- Have you ever gotten to the end of your week,
looked back, and said, "Gosh,
"I really wanted to do this thing,
"but I just didn't get to it."
Well, you sound like you might need
to make more time for what's really important to you.
And today, we're gonna be talking
about some tips to help with that.
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Hi, I'm Joseph.
- And I'm Tasha, with One Big Happy Life,
and we help you find balance, build wealth, and live happy.
Everything that you need to create the life that you want.
- So before we hop into making some time,
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- So now let's hop into making some time
for what really matters.
And if you've been following us along on the channel,
we've had several really big shocks this year,
and so that's why we definitely wanted to do this video
and talk about how important it is
to be making the time for the stuff
that you really care about.
- And by shocks, Joseph means
that people have died suddenly.
That's what he means by shocks.
- That's a shock!
- (chuckles) A shock would be like, "Oh my gosh!"
Like, "Serena Williams is pregnant with twins!"
That is a shock! - Is she?
- She's not, see, but you got shocked though, didn't you?
No, but whenever you experience death,
it always does make you think about,
well, what am I doing with my life?
How am I spending my time?
And especially when it's sudden death.
And if that were to happen to me,
how would I feel about the time
that I had spent leading up to that?
And so, it just seemed like the perfect time
for us to have this conversation,
because so often, people will think,
"Well, I always have more time,"
or "I'll get to this later."
And so we end up putting off the things
that really matter to us.
- Yeah, and it doesn't have to be
because of a worry that somebody's going to die.
I mean, while it is out there,
a lot of it is gonna be smaller things, I would say,
things like, you're not working out like you wanted to,
or you'd really like some alone time,
where you can clear your thoughts after work.
Things like that really matter
with your day-to-day happiness,
and they need to be given priority in your schedule, too.
- But I like to think about the death side,
I know Joseph's like, "Well, it's not,"
but just, as a reminder,
because we all think that we have more time.
We feel like time is infinite, but money is short.
But really, it's the opposite.
Money is abundant.
There's lots of money out there!
There are many different ways to go get more money.
In terms of getting more time in your life,
the minutes that are on your life clock,
there is zero more.
And so that's why I always kinda push people
to remember this, 'cause we always feel
like we have more time, but so often,
we see people, you know, we hear people
in their 50s and 60s,
wishing they had taken the time
to save when they were younger,
knowing that they could have saved,
and they just felt like, "Well, I'll put it off 'til later,"
and now it's so late.
So, what are some of the ways
that you can identify the things that really matter to you?
- So I think the best place to start is,
at the end of a week, look back at that week
and then think to yourself,
what were the things that, what was it, two things.
What did I nail, that made me really happy?
That's important.
That's a thing that you wanna keep going, so mark that down.
And then also, what is something that disappointed me?
What did I run out of time for,
that I really wanted to do,
and seems like it's a really important thing?
Start with that.
And then have a few aspirational things.
- Yeah, and also, think about the things
that you know you really do need to do.
And I'm gonna say, I wanted to say should be doing,
but I'm gonna bring up, I'm gonna credit Dr. Bill,
my therapist, who I started seeing
when I started doing IVF, 'cause our doctor recommended it,
but I still-- - He's super cool.
- Yeah, he's really,
(giggles) he's really nice.
So I was talking to him about my struggles with my weight,
because I gained a lot of weight during IVF,
'cause I did three back-to-back rounds,
and then we were taking some time off,
so I could lose the weight,
but I found myself lacking motivation
and not making the time.
And he reminded me that working out or not working out,
all of the things that I'm doing in my life,
those are all choices, right?
And so, I want you to think about
the things that are important to you,
and you know they're important,
but you may not necessarily be prioritizing,
because they feel a little difficult.
So things like taking care of your health
and taking care of your money,
in addition to the fun things that you wanna do. (laughs)
- Yeah, and that's a good point,
because a lot of it comes down to your mindset.
And so don't get stuck in the rut
that you are trapped in your current schedule,
and there is absolutely nothing that you can do.
No, look for the choices that you do have available to you
to take that empowerment and then run with it,
so you rearrange your schedule
into a way that you can be happy with, moving forward.
- Yeah, one of the most liberating things
that you can experience is recognizing
that there is absolutely nothing that you have to do.
And Brooke Castillo, from The Life Coach School, has a,
she did a podcast episode on it,
I'll see if I can find it to drop it in the description box.
It might not be there when this video goes up,
'cause we're shooting it (chuckles) really late.
But, Dr. Bill also brought that up,
when I'm like, "Oh, well I have to do this,
"and I have to do that."
And he's like, you don't have to do anything.
Every single thing that you do in your life is a choice,
and if you don't believe me, I guarantee you,
Google it, and you will find someone
that didn't do that thing.
People who didn't take care of their kids,
people who didn't take care of their health,
people who decided, "I'm not gonna work anymore."
I mean, those are all choices.
We make those choices because we want to,
because we like what our lives look like
when we make certain choices.
So it's all about switching our mindset
from I have to do this, to I want to do this,
to I choose to do this,
so you can start actually making time
for the things that you want to choose to do the most.
- Now, how do you start actually implementing that
in your day-to-day life?
Say, "Well I'm going to rearrange my schedule, but,
"really, where do I get started, though?"
A lot of it's gonna come down to habits,
so you might have a couple of rocky weeks
as you're starting out,
but then it'll get better over time.
And the easiest thing to start with
is just making a plan.
Before you have your week, sit down and say,
"Okay, well I'm gonna block out this time,"
and we've talked about this before,
about calendar blocking, and saying,
"Okay, this is what I'm gonna accomplish in this time block,
"this is what I'm gonna accomplish here."
And that's a great place to start,
and see how that works,
and then put in your highest priorities
in slots that you have the most time for,
that you think will to get crunched,
and then take the more flexible things
and put those in the areas that you can fudge a little.
- And the other thing that I recommend,
I love time blocking, and I love scheduling,
but right now, as I'm on this entrepreneurship journey,
I'm trying to figure out how to put that accountability
and stick to my schedule, as an entrepreneur,
where there are infinite number of things to do
in every single day, and so many things
get pushed off to the side.
And so one of the things that have really helped me
is to have my primary priorities every single day,
and to recognize those highest priorities first.
And so the highest priorities, for me,
so number one, I've gotta get some exercise in.
30 minutes, it doesn't have to be difficult,
I've just been walking, down in the basement, 30 minutes.
Also, spending quality time with the family.
Those two priorities need to happen every single day.
It doesn't matter when in the day they happen,
but when I set those as my priority,
then I know that, even as the day is coming to a close,
well, I still gotta do these two things,
so something else has got to go.
- Yeah, and so one way to find
a little bit more time to fit more in
is to become more efficient with
how you're doing your scheduling,
and whatever tasks you're accomplishing,
try to get them done in less time.
And so, simple things like, well,
pick one day a week to run all of your errands,
so you don't have to drive whatever the time is
to different stores more than once at a time,
and then that can save, you know, little bit here.
Another thing is to identify
what type of person you are,
when are you most productive?
So if you're most productive in the mornings,
then schedule the things that are gonna take you
a little bit longer, right then,
get 'em done, and you'll have the most energy.
If you're an afternoon person, well then,
do the opposite and schedule them in the afternoon
to make sure that you are shrinking the things
that would otherwise take a lot longer.
Like, I know when I'm tired, whatever task I have,
if it's not fun, oh my gosh,
it's gonna take 10 times as long.
- (laughs) Another thing that you can do
that we really push people to
is to buy back your time.
That is a perfectly valid way to use your money,
and it's also a scientifically proven way
to use your money to increase happiness, okay?
So science says do it, so do it.
And there are just so many people,
the other day, I was talking to someone who is a doctor.
And her husband is an engineer.
They make all kinds of money.
Now she does have student loan debt
that she's working on paying off,
but she's like, "I work so much, and I feel so guilty,
"because I never see my kids."
So you can see, one of her stated priorities
is to spend time with her kids,
and I'm like, "How many hours a week
"are you doing laundry?"
And she's like, "probably eight or 10."
And I'm like, "Well how much would it cost you
"to outsource that laundry?"
And it's probably around 150, $200,
maybe, a week, to outsource that laundry.
And it's like, what's worth more to you,
having an extra $200 a week,
or having an extra eight to 10 hours
to spend with your children, who frankly,
won't be children in your house for much longer.
So...
Where is your money best spent there?
- Yeah, and it doesn't even have to be that costly.
You'd be surprised,
when you look at the true cost of doing different things.
So, we also do Amazon Subscribe & Save a lot,
so we don't run out of things,
and have to make unexpected trips to the store.
Well, that costs a little bit more for sure,
but really not that much more.
And sometimes, the things are even cheaper.
So, that works out.
- And the last thing that we'll say is to be patient.
You do not have to be perfect, right off the bat.
In fact, trying to make a huge life overhaul upheaval
is a surefire way to end up backpedaling
and perhaps even ending up worse off than you were before.
So just look for tiny ways
that you can start making better choices.
So when a choice comes up, just choose differently,
and plan to choose differently from the beginning, right?
So, one of the things for me is,
when I get up and start looking for a snack,
I've already planned that the first time that happens,
I need to get an apple,
and then the second time that happens,
I need to get an apple.
So sometimes, I'll eat one or two apples a day,
instead of trying to hunt for something
that I probably don't wanna eat,
like a bagel with cream cheese,
'cause those are five or 600 calories,
and I had one for breakfast already!
So, you know, I've had my bagel quota.
- Okay, so, take a look
at whatever you're doing in your life,
and make time for the things that really, really matter,
and don't put off the hard stuff.
- All right, and, so, part of that hard stuff,
you gotta get your money right, right?
We want you to start building wealth now.
So join us for our free money masterclass,
onebighappylife.com/masterclass,
and we will see you live on Sunday night.
- Yeah, drop your comments in the,
(chuckles) down below, and let us know
what you're working on in your life,
working to fit in, and also,
if you're coming to the masterclass.
- All right, see you guys next week.
- Bye.
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