Hey guys, it is Cara and today I wanted to talk about: *booty song plays* or more like
the lack of today I wanted to speak to my fellow "no curves" girls out there you know
the girls without the hourglass figure, who have the A cups, and the tiny butts you're
the ladies I'm speaking to today and even if you're not one of those ladies, tune in
it's an important message.
I wanted to make this video today because I feel like it's a topic that's not frequently
addressed.
And I know from personal experience it can be easy to feel bad about yourself in a world
that hyper-sexualizes everyone, men and women.
I'm still not a very "curvy" person, but in middle school I was very very thin and especially
guys would make fun of me a lot.
They'd call me flat chested or they'd yell across the room saying who would ever like
a girl without curves.
Mean things like that; mean middle school things.
And I remember girls in the locker room comparing bra sizes and I overhear all the time people
secretly teasing strangers because their butt doesn't resemble Beyonce's.
Which is ridiculous because who could honestly resemble Beyonce in any way shape or form?
Being a girl who doesn't have huge curves is a bit of an odd place to be in and I think
personally this is because society, especially as of lately, has a really weird ideal of
what the "perfect woman" is.
Tina Fey described it best in her book "Bossypants" when she said
And
though this quote by the amazing Tina Fey whose book you should really read, is humorous
I do think it perfectly describes that there are all these qualities of the "perfect woman"
but having them all together is very unrealistic and it ends up leaving almost every woman
out there feeling really crappy about themselves and feeling inadequate in some way.
Even Kim Kardashian I am sure has felt sucky about her body sometimes.
So on one hand, if you're a girl with a more slender body type you might be regarded as
thin and seen in a more positive light because society places more value on women's thinness.
But on the other hand, that same woman with a slender body type might be seen as possibly
starving herself, people might make accusatory claims saying she needs to eat a burger or
that she looks underfed, she looks like a skeleton, something is "wrong" with her.
Or she might be seen as not a "real woman" because apparently a real woman has big butts
and big boobs.
And I don't know how you have multiple butts, don't know why I pluralized that but a real
woman apparently has more than two butts - two or more butts.
That's a thing.
I see a lot of people doing this with celebrities like Ariana Grande and it's really sad to
see.
I can't understand why people feel like it's their right to shame someone else's body;
another person's body.
It's not yours to comment on.
Ariana is beautiful and your comments comparing her to a prepubescent boy is wrong, it's rude,
and it is a form of bullying.
Just like fat-shaming, skinny-shaming is a thing and it's not okay.
And for those who claim to be looking out for someone's health when they make those
statements "Oh you need to go eat a burger!"
"Oh I think she's anorexic!"
"Ugh she looks like a skeleton!"
Those type of things.
There's a huge difference between genuinely looking for someone's health and bullying.
If you're genuinely concerned for someone's health, go seek them out privately and talk
to them or go talk to a counselor so they can get some help.
That's going to be a lot more effective than publicly shaming them online or in person
because that's just going to worsen any problems that already exist.
But back to the "real woman" thing that I was talking about earlier.
It's always so frustrating to me, because I see these posts on Facebook and Instagram,
when I see things saying that "oh a real woman has a booty" a real woman this, a real woman
that blah blah blah blah you know what that is, that's a bunch of you get it.
So I'm here to settle the debate once and for all.
Do you identify as a woman?
Yes, okay perfect.
Go to a mirror and then look at that reflection.
See that figure staring back at you?
That's what a real woman looks like.
Congratulations!
We figured this out together.
Unless you turned around whispering "bloody Mary" three times in the dark then that figure
you're seeing is a ghost and you need to run!
If you're a woman who possesses atoms that make up matter, then congratulations, you're
a real woman!
Crazy, I know.
So my message for my fellow "no curves" girls out there is that your bodies are valid; they
are beautiful and they represent what a real woman looks like, and that real woman is you.
Everybody's bodies are built differently.
We're different and that's what makes us so awesome.
Imagine how boring the world would be if we all looked the exact same.
The fact is that no matter what you do, no matter what you look like, there's always,
always going to be someone who has something bad to say about you.
There's always going to be someone with a negative opinion because that's how people
work.
Some people just can't be pleased and once you realize that you can't please the world
you'll realize you can please yourself though.
And you do have the power to love yourself and no one out there can take that power away
from you.
But yeah, that's it for my little speech.
I really wanted to make that video because I'd seen a lot of self hatred online for people's
bodies and not being happy with what they looked like.
I think this is a message I would've really liked to hear when I was younger and I was
learning to accept my body and be comfortable with it.
I'm at a point now where I'm so much more comfortable with it, and I'm okay that I'm
not going to be the curviest girl out there; that's fine with me.
But there's a lot of people out there who are learning to be okay with what they look
like and I hope that they get there; I hope they can learn to love themselves and be okay
with being different.
Because that's kind of what makes you awesome.
I'm rambling, so I'm going to wrap up this video.
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bye!
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