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When you think of finding the one,
what type of person comes to mind?
Do you think of your ideal partner,
someone who truly understands you,
and accepts you just as you are?
Modern media really pushes the idea
of finding that perfect person.
And while indulging in the rom-com fantasy
can be fun and exciting,
being in a relationship
is not a requirement for happiness.
Relationships are a personal choice
and the one you hold with yourself
is the most important one of all.
With that being said, do you wonder
why you haven't met your other half yet?
Here are six reasons why you haven't found the one yet.
One, you lack self-love.
What does self-love actually mean?
In its simplest form,
it means to value yourself
and to make you and your needs a priority.
It means acknowledging that you aren't perfect
and being able to see each personal shortfall
as an opportunity to become a better you.
You might've heard that you can't love someone else
if you don't love yourself first.
And there is some truth to this.
Expecting all the love from your person
to come from someone else
can create dependency and it isn't healthy.
Two, you're not ready to date.
Do you find that maybe you're not ready
to seriously start dating yet.
Do you want to focus on your education,
your career or your family right now?
Making this decision is a personal one.
And it's not a bad thing.
If your instincts are to prioritize
your personal goals for the time being,
that's okay.
For when a relationship does come along,
you'll be better equipped to put all your effort
into that other person.
Three, you've been pursuing the wrong people.
Are you struggling to find any luck
in your dating life?
Before you start blaming yourself,
consider why the relationship with those people
didn't work out.
Remember that the point of dating
is to judge compatibility between two people.
And there's no shame in stopping a relationship there.
When you love and value yourself,
you'll learn to say no to relationships
that might not be healthy for you
so that the right one will come along.
When one door closes, another always opens
but often, we look so long at the closed door
that we do not see the one
which has been opened for us.
Four, you haven't put yourself out there.
While there's nothing wrong
with having a reserved or shy personality,
it could be a factor in why you haven't met the one yet.
Finding your perfect partner
starts with social connection.
If you've been holding out on going to social events
with friends in exchange for more private affairs,
this might be something to consider.
Who knows what might happen
when you step out of your comfort zone?
Five, you're stuck in the past.
It's hard to date someone new
when you're still thinking
about your past relationships.
It's natural to compare a new relationship
to your previous one,
but you might compromise your current relationship
in doing so.
This prevents you from getting to know your new partner
and might be holding you back from them.
Six, you have unrealistic expectations.
What is your outlook on other people?
Do you have high expectations
for your future partner?
Maybe your vision for an ideal partner
leaves little room for error.
Every one of us is flawed and prone to mistakes.
Just because they don't check all your boxes
doesn't mean they won't be a wonderful person.
Wherever you are in your romantic life,
we hope you'll find someone who honors you
for all that you are.
Your special someone will come along eventually.
Did you relate to any of the reasons
mentioned in this video?
If so, what do you plan to do differently?
Tell us in the comments below.
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