porn turkish rugs maseratis and relapse what you can learn early in your porn recovery journey i'm
dr trish lee let's break it down together okay so if you haven't seen my videos in a
little while i in fact am dealing with my own recovery journey and the blessing the
silver lining of this happening to me is that it makes me think of you all the time because
difficult and challenging things keep happening to me over and over and over as i try to recover
so i'm going to tell you some stories of some things that have happened to me in the last week
and i'm going to relate it to your porn addiction recovery journey and i'm gonna make sure you
understand that even though it's challenging it's worth it okay so let us start with turkish rugs
okay so last week i had to move out of my home i had to leave all my stuff behind
because it's toxic and moved into a townhouse where i had to buy all new furniture now because
i am sick with mold toxicity it gives me chemical sensitivities because my immune
system is so weak so i feel pretty good for the most part until i get kibashed by a turkish rug
so i buy a carpet and i put it in the new living room and i gotta tell you it really buttons the
room up it really brought the room together i loved it i thought it was pretty cool so
the carpets in the living room and slowly but surely i feel my eyes starting to bug out of
my head my skin's itching i'm feeling worse and worse and worse and i'm like you know
it can't be the carpet then the next morning i wake up i'm full-blown a mess and i had my
daughter adios that carpet and take it back and then over the course of two days i got better
now what's the point when it comes to you is that i bought a carpet i've been buying carpets you
know on and off for a long time i never thought that a carpet could put me into a tailspin
that's the way that it goes with relapse when it comes to leaving porn behind
you have to figure out what your triggers are and i'm figuring out what my current triggers are in
this new situation for you what triggers you and it risks throwing you back into the screen
because that's what your brain needs so my brain needs to protect my body my body needs
to protect itself that's why when chemicals come at it it doubles down in protection mode
figure out what your triggers are maybe it's social media maybe it's going out to restaurants
maybe it's going to the beach people say to me all the time i don't know how i can ever
recover i'm like well what do you do for fun on the weekends i go to the beach every weekend
you might not be able to go to the beach right now if you're going to be able to abstain from
hypersexuality and fantasy thoughts the beach ain't the place to stay away from that so
i learned no turkish carpets now i got better over the course of a couple days and i made a
video the video that i made on the marathon and feeling really good so now my husband who is an
enneagram 8 the way he deals with the stress of this whole situation he buys himself a new car
so he's driven a maserati for a long time and apparently who knows if this is true
i'm sure it is but apparently it had a service issue so he took it into the maserati dealer
that gave him this convertible maserati to drive which he now has purchased so he
needed to use my big truck the other day to move some stuff he's like take the new car
so i'm not really a convertible or a maserati girl but i had to so i put it into convertible
mode and i'm cruising and it's great i'm like this is a nice new car then there's thunderstorm clouds
and it starts to rain so i pull over and i close the top now this is all unassuming right
no big deal then i continue to drive i have to pick my kids up from school
and it starts my eyes start tweaking they're about to bug out of my head i'm itching all
over the place i am going down because of the new maserati and i think it was cleaners that
they used in it of course my hubby is a little annoyed that now the car makes me implode but
you know i did not see that one coming and i was stuck in the car for like an hour and a half
because it was raining and i couldn't put the top down and i'm sitting in carpool i had no choice
and so then when i got home i'm like the car did it to me so i didn't see that as a trigger
i did not know new car would send me into oblivion and that's how it might be for you you might not
know the things that are going to send you back into the screen until you learn from it so what
have i learned i can't do anything new right now my system is so weak it can't handle the chemicals
that they use to clean that car before they roped my husband into buying it i can't handle
that right now so i'm in the townhouse there's no new carpets and i'm hunkering down to make myself
strong enough so i can deal with a turkish carpet and a maserati that's what you need to do
this is a time to get serious about figuring out what triggers you so that you can get
strong enough because they won't trigger you forever it's not going to trigger me forever
i have to build myself up that is the journey of recovery that's the point about the marathon so
the marathon means that the journey is not the same the whole way through but you have to get
started and you have to learn along the way i've talked about this before that when we're building
new neural pathways it's essential to keep going on the new pathway and not go backwards and
actually my doctor said that to me the other day is that i really have to reduce these flare-ups
or i'm going to become even sicker i'm like reduce it i don't even know what's causing it but
the solution is don't do anything new right now so for you figuring out how to stay on the new neural
pathways and not to go back on the old ones so if that means staying away from restaurants so you
don't check out waitresses if that means not going on the internet and only watching disney plus
then which has really good shows these days by the way
you it means you can stay the course on the new neural pathways and let these old ones die down
so you can become strong and well and rock out the journey of recovery as i plan to do so i hope that
this journey this video helps you to be able to do that because like i've said before too is that
if you if you fall and you stumble and you have a relapse at the beginning of this journey you
know sometimes that's par for the course it can be avoided if you just hunker down and do the things
you need to do if i didn't take the maserati if i didn't buy a new carpet i wouldn't have had those
those relapses of mine but i did those things not knowing they were going to make relapses
but i've learned i will not be doing anything new so that i can stay the course and the point
is at the beginning of this journey it might be a little messy i know mine has for goodness sake
but i'm learning and i'm not gonna keep tripping over the same rocks
on this pathway i'm gonna learn and i'm gonna avoid them which means i'm gonna get momentum
and i'm gonna come out of this thing even better on the other side that's what i want for you
that's what you deserve and i know you can do it so get strong learn from your triggers and let's
rock this journey out together okay if you're looking for help please go over to drishley.com uh
i've changed the name to dr trish lee and company because my awesome team has really been helping
me to serve you during this wonky time of mine so go on over there we have a digital program
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