With natural skepticism and a constant need to dig deeper, there’s no doubt that INFJs
have a natural tendency to question themselves and their surroundings.
In fact, questioning things is a human trait that just about every type has the ability
to do, but for the INFJ it seems like they never quite settle on a legitimate conclusion.
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Today’s video is all about the INFJ’s favorite question.
The question that gives them the titles of curious creatures and deeply complex thinkers.
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So.. what exactly is this infamous INFJ question you ask?
Well, it’s not who, what, when or where..
But WHY?
INFJs love to ask why.
In fact, the INFJ couldn’t even be completely themselves without asking this necessary question
throughout their lives.
And so, rightfully so, you’re probably wondering WHY exactly is the INFJ so fixed on asking
this seemingly mundane question?
Well, there are a few reasons behind this curiosity..
Number 1: They genuinely want to better the world
INFJs are the ultimate askers and seekers.
And as a result, there comes a time in every INFJ’s life that they begin to realize that
not everybody cares to question the reasoning behind their actions.
They begin to see the truth behind humanity, and that’s that most people don’t mind
to just do something because they were told to do it, just to avoid the hassle of trivialities.
Ignorance is bliss, and for the general population, questioning life makes life a whole lot more
difficult.
So, for the INFJ who can’t stop questioning even if they wanted to, they begin to take
it upon themselves to encourage people to begin questioning the status quo.
INFJs make it a mission to take things out of the neat little boxes society has organized
them in to shine a spotlight on the hidden indecencies and illusions of the world.
This is why so many INFJs are known for being interested in conspiracies and alternative
living choices, because through years of questioning why, they can’t unlearn what they’ve learned.
Number 2: Self improvement
‘Why’ is how the INFJ navigates through the world and how they make their biggest
life choices.
They wouldn’t follow anything blindly without first asking why they’re considering it.
With self improvement being such a major drive behind the INFJs life choices, ‘why’ comes
up a lot when INFJs are self analysing.
If they’re unhappy at a job, they won’t simply take that feeling and prepare to flee,
but instead they question every aspect about their job.
The original ‘why do I dislike my job” question becomes a series of smaller more
important reflection questions such as “how miserable is the commute”, “have I taken
on tasks that wasn’t originally agreed upon”, “am I ready for a new life endeavor”,
“is there a way I can restore my enjoyment at my job”, “do I have any time for myself
anymore”, and the list goes on.
They can easily outweigh the pros and cons intellectually in order to reach a rational
and intuitive decision.
Like we always say, INFJs refuse to take things at face value, and that includes their personal
feelings.
Number 3: Relationships and connections
“Why do you always do that!?”
To anyone that doesn’t know any INFJ, simple why questions like that can certainly come
off as intrusive and rude.
However, for the INFJ’s closest people, they’ll know there's a decent level of genuinity
behind their curiosities.
In fact, any INFJ is lucky to have a small group of people that they can genuinely trust
and let in, because with the tendency to ask ‘why’ comes a host of underlying skepticisms
and unfortunate doubts.
Although this empathetic type is able to easily give people the benefit of the doubt, it doesn’t
mean they’ll be willing to let them in without first questioning all the whys.
The tricky thing is that when an INFJ is first getting to know someone, they know better
than to ask these deep curiosities right to them, and so, the INFJ usually finds the answers
to their questions on their own accord.
Hence their observing nature, INFJs won’t only ask themselves why someone is interested
in them, or why they may be interested in someone else, but also why someone behaves
the way they do, why they have certain habits, and why they lack certain skills.
It’s not in an offensive way, but rather for the sake of self-intellectual and intuitive
research.
Number 4: The INFJ makes people question their rhetorical questions
The INFJ uses ‘why’ question for the complete opposite reasons of mundanity.
Rhetorical questions and unanswerable questions for example, aren’t in the INFJ’s vocabulary.
And so, questions like ‘why me?’
or ‘why can’t it be my turn to get a break?’
come with a hefty price when you’re asking them to an INFJ, because they will actively
attempt to answer that exact question.
Not that they don’t notice when someone isn’t being literal, but because they use
questioning to broaden their knowledge.
So, when a question is presented to an INFJ, their minds can involuntarily try to sort
through their extraverted sensing information that has been observed over time, to find
a logical answer to present.
In other words, if someone asks ‘why me’, INFJs don’t resort to the classic ‘that’s
just the way the world works’ or ‘nobody said it was going to be easy’, but instead
look back at the series of events that resulted in this feeling, and then suggest a different
direction.
Number 5: To avoid lack of purpose
Aside from self improvement, every INFJ needs a purpose in not only life, but in everything
they do.
They need to know the point of everything because they find it difficult to apply themselves
in tasks that have no point or purpose.
Similar to wanting better for the world and the people in it, INFJs ask ‘why’ to avoid
conforming without reasoning.
Regardless if it’s a moral or logical manner, when the INFJ is being asked to do something,
go somewhere, say something, or make a decision - you better be prepared to answer a host
of questions before even getting their opinion on the manner.
For example, if a boss asks them to do something without reasoning, an INFJ may not ask directly,
but they’ll always end up finding out the underlying cause.
However, they probably won’t complete the task to the best of their abilities, because
purpose drives the INFJ like nothing else in life.
Number 6: They can easily find the answers
Every INFJ has probably annoyed a teacher or two while growing up because despite their
introverted nature, their burning curiosity won’t hold back when presented with information
that sparks some questioning.
Besides deep and complex questions that could easily send the average person down a rabbit
hole of confusion, the INFJ also questions the simpler things in life.
Like, why is the ocean blue?
Why do people yawn?
Why are french fries called french fries?
I’m sure at one point in time, the curious INFJ was a whole lot more curious, considering
the lack of information readily at hand.
Luckily, for the modern-day INFJ type, answering certain ‘whys’ of the world got a whole
lot easier with the overtake of the world wide web.
A lot of curiosities that were originally deemed unanswerable became easily accessible,
which makes the game of asking why a little more enticing.
In fact, most INFJs don’t even realize how often they ask everyday questions until they
don’t have access to that wealth of information.
Number 7: They actually can’t help it
The reasoning behind the notorious INFJ why-questioning is that, quite frankly, they just can’t
help themselves!
With their unique function stack of introverted intuition, extroverted feeling, introverted
thinking and extroverted sensing, INFJs are natural advocates with notably high moral
standards.
From earlier on in childhood, INFJs resort to quenching their curiosities by challenging
their authority figures and the information or rules imposed on them.
However, they won’t just challenge anyone, only the people open enough to have patience
and respect for their questioning.
Because while on one end of the token is the INFJ’s burning curiosities, the other end
holds their people-pleasing obligation.
Even from a young age, INFJs begin to observe who they can trust to ask questions and who
they may offend.
And as a result, unfortunately, an INFJ who is shut down early on for asking too many
questions can be faced with some serious turmoil.
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os..
So.. if you’re an INFJ yourself, what is the most life-changing “Why” question
you’ve asked yourself?
Let us know in the comments below.
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