I mentioned about get the phone get an internet package get the email setup get
the money in place get bank account setup this is really this video is for
serious long-distance relationships
believe it or not 18 years ago I had a Thai girlfriend before I met Mem and I
was in a long-distance relationship and I made loads of mistakes so much so that
mine ended are you in a long-distance relationship if you are then maybe some
good pointers coming up here for you we're going to assume you are on the
other side of the world and your Thai partner is here in Thailand you be
dating for a while let's say a month or two maybe a bit here twice you sort of
fallen for young young lady and you've gone home things can get out of hand
very easily with text messages, social media messages, emails because you cannot
always understand the tone that they were written in you sometimes can
misjudge and that itself causes lots of problems if you're just about to start a
long-distance relationship you've met a lady of your dreams and she is in
Thailand you're about to go home these following tips are for you to put
in place before you take off from Suvarnabhumi or Phuket or Chiang Mai
heading home. Set a new email address up for your Thai partner you set it up set
the password give the password get your Thai partner into email. If there's a
little bit of mistrust further down the line you've set the password you could
possibly pop in and have a look at the emails
hmm but you want a clean email address the reason for this if you get serious
and further down the line you want to take your Thai partner now back to your own
country when it comes to make those visas you will be are you will be asked
for proof that you have been in a relationship for how long that you have
been emailing each other sending photos to each other
it's evidence to help a visa further down the path also by having a clean
email address you could show it at an embassy if needed and there wouldn't be
lots of other funny names on the email open a new email address the biggest
problem in the any long-distance relationship between let's say you're a
westerner and a Thai girl unless she is proficient in your language or you are
proficient in Thai communications the language and breakdowns will happen you
will misunderstand each other constantly especially in the early days and if you
Thai partner speaks hardly any of your language she's gonna have to learn quick
as you are going to learn a bit of time luckily 21st century we have the wonders
of the internet with things like Google Translate and mobile telephone apps this
wasn't available when I was dating I bought one of these clunky old
translators and it did the job but it would have been a lot easier with what
you've got available today to you so use those apps use that software even invest
in some software have a try different ones and if you can find the right
software that you can both use then share it with us please
get your girlfriend a good mobile phone forget laptops forget email cafes get
her a good mobile phone. Get her a new SIM card get her a internet package but she
is always available to use and talk to you forget line app
forget messenger go back to emails so you've got those emails or visas in the
future it's easy to use line and messenger and ok use them for video
conferences but you can record your conversations again video evidence for
reasons further down the line but make sure you do emails do all your banking
money anything to do with money email get receipts all that helps with the
relationship for the visa in the future so you get yourself your girlfriend a
good phone you pay for a new sim you pay for an internet package set it up with
your bank the last thing you want is halfway through your new relationship or
your long-distance relationship it's for her to run out of money cell phone or
run out of money can't get internet package to talk to you
can you stop selling the phone no not really but that comes in a minute when
we talk about money get it a phone gather a sim package get her an internet
package and you pay it for the year that way you've always got contact 24/7 no
excuses money the money think long distance what have you learnt a bit
about the Thai culture does she have a big family does she have a small family
have you met them as the boyfriend as we mentioned on
other videos you will be expected to finance your girlfriend's family to a
certain degree regardless if you're on the other side of the world is your
girlfriend in the entertainment zone if she is you probably want to get her out
of that but again there's tricky stories about that girls go saying they're gonna
leave and don't but let's presume you've got a wonderful wonderful toy partner
wherever she's working you need to get her settled she's got good accommodation
you want the best for her job you want the best for her you want to help her do
her job you don't want her stopped working and you send loads of money so
she's just walking around bored and spending money that's the last thing you
want you want her working you want her having a bank account you want money
going into the bank account again for the visas further down the line her
salary into the bank account savings you need to supply a an amount of money that
you sit and talk about to help her her family and her and wherever she is a
room if you're serious about this new Thai partner then you will be in a
better place if you do finance her and her family going forward if you're in a
relationship long distance and it's just the platonically or or it's just for fun it's
not going to be serious then most of these tips don't apply to you because
your relationship is not serious you're just gonna play around
no problem this is fine but if you're serious long-distance you need to put
these into place so you don't fall out and don't get the problems that I got
mine was simple not understanding the emails properly the tone of language
mistrust loss phone couldn't get in communication drove me mad then found
out that that girl had many boyfriends and I ended it you don't want these
things happening you want to be on a solid base from when you decide you're
going to get serious treat this young lady with the respect she deserves and
plan your future but whilst you're on the other side the world you were
earning money she's earning money you're both saving if the long time the
long-term goal is to get married live wherever put these in place so money how
much it's a tricky one the average Thai salary for let's say retail or factory
outside of main cities is about 15,000 Thai Baht a month if you're in a city
Bangkok is probably double but if you're in the other cities if you're in the
entertainment zones it could be more it could be 15 to 20 thousand bucks
that's enough to live on most rooms for rent a rank Thailand or about three four
thousand bar if your partner share him with another girl tough how much does
she send home have you met the family what do they leave money for you don't
want to leave your Thai partner short on money you want her saving money for that
future visa money going up don't send too much money try and work
out what she spend in a month if you can send that much and then she saves her
salary that'll look great in the bank book future but money don't send too
much you send too much it'll just get away
how to send money again you've got a new Thai partner the other side of the
world if you're gonna go down the visa path and take your partner to your own
country for a visit or to live you need proof of incomes and bank accounts with
that pending visa application of the future so open a new Bank account for
your Thai partner go together maybe it's a joint account maybe it's hers maybe do
hers and a joint account get our salary paid into her account by pushing money
around the accounts and you send me money and money from the account then going to
the family you have a trail which will help you actually send him money
from your country I use transferwise to send money from abroad to Thailand
there's a link in the comments below providing you're not sending thousands
of pounds and dollars it's brilliant it's very very cheap rates and you get a
great exchange rate but you can use money grams you do direct bank
transfers whichever way you go keep records photocopies and it's not a bad
thing to build all these every time you send money get a piece of paper
photocopy it printed a starter file emails print them put them in a file
photos print them put them in a file your file will build up and when it
comes to that visa you've got so much information there and proof that you are
in a good relationship the worst part of living on the opposite side of the world
from each other and you're missing each other
but if arguments happen all the time it's normal but trust you have to trust
each other you have to believe in each other trust each other
and work towards a common goal it's very easy to mistrust something happens
something is said by a partner it's not quite right you've misunderstood before
you know it you're not trusting and mistrust comes in and going live in an
argument then the language barrier it escalates I'm bang it's all over
trust that's a really hard thing to build up with a new partner I mentioned
about get the phone get an internet package get the email setup get the
money in place get bank account set up this is really this video is for serious
long-distance relationships people are really doing her down the path of
marriage try and get photos of family as well would help especially if you're
there when you're on holiday change your clothes different photos around can be a
pain but it works well in the end on that girls who work in the entertainment
zone that you've met there are diamonds there you might have met the perfect
wife to the future if she's in that zone it's probably best to try and get a
right if you do you're gonna have to financier for the first few months where
if she goes back to her family she's gonna find a job in a village so
it might cost you it's worth it it is worth it again you don't want bank
statements from the main entertainment zones and the money sporadically going
in and out and in large amounts small amounts it doesn't look good having a
constant flow of money and savings helps but these are in the future so it's all
about long distance trust apps translation the biggest fault as I said
is and breakdown communication so hard to
understand each other but if you take your time and your patient and you set
aside times for calls get into a pattern of call times get your laptop set up get
the apps ready so you can actually make time peace time away from you turn your
phone off then everything you know your all the stuff you don't need off
a lot of doors keep the people a quiet time and spend 30 minutes with hour with
each other each day spend 30 minutes a day or an hour communication with each
other slowly and try and maybe help your Thai partner get to a night school it's
not that expensive in Thailand for a girl to get some English lessons there
are lots of organizations around and private tutors great investment great
investment there we go my top tips on keeping the long distance relationship
going I hope that helped you with some helpful
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