is morally important to you to arrive
at your workplace and focus on nothing else but on work during your office hours. It will
also be true that you carry the reputation of an honest and committed employee. So this
is what you carry from core values every job that you go to they will know that you're
an efficient employee because you're on time and during your office hours you always focus
on work. Or maybe let's say you're the kind of person who likes to put their phone away
when on a date. This probably means that you are a morally loyal person and you want to
make sure that your partner knows that you value the time that you spend with them. So
this shows that as a core value you put your relationships first and you also work hard
to be a dedicated employee and to show people that you care. So here you are you have already
found out what your core value is. So that's why you could say that respect and commitment
are your personal core values and once you know that they are I'm sure you'll stick to that.
So my fourth question to you for the day is, what should you do with your core values now
that you know that honesty and commitment is your core value, what should you do with
them? So the first thing is you should prioritize your values which means that just sit down
and make a list of all the values that you can think of and think about all of them.
So don't set a limit of how many values you need to write, you can just write as many
values as you can think of. But now allow yourself to decide which value is more important
to you. This will help you have a clearer direction in life. In all your decisions make
sure to apply those values and this is the key to a satisfactory life and a clear conscience.
So this is what you're supposed to do with your core values you need to prioritize them
which means you need to put them on top of your list this way you will know that you
need to maintain honesty or maybe commitment in all your decisions if they are at the top
of your list.
Now my final question is, should we be afraid of changing our core values in the future?
Of course we are all human beings and our priorities and choices change. So let's say
you were single when you made this list so that time work was on top okay, dedication
was on top of your list but then you got married and then spending time with your family got
on top of the list. So in such a case you could simply rework your list which means
that you are allowing yourself to change your values over time depending on your situation.
So this way do not be afraid of changing your values if the situations require you to.
So my dear friends here we are at the end of the session and I hope this was fruitful
for you. You must remember that your values should help you in creating the best life
and satisfactory happy life. You make the rules so be patient with yourself and dedicate
your time to discover the real values of your life and you will be amazed at the things
you can accomplish with them you will have a better purpose and a clear direction for
your life if you have your core values in place. So all the best in all areas of your
life I hope you use these core value tips to decide what your personal values are. Thank
you for watching this session with me I'll see you guys very soon with another session
on Skillopedia. See you very soon take care of yourself, bye.