Hey guys.
It's Bex here and welcome to another video in my series You Have Four Minutes for Meditation.
Today's meditation is for all of you crazy bitches out there.
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First of all, I want to start off on the right foot by telling the absolute truth.
This is not a meditation for all of you crazy bitches.
This is also a meditation for this crazy bitch.
2013 was one of the most trying roller coaster years of my entire life where I had great
successes and triumphs and joys and also suffered great losses and this is a meditation that
I use to get back on track when I felt completely crazy and out of control.
I will even admit to being a little bit of a bitch.
This is also not a four-minute meditation.
Sometimes you just have to take that extra time to get really quiet, to really be still,
to listen to your heart and also to the messages that are coming from the universe.
There are guides all around us that are constantly giving us messages that are going to make
us our most successful and happiest selves.
Let's get started by finding our easy seat and as you probably already know, this could
be anywhere.
You could be in your car, in your laundry room, on your couch or bed or even on the
floor like me.
You can sit with your legs crossed, one foot in front of the other, in half lotus or full
lotus, whatever works for you.
Place your hands downturned to seal in your energy during your practice or upturned to
receive the energy around you.
Today because I'm trying to center myself, I'm going to have my hands downturned on my
knees.
Inhale your shoulders up towards your ears and then exhale your shoulder blades down
on your spine.
Sit up nice and tall with the top of your head pointed towards the sky or the ceiling
and your chin parallel with the floor.
I meditate with my eyes closed but you may certainly keep them open and focus on a point
in the room, a candle, something that's soothing to you, maybe a photograph.
Meditation is about what serves you and if you feel uncomfortable or nervous during the
meditation, make any necessary adjustments to bring you back to a quiet space.
I'm calling this my meditation for crazy bitches which is a little bit tongue-in-cheek.
I hope it doesn't offend any of you out there.
It's really the only way that I could describe my state of mind during last year.
I had the biggest successes ever in my career and I also lost people who were very, very
close to me.
I also got pregnant at the end of the year.
So there was all this joy balanced with sorrow and -- well, a lot of it was stuff that I
had worked really hard for and brought on into my own life, like my successes.
There were all these things that happened that made me feel so out of control.
We never know when someone is going to leave us.
It could be a breakup or a death.
Sometimes it's so unpredictable and can leave us feeling completely disconnected from ourselves.
For women, women like me, I say most women, we want to feel like we are in control of
our environments and that we are helping those around us and that we can kind of take control
of our fate.
It helps us to feel secure.
As women when we feel insecure, everything goes off balance, our work, our family life,
our relationships.
So how do we get control of our feelings?
How do we feel centered in a world that is so out of control?
That's what I hope to help you with today.
As you listen to my voice, I also want you to pay attention to what your breath and your
heart are doing.
Don't try to manipulate your breath.
Don't try to take these big deep breaths to pretend that you're calm when you might not
be.
Just allow your natural flow.
Inhales, exhales, it doesn't matter if it's labored or if it's quick.
If it's calm, then great.
Just don't change it.
The purpose of meditation is to observe in the moment.
Just be here now with me.
My offering to you today is for you to try to find control in losing control, letting
that notion that you must be in control go.
It's just not your job.
It's not even your job to always control your own thoughts.
Just allow them.
Right now, thoughts may be coming into your head that you don't want there.
Like, why am I thinking about the grocery list or why am I thinking about getting an
oil change or picking the kids up from school?
None of those things are supposed to be happening right now.
That's OK.
Why is an OK question to ask.
Say why.
Maybe you have an answer.
Maybe you don't and then let it go.
Allow your thoughts to flow in and out like the tides and surely as they come in, they
will be released back into the ocean.
While we're talking about the ocean, maybe you would like to imagine yourself as a boat.
Allow this meditation to be your anchor, to hold you steady.
As your thoughts like waves, like the tide roll in, maybe your boat rocks a little.
Maybe you're swayed by things that happen, thoughts that happen, but you are anchored
here and now.
Allow them to flow under and through you, and then back out again into the ocean, into
the vastness of the universe.
They do not possess you.
You do not possess them.
They are merely things that are flowing in and out and you're observing them as a steady
peaceful boat sitting on top of the sea, rocking and swaying but not being dragged along.
If you find yourself being carried by thoughts, maybe you want to place your intention on
your breath once again.
Maybe use a mantra to keep you centered, something very simple.
Maybe you think inhale as you inhale, and exhale as you exhale.
This can be repeated silently or aloud, whichever you prefer.
Inhale, exhale.
Another mantra that's very effective, especially in terms of control, letting go of control,
let, go, let, go.
During my daily meditations, I try to get as quiet as possible so that I may receive
messages from my heart, from my guides, from the universe.
Sometimes these messages come out loud and clear.
Sometimes they come out as an offering for you.
Right now I want to share with you the messages that are coming through me for you.
It is not your job to take care of everything.
Only take care of yourself.
Love yourself in a way that inspires others.
Love yourself in a way that teaches others to love you fully and appropriately, that
welcomes the touch you want, the support you want, and also tells people to leave you alone
when you need you peace.
You grow most effectively and fully when you are true to yourself and your purpose and
your voice.
Speak the truth as you know it, as you feel it.
Don't try to protect others from your feelings, from your heart.
They will feel loved by your truth.
Say no when you don't want to.
Say yes when it feels good.
Take care of yourself through movement that makes you feel wonderful.
Eat foods that make you feel fulfilled.
Have relationships with people who love you as you are.
It is not your job to be in control.
It is only your purpose to be at peace and to be happy with who you are in this moment,
to be loved, and to inspire love.
Take a couple more breaths with me.
Just a few easy inhales and exhales.
Allow sensation to start coming back into your toes and your fingertips.
Maybe move your fingers around.
Wiggle your toes.
One last inhale to open your eyes and that's it.
That is your meditation for crazy bitches.
I know that after spending that much time really going inside and being quiet, you must
feel better.
It's inevitable.
You can use my mantras.
You can make up your own.
Whatever makes you feel anchored at the moment and doesn't allow you to get swept away, those
are the messages that are perfect for you.
I love you guys and I love your requests.
So if you have a meditation that you would like for me to make especially for you, just
go ahead and leave it in the comments below and I will see you soon in another Bex Life
video.
Love you.