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Teal Swan's Process
Hello there.
Let me take a moment to explain my process to you.
In other words, my method for helping people
to improve their life experience.
It is my hope that by understanding my process
you could decide whether or not it is something that you are ready for
and whether or not it is right for you.
Let's say that someone wants to improve
some aspect of themselves or their life experience.
The first thing we do,
is to identify what the problem is.
We identify what is not working for them.
Usually, this will be
something that's creating pain or suffering in their life.
Sometimes it can be hard for people to identify
and admit to what the problem is.
Even when it's causing them pain.
Some people may even be in denial about it.
Sometimes they attend my seminars and workshops
and seek help despite saying things like:
"My life's fine. I have a great life".
When this is the case,
I will help someone to admit to what the problem is,
and help them to come out of denial about it.
And depending on the person,
this may involve some confrontation.
The first part of this process
requires a person getting to the point
where they're able to own what their problem is,
take responsibility for it,
and look at it directly.
Next, we will identify the cause
of whatever is not working for them.
The cause of the problem.
There's always an origin to our problems.
There is a "when this started" and a "why it started".
You can't hope to solve a problem
unless you understand when and how and why it started.
I approach a person with the attitude of:
"It isn't what's wrong with you, it's what happened to you".
Usually, this process of identifying the origin of the problem
involves a person looking deep into what happened to them
over the course of their individual past histories
and seeing clearly
how these key experiences
led to them making specific decisions
and adopting specific beliefs and behaviors
and taking specific actions.
All of which, may be contributing to their problem today.
During this part of the process,
we find the root of the symptoms
that are manifesting in a person's current life.
The root cause of the problems we face in our adult life,
almost always occur
before we exit the time period of our childhood
when we are operating from a state of felt perception,
and we enter a phase
where we begin thinking about the world that we live in.
This transition happens for most children around age eight.
So this means that my process
involves looking at your childhood experiences
and primary relationships,
including the ones that are negative and traumatic.
If you're afraid about the danger of false or implanted memory.
I want you to be aware that you do not need to worry
about false memory
and you do not need to worry about implanted memory
when you are engaging with my process.
Memory can be extremely reliable,
a veritable recording of the past.
Memory can also be distorted,
contaminated, constructed and deconstructed.
Human memory is both more capable
and more incapable,
than we would like to make it out to be.
It's incredibly complex.
This is why when it comes to my process
I encourage people to stop thinking in terms of true or false altogether,
and instead, think in terms of valid.
Regardless of whether or not
a memory is a perfect replica of what happened,
it is valid.
It means that the mind is trying to communicate to us
through actual memory or through symbolic memory
about what is unhealed within us,
and what needs to be resolved either way.
Memories don't come up for no reason.
Relative to your memories,
it is no one else's place
to decide what is true and what is false.
That's for you yourself to come to terms with.
But, all that being said,
figuring out what your being feels is unresolved
and bringing resolution to it,
is absolutely essential.
Otherwise, we remain stuck in the past.
We operate from determinism, rather than from our own free will.
And our past is simply gonna repeat itself
in our adult lives,
until we resolve it.
Your past experiences are formative.
They shape the structure of your personality,
how you engage in relationships,
how you behave in different situations,
how you perceive and experience the whole world around you.
Even the greater universe.
When we are in pain
because something is not working for us,
we have to be willing to identify it and change it
to resolve the traumas
and the thoughts, words and actions
that were developed as a result of them
That are keeping us stuck.
And doing that, changes everything.
All this being said,
there is something that's very important to understand;
We live in a universe that is multi-dimensional.
People are not straightforward,
they are multi-faceted.
The process of identifying a root cause in a problem
so as to figure out how to fix it
in a universe that is multi-dimensional
and with a person who is multifaceted,
means that the problem that someone may be dealing with
may just be multi-layered.
It may be something we need to address
in a specific dimension, as well.
There may be several elements feeding into one problem,
and these elements may need to be addressed
on many different levels, as well.
For this reason,
I use an unlimited amount of awarenesses,
tools and methods and approaches
to identify and gain awareness about the root of a problem.
I also use an unlimited amount of awarenesses,
tools, methods and approaches
to solve that problem.
This is because
there is no one-size-fits-all equation to a problem.
What there is is trends.
So that you can understand more about what I mean,
one person may have a problem
that's the result of transgenerational trauma,
another person might have a problem
that originated when they decided to adopt a specific protector personality
in response to a trauma in their childhood.
Another person might have a physical ailment that's manifesting
because of a specific painful relationship pattern
that's currently occurring in their life.
Another person might be suffering
because they simply lack a certain bit of information
that would change the whole way that they experience life.
I think it's pretty easy to see
that if I approached each of these situations and issues
with the exact same tools, in the exact same way,
I would end up with really poor results.
Some of these issues need to be addressed
on a mental level,
some need to be addressed on an emotional level,
some need to be addressed on a physical level
and some problems need to be addressed
on a spiritual level.
The reality is that we are spiritual beings
living a temporary human experience.
There may be problems that need to be addressed
on a purely mental or physical level.
Problems that have nothing to do with spirituality, at face value.
But there is no way to live an integrated life
when we deny this entire dimension of our lives.
And sometimes the key to someone's life improvement and healing
can only be found on this level of reality.
To give you a very small taste
of some of these tools and methods that I may choose
to help someone either gain awareness of a problem
or solve a problem,
I may for example decide that they should use
The Completion Process,
or any number of meditation techniques,
or Shadow Work exercises,
or Somatic Experiencing,
or Parts Work,
or Breath Work,
or Display Work,
or The Connection Process,
or Trauma Release Exercises,
or Core Belief work,
or Channeling,
or integration processes,
or work with the subconscious patterns,
or stream of consciousness exercises,
or presence work,
or shamanic ceremony,
or therapeutic art,
or journey work,
or just plain discussion.
I offer many of these awareness tools and methods
to the public totally free through my YouTube videos
and also through my books, e-courses, products and workshops.
Back to my process,
once a person identifies what the problem is
as well as that root cause,
we identify what they want instead.
This is like identifying point A and point B.
It may sound hard to believe but a lot of people struggle
because they know what they don't want,
but they don't know what it is they do want.
That's like having a map,
but no destination point, only a starting point.
When people decide what it is that they want,
there's a kind of gap between where they are now
and where they wanna be.
I help people to close that gap.
And closing this gap implies identifying
what it is that is preventing them from doing so.
In my line of work we call this "resistance".
I work with a person to help them resolve their resistance
to any part of this process of closing that gap
between the current unwanted condition,
and their wanted state.
At first, it may strike you as odd.
When would anyone have resistance to what they want?
The answer is:
Anytime you've not already achieved it.
If a person has not already achieved something they want,
that means that there are these oppositional forces at play.
To give you just one tiny example,
a person may say that they want a romantic relationship
more than anything.
But, they may have a belief
that they will lose themselves in the relationship
and they may never really ever leave their house to socialize.
In this case, you can see that a person's belief and actions
are in resistance to what they want.
That resistance must be resolved and released
for this person to actually be in a romantic relationship.
During this part of the process
we look at the resistance to the change,
and we resolve it.
Which is necessary to get from where they are,
to what they want.
And doing this closes that gap
between where they are and where they prefer to be,
via thoughts, words and actions.
My process puts people in a point of conscious choice.
They can choose to not change,
and to instead, continue on as is,
keeping their point of view, their patterns, their past dynamics
and the way they do things,
or they can choose to make a change
and actually make those changes.
Sometimes these changes simply happen spontaneously
as a result of any step in this process.
Sometimes these changes require more conscious discipline.
We can use our awareness
to make different decisions, to change our beliefs,
to see the world in a different way,
to alter our behavior
and to do different things.
I don't want people to engage in this process
with the attitude that they have to change themselves
because something is bad or wrong about them.
What I'm wanting is for people to engage
in this process of changing themselves
and making changes to their life,
because doing so is self-loving.
If something is causing you pain,
it can be profoundly self-loving to change it.
When done from this intention,
changing things within yourself and in your life
is something that you do
for yourself instead of against yourself.
And what all this means
is that signing up to my process
implies that you want to make a change
to yourself and to your life,
and that you are willing to do so.
If a person does not wanna become aware of what their problem is,
and does not want to change themselves
or make changes to their life,
this work that I do
is not the right choice for them to make.
This process is only right
for people who are willing to change themselves
and who will own their choice to change themselves,
as being their choice.
Basically what this means is
it requires you to take responsibility for what you wanna change,
and what you are willing to change.
By making these changes
a person will then be standing in an improved state,
having made different choices,
having seen a new perspective,
and having taken different actions,
thus changing themselves and their life for the better.
I do wanna mention something;
If at any point in this process emotions come up,
they are treated as valid, important,
and as messengers of personal truth.
So, all that being said,
now that you have a better idea of my process,
let me add a few things:
My process is a very deep healing process.
It is not a process to simply make you feel good.
Ultimately, we all wanna feel good.
But if you value feeling good above everything else,
you will struggle with my process.
The reason is,
sometimes to get to a place of improvement
you have to face and to do some pretty hard things.
For example,
let's imagine that two people...
they married each other out of obligation
and their current life is miserable because of their relationship.
A person may be able to come in
and teach them the tapping technique
to sedate their reactivity to one another,
or a therapist may be able to make them feel a little better
by having them practice four positives for every one negative.
These techniques are pain relieving techniques.
They're a bit like novocaine.
But there is a big difference
between pain relief and actual healing.
For actual healing to occur,
they would have to first
look at the truth that they married each other out of obligation,
and that the marriage is what's making them unhappy.
Doing this is both scary and painful.
Then... they would have to go through this process
of deciding what to do about their relationship.
Now, let's assume that during this process
they decided to evolve their relationship
into something else, other than a marriage.
There are several elements of their life
that would have to change
and that they would have to face.
For example,
they might have to face things like dividing up assets,
or dealing with other people's opinions and projections.
or stepping out into a different life,
etc. etc...
So that one day they can officially say
that they love their life so much more than they did before.
Sometimes my process feels really good to do,
but sometimes it's a hard and incredibly uncomfortable journey
to genuine improvement.
Another thing is,
most people are smart enough
to be able to change the things they see or not working for them.
When people can't seem to get improvement
it's because there is something that they don't see
and don't know.
There's something that is subconscious.
My process requires you
to venture into the realm of the subconscious.
Deep into what you don't know that you don't know.
Because of this,
you will be challenged to consider things that you don't resonate with.
So you can understand what I mean:
For something to resonate with you
it must be something that you are already somewhat conscious of.
So let's look at
what somebody may not know that they don't know;
Let's imagine a woman that has deeply suppressed anger,
everyone else in her life can see that she's an angry person,
but if I walk in and say:
"You're really angry",
she's likely to look at me in the face and say:
"No! I'm sorry that just doesn't resonate with me.
I'm not an angry person."
And in this moment,
she will feel like she's holding on to a sense of self,
a sense of autonomy and personal truth,
by asserting that she's not angry.
But by doing so,
she doesn't realize that she's forfeiting the opportunity to heal
and to get what she wants.
It will feel scary,
but to begin to explore anger
when she gets the reflection from me,
is to gain self-awareness
and to come more into a place of consciousness
and therefore, free will and choice.
It is for her to have the chance to actually heal.
My process is hard
because it can challenge and change
the narrative of yourself and your life.
It can cause your worldview to change.
It requires facing reality.
It requires you to see things about yourself
and your relationships in your life that may cause you to feel shame.
The truth is not often easy to swallow or even face.
It causes you to see all the ways
your current life has been built on inauthenticity.
It implies changing yourself and your life.
Which, let's face it,
is something that people naturally have a resistance to.
The reality is that everyone would benefit by this work.
But that does not mean that everyone wants it.
In fact, if you are not really wanting
this kind of process I have described,
engaging in it can feel traumatizing to you.
If you're one of those people
who does not really want this kind of process,
just keep in your list of options
and try out other options instead.
If you are somebody who is afraid
of having your thoughts changed or challenged,
this is definitely not the right work for you.
All this being said,
given that the process of genuine healing
is different than pain relief
and is therefore sometimes painful before it is good,
you may be asking yourself:
"Why is it worth it?"
It's worth it because it will free you.
It will make it so you're not stuck anymore.
It will give you tons of awareness and knowledge
which will not only put you on track,
but it's awareness and knowledge
that you can carry with you for the rest of your life.
It will restore you to a state of congruence and wholeness.
It will relieve you of that heavy weight of your past traumas.
It will cause you to make changes
so that your life is actually one you want to live,
rather than one you need to develop coping skills to deal with.
It will fill your life with meaning and cause you to live a life
that is both real and in alignment with your values.
It will line you up with the kinds of relationships
you have always wanted to have in your life.
It will cause you to create a life that is authentic to you.
It will get you what you truly want in life...
And so much more.
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