HOW TO CREATE SEXUAL TENSION w/ Zan Perrion Zan: First of all, we don't have any sexual tension. We're completely
asexual you know I always tell guys it's time to come out of the closet as a
as a heterosexual. You know - we come out of the closet and
demonstrate your.. you have this energy. Our sexual nature
is what we've been we've been hiding our whole lives
because we're afraid of it and we're afraid the world will see something and
judge us or see something toxic in it and about in
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confidence and purpose you're one of the most inspiring guys to
me in this i guess i don't want to take away from it calling in an industry but
in this uh realm because you really teach the guys
out there the the authenticity in meeting women that a lot of other
teachers are missing right instead of say this to get her to
like you it's like be this man be your authentic
self because that's what she wants take the focus off of you and put it on
to her because that's what she feels and responds to so i want to start off
by by asking you because this is the
biggest thing that's missing with especially a lot of guys who are
starting and even intermediates and that's sexual tension so
dan then what's your definition of sexual tension and how do you recommend
that guys start learning how to feel and create it the sexual
tension is is is not a creepy energy
or a a strong chauvinistic type of leering type of like staring at
her boobs type of energy it's not that at all
at all it's a i love it it's it's the it's it's this i'm a man i recognize i'm
a man i was born since i was very young i love
the shape of a female body i love the feel of that i love the smell of a woman
i like to look at women i like to have that energy around me and i will not
apologize for it and so you have this this this embrace
in your heart of who you are that tension we are breaking the tension
uh by doing a lot of fast talking talk talk talk
impress and press impress joke joke joke hope you like me hook you hope you like
me uh who you know we have all this fast
talking and we we break the tension and the greatest of
the legendary quote unquote men who have women in their lives
sit in tension they will they will say something strong and they'll sit and
they'll zip up their lip and they'll smile and just look at her
until she breaks attention you know when i'm dating women here it's like i
i speak spanish like an eight-year-old and so it helped me become even better
at my body language and my feelings for the desire for her
the way that i look at her and despite having a really limited
ability to speak there's still humor there's still connection there's still
banter there's still playfulness because it's
all between the lines and even if i say something that's nonsensical that i
think makes sense it's almost like she understands and is on the same page
and then from that attention from that presence that i give her
she also returns the patience of hey he's trying
yeah i dated i dated a a lawyer in the beginning of this year very
beautiful blonde girl i was actually on i was on a run and i i the the photons
right i saw her in a restaurant uh i don't
know why but i just it was probably from like 40 feet away
but i just saw her and i felt her energy and i was like oh my god
if she was on the sidewalk i know i would talk to her i'm not going to run
in a restaurant my exercise clothes like hey be a little
bit weird but uh i'm running back down the hill
and guess who's on the sidewalk right and it's she was with her friend
so i went right up to her and as soon as i walked up to her her
friend looked at me and she just crossed the street because she knew what was
happening because she absolutely knew why i was
there so she got out of the way um and you
know got got her number we had a great
connection even just there because i just felt the turn on in my
body for her and i i remember i was a little bit
nervous about going on the first date with her because
i was like this is a lawyer and she articulates
the spanish language at a very very very advanced
level um and and just on the dance floor is where my energy
really comes out where my turn on really comes out i create this like cocoon of
appreciation and turn on around her and she just
you know she was like oh he's a white guy from canada he can't dance and then
i showed her but yeah it's it's so important
it's it's a big thing that guys are missing when you just look in her eyes
and you can feel that pressure rise in your body
i remember the first time in fact that i felt sexual tension
with a woman and it was this this woman i was talking to and flirting with
at this festival in vancouver this is when i really first
learned and experienced it um and i remember
just stepping into her and and this energy rose in my body and
she was like
i was like and then after i just grabbed her and i started making out with her
and it was it was beautiful it was really really powerful and and
like you said guys will never understand this until they've
experienced it because we grow and we change through experience
imagine that you in your life have an impact on a girl on
that level imagine that some girl is thinking 20
years later about this guy about this guy that i met
and then for five minutes i can't stop thinking about it
he what he gave me was such a you know imagine you're that angel for somebody
else yep and so so that
really really set my heart and emotions that i want nothing less i want
i want abundance i want adoration i want have i want to have devotion to my girl
i want devotion in return i don't want to have this
uh well she didn't text me for three days should i text her now i want to
i want to be excited she comes into my bed and like trying to convince her
i don't want that i want to her to be delighted
and full of joy to be there because i am i'm excited you're you you know you're
in my bed and or you're in my life and i'm excited
for that and i don't want to hide it or be aloof we're trying to pretend
i want full force you know and i want her to have that too
and when you have that in your life when you have this great girl in your life
who gives you that that full full energy of
adoration and devotion to you so you can give it back
right it's like it's what men are starving for i'm not up on this
this new social energy of we're all gender fluid you know i believe in men
and women you know so uh you're a man you love women
you like a heart-shaped ass you know that's that's
that's infused in you from you from the creation of you that was like
born in you from your ancestors you know from your warrior ancestors from all the
cultures or the culture you're from from all the history
centuries it came down to you you know so
so first of all be aware of it and then um
embrace that spirit and don't apologize no more defending yourself and no more
explaining and no more apologizing for your for
your desires as a man you know don't apologize to anybody
if you did not cause offense no i just know i didn't want you to
you know like like guys will say something just say something kind of
funny you know and and a girl go what do you
mean by that you know and they're challenged and they go no
what i meant no i was just trying to be funny and they'd start explaining
they start defending themselves don't defend yourself don't explain yourself
she's just a girl speak your truth stand on this earth if you gave no
offense and you're just trying to be funny or energetic or whatever
and someone takes it wrong that's not your responsibility you know so
so so own that energy and your and your sexual spirit
start to really feel it and really be in love with the idea that you're a man
and you love women and you like and you and you want to have this
the beloved in front of you yes you want to have someone that you adore
and she adores you and you want to have this sexual experience with her
and you know you want to have this abundance of experiences for instance
right the ones who challenge you like this who
do you think you are you're in i promise you that girl likes
you if if you have if if you if you talk to a
girl and she says well listen you know i'm not interested i have a boyfriend
you know she says it flat and plain and kind
she's telling you something and it's real but if she goes
no i have a boyfriend no she likes you and you're in
yeah yeah it's 100 on that's that's 100 on you know if they're animated and loud
when they when they're challenging you yeah you're in and you can just calm
relax because the girl likes you you can do whatever you want and if the
girl is like saying it flat and quiet now listen you need to understand i'm
not interested that boyfriend that's the difference it's so funny i
mean even when they're being like completely
honest with you that they have a boyfriend like i remember this one girl
beautiful girl i approached in the subway in new york and i don't know what
the hell came out of me but it's very zan perionesque
i said i i had to come and talk to you because you were
a sparkling fountain of feminine energy and i just wanted to come and drink from
that and and she was like she was like
wow um i have a i have a boyfriend and i was like are you happy she's like
yes she said it right away just like flat but she was just like
enamored and like looking me up and down and i felt that it was genuine and i was
like i don't want to steal her away from yeah of course not no
that's real she told you in kind way you know yeah
no problem there it's it's like so some of our students
take that as a rejection even what you're saying like when they get
animated and they're they're like they're like uh they're
challenging you they think that's a rejection and it's it's so crazy how
subtle women can be and also how obvious they can be
through their subtleties right and this is what guys
really gotta learn to be able to pick up those signals and feel that sexual
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