Do you want revenge on a guy who hurt you? Do you want to get him back?
I had a client come to me recently wanting exactly that.
She was feeling angry and ashamed. I'm going to show you in this video
how I helped her get revenge, how she implemented, and how it made
the guy deeply regret losing her.
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Okay, so before I show you how the client got revenge and how she did
this so powerfully, a little bit of a backstory as to why she was so angry.
She had been seeing a man for seven months and they'd been getting pretty
serious. In fact, in the last few months they were seeing each other three days
per week. So quite a bit.
She found out that in those last three months where she'd been seeing him
three days a week, he was also seeing another woman three days per week.
She was angry. She was really angry as you would be, as I'm sure you can
imagine, you would be as I'd be if someone did that to me.
So she came to me five months after this all occurred saying,
"I'm still so angry. I still want revenge. But I'm also really ashamed, Mark,
because I'm an empath. I'm not this kind of person. I'm a nice person.
I don't want to revenge on people like this isn't me. What's going on here?"
So before I get into what she did to get revenge, I had to tell us
something that if you're feeling a lot of shame around, this is very
important. Revenge is normal. What happens if you stand on an ant's nest?
The ants come up your leg and bite you. What happens if you punch a bear?
Bear tries to bite you. What happens if you come home and you find
someone's hurting your dog or someone you know, right?
You are happy to get some revenge on that person in that moment.
Revenge is a normal emotion. Now, years ago I might've said,
"Oh, it's a terrible thing to want revenge," but it's right throughout nature.
It's in me. It's in you. There's nothing to be ashamed of in the want for
revenge. It's very normal and very natural. When it comes to revenge
though, you've got to think about what is truly the best way to get revenge
on someone. You see our instincts, just like the bear biting us back our
instincts are to bite someone back. Let's go key his car. Let's sleep with
his best friend. Let's Molotov his house.
Look, it's not about getting rid of revenge. Revenge is a natural emotion and
creates a lot of charged energy to create movement. Movement is
how you changed something. Nature gave us anger so we could change
something and it gave the
bear anger, so it could bite us and reestablish our boundaries, and it
gave us anger, so we could change something and reestablish our
individual boundaries. But you have to ask yourself is doing these things like
keying his car or sleeping with someone he knows really the best revenge
because think about it. Have you ever had someone do that shit to you?
What would make you think of the person? Did it make you miss them?
Did it make you think, gee, that guy was a wonderful catch. Made you think
he was a d*ck and it made you glad that guy was out of your life.
What would be a better revenge? What would be a healthier way to use this
healthy emotion of revenge to get actual revenge on a guy? When you
think about it, all the traditional things that we go to for revenge,
they all involve giving him attention. They all involve focusing on him.
They all involve hurting him. You sleep with his best friend or key his car, you've
now stoop to his level, you became shitter because of him,
it's the dumbest revenge I ever heard. If you really want revenge on something,
use that healthy energy, use that healthy anger and put it into getting actual
revenge. Maybe getting revenge means that in 12 months, he looks onto your life
with such a deep sadness at the mistake that he made by letting you go because
of how many things you've done. Maybe getting real revenge means never giving
him one more bit of your attention, and instead rising to be such a great person
that you have the internal validation of knowing that you got the sweetest
revenge there is while you go and give all your attention to men who actually
deserve it. Think of healthy ways to use revenge that in the long-term really get
revenge, but more importantly empower you, so that you feel great and don't
stoop to that level. We can all do the naturalistic thing and we can bite back,
but really, it's the worst kind of revenge. It's sinking you down. It's making him
think you are shit and it's not giving you any validation, external or internal for
your actions. After a few sessions, my client realized that she'd been going
about revenge all the wrong way. She'd been putting all this time, effort, and
attention into how to hurt this guy who hurt her, which would bring her down
to his level and ruin her future. It's a terrible revenge. She instead realized
that the much better revenge was to leave him in her wake, was to go off
and have a great relationship herself and take the powerful feeling, take
the internal validation, take all of that from knowing that she left him behind
and that his actions would have their own consequences in his next shitty
relationship. Don't lower yourself to someone else's level. Revenge as much
sweeter when you get the benefits from it without going down and having that
person affect your future, the way they affected your past. This client realized
this and she's now going on. She's already dating and meeting better
men and she's realized that the biggest loss for this guy, the best revenge that
she could get was in losing her and having her walk away.
Let me know your thoughts on this. I would love to hear it.
Post in the comment section below, how can you get a healthy revenge
and how can you turn revenge in your favor to move beyond the people
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