- It is very important to remember
that respect cannot be forced,
just the same way that love cannot be forced.
For men, respect and love go hand in hand.
And if there is no respect, there is no love.
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Today, we are going to be talking about
four ways to get a man to respect you.
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The number one way is to respect yourself.
Respecting yourself first and foremost
is one of the best ways,
and one of the most natural ways
to gain a respect from your guy.
If you respect yourself, and don't accept bad behavior,
and you are able to set boundaries,
his love for you will grow tremendously.
So if someone says something disrespectful towards you,
for example, they call you a name that you really don't like
or they raise their voice at you,
or they see something insulting, remember to set a boundary.
And by this, I mean you can say something like
you don't have to shout at me.
We can have a conversation when you lower your tone.
This basically shows
that you do not let people cross the line with you.
When you set a boundary in a controlled tone of voice,
and you have eye contact with the person,
you don't have to be mean.
You don't have to be super friendly.
You just be normal.
When you are able to do that,
it shows that you are not a pushover,
and that you put people back in line
when they disrespect you.
It also shows that you can stand up for yourself.
And this is something that men find very, very respectful.
So the next time someone says,
or does something that is not okay with you,
don't be afraid to let them know.
Remember, you don't have to explain yourself.
You just let them know
that their behavior is not acceptable,
or it's not nice, and that they should not do that.
That's basically what it's all about.
And when you start implementing that,
you will see that your guy,
and you can do it with him as well
if he steps over the line, or anyone else,
when you start implementing that,
people generally will start respecting you more,
including your guy.
The second way is to have a hobby.
It's very important
that you have a hobby only for your own self.
Your guy should not be included in your hobby.
A man gains respect for a woman
when he notices that she has a life outside of him,
and that she does not beg for his attention.
She can fill up her own cup,
and doesn't need him to do that for her.
She is busy and happy within her own life,
even without spending time with him.
And that, dear ladies, is really very attractive.
He can be doing his hobby in one room
if you guys live together, for example,
in the living room, he can be playing his PlayStation.
You don't have to nag or complain at him, and be asking him,
when are you finally gonna finish playing PlayStation?
Or when are you finally gonna be finished,
so we can spend some time together?
I really miss you.
Don't do anything like this.
Instead, simply go into the other room, and do your hobby.
Just do you
whilst he is also busy with cooling down, relaxing,
or just doing his own hobby.
You can totally do the same.
You can just do your hobby,
and you should do your own hobby.
And with hobby, it doesn't have to be anything huge.
Doesn't have to be anything expensive or anything big.
It can be as simple as really taking a bubble bath,
or doing a treatment evening for yourself
with face masks or whatever.
You can go for a walk with your dog if you have a dog,
or go to the park alone for a walk.
You can even do a jigsaw, or you can read a book,
or get yourself some popcorn,
and watch your favorite series in the next room.
You don't have to look for something
super cool and super exciting to do if you don't want to.
The only thing that I am saying
is that you should do something that makes you happy,
and you yourself fully decide what that is.
But don't depend on him to make you happy.
It's fully okay for him to do his thing from time to time,
and that very often is video games for men.
And that's fine.
And you should totally be okay
with doing things for you as well.
Remember that a couple is made up of two individuals, right?
That come together, and enter a partnership.
So if he wants to watch a certain movie,
and you don't wanna do that,
you want to do something different instead,
it's okay to do that.
Okay?
Don't be codependent on each other.
Instead, try and make yourselves happy, right?
Doing the things you like doing, and then come together,
and continue you being happy together, right?
That way, no resentment is built.
And when you do things for yourself,
it will give him time to miss you,
and men fall in love through distance.
So for you, it's a win-win situation.
Simply give him space.
You will see that after a while,
he will come looking for you.
This is something that women very, very rarely do.
I find that a lot of women
naturally complain about these types of actions,
or that the guy doesn't give the girl enough attention.
Simply do your thing, do what you like to do,
and stick to that,
and concentrate on making yourself happy, right?
And you will see that he will start looking for you,
because he will start missing
the time you guys spend together.
His respect for you will also grow tremendously
when he sees that you are happy without him.
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The third way is emotional control.
Remember that complaining and nagging
will make any situation worse.
This type of behavior
has never been a helping hand in any situation,
whether that is work, friendship, family, or relationship.
So literally stop complaining and nagging in life
as much as you can.
A man simply wants his woman to be happy.
If she is not happy, he will start thinking
that it is actually his fault that she's not happy.
So if a woman complains and nags at him,
and says that she's unhappy,
the guy will think it's his fault,
and actually distance himself more,
or go into his cave to start solving that problem.
So when a woman complains and nags very often,
it makes the guy distance himself more and more from her.
It doesn't mean that he always distances himself physically,
but you can start feeling an emotional distance,
especially if the complaining and nagging
goes on for a while in the relationship.
This is one of the reasons why emotional control is key.
Emotional control has everything to do
with setting boundaries,
and absolutely nothing to do with complaining and nagging.
So remember, if your guy does something that upsets you,
or maybe he doesn't do something
the way that he promised to do,
you can let him know that that is not appreciated,
or not accepted by again, setting a boundary.
For example, you asked him to help you out with something.
And he might say, yeah, I can help you in 30 minutes.
You can say, okay, sure, I know you're a man of your word.
So here, you're not asking him to help you faster.
You're not complaining either, and you're not nagging.
You instead show that you actually trust
that he will do what he said he will do.
You keep yourself emotionally in control.
And after he has done the task when 30 minutes passed,
you thank him with a smile.
Or if it was a big favor, you can hug him.
Show that appreciation after he has done the task.
That is important,
especially if you want to have appreciation
for when you do something nice for him.
If you are provoked, for example,
remember to not fall for it.
Or if something emotionally triggers you,
take four to five seconds of time to reply back
to whatever mean thing the person has said.
Stay calm, firm, and have a firm tone of voice.
Look them in the eye, and set a boundary.
If you, however, still feel triggered
after you have set a boundary,
just because someone said something mean,
you can always go for a walk to cool down.
But at that given moment, keep your emotions intact.
You will always have the upper hand
in any argument, or in any situation.
And these types of women are very rare.
Women who have emotional control,
who do not complain, and do not nag are rare.
And imagine, who would you have more respect for,
a woman who explodes and complains all the time, right?
Or who shouts, or a woman who looks you straight in the eye,
and sets a boundary, and moves on with her day.
Who shows more stability,
who shows more respect towards herself and others,
and who will have the upper hand in the situation?
It will always be the woman that has emotional control.
And this type of reaction, and this type of control
is extremely, extremely attractive for men.
And they respect these types of women enormously,
because it shows so much confidence
and strength in a feminine way within yourself.
The fourth thing is to have a healthy distance.
Remember to always have a life outside of your guy,
and to follow your goals, and your passions.
Chase goals, not drama, as Greta says.
If you're building a happy life for yourself,
and you do things that make you happy,
and you feel happy within yourself, and content,
and you know your worth, he will respect you.
Always remember that respecting a person
cannot be forced, as I mentioned.
And it is a decision that a person makes
based on the actions that they see.
Think about the women that you truly respect in your life.
What type of women are they?
What type of values do they have?
How do they handle certain situations in life?
See what you can adapt from these women
that you really do respect.
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And when you follow that, you have nothing to worry about.
Your guy will respect you.
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