this is the sunday motivational video
every Sunday we bring you a different
type of video which should improve your
life today we're looking at 15 skills
that will pay off forever welcome to a
Lux calm the place where future
billionaires come to get inspired hello
a Luxor's this was originally supposed
to be one of the 25 questions in 25 days
videos but we simply couldn't under
deliver on this premise so we made an
entire Sunday motivational video about
the topic we broke down the most
valuable skills anyone can acquire these
particular skills have the largest
impact in someone's both personal and
professional life once you acquire them
they stick with you for your entire life
and will continuously improve the
quality of your existence most of them
are difficult to master but if you do
the rewards are endless if you are new
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here's a list of the 15 skills that will
pay off forever
number 1 learning how to learn this is
the holy grail of skills once you
realize that every type of skill can be
learned if you follow a particular set
of steps the world starts to look a lot
like a video game you can level up and
acquire new abilities since you know
what type of effort time and focus it
will take to learn a new skill this is
one of the most underrated competencies
one could have yet one that's likely to
have the largest benefit in the long run
when you know how to learn the only
thing left to do is allocate yourself
the time and resources to upgrade your
software with whatever skills would make
your life better number 2 ability to
adapt improvise and overcome obstacles
this isn't just a Bear Grylls
catchphrase it's actually what allows
you to keep moving forward and survive
the hard times you're going to face in
your journey only the ignorant are under
the impression they have their life all
figured out and it's going to be all
straight roads from now onward that
person is in for a massive surprise in
the words of Mike Tyson everyone has a
plan until they get punched in the mouth
life is not fair it's complex and your
dedication to keep moving on is what
allows you to win hard times are ahead
people will betray your trust things
will not work out in your favor
you'll be put down to the ground or
probably already have been change your
attitude seek alternative routes get
creative and overcome what life throws
at you if things are getting harder it
means you're leveling up in the game of
life number three meditation you are not
your body you are not the things you own
you are not what people think of you you
are your mind everything that makes you
who you are
resides in that cage made of bone
between your ears that's who you are
that is what makes you you every action
idea thought desire weakness and sorrow
begins here over 80% of successful
people have a form of daily meditation
practice in their lives everybody else
ignores this as mumbo jumbo because they
have no idea how to do it and how
valuable it actually is this is one of
the most premium skills anyone can have
in their arsenal if you are in control
of your mind you can tame it and train
it to make it stronger you're on an
entirely different level than everyone
else you see life more clearly you make
better decisions and your potential
expands while everyone else remains
limited that's why earlier this year we
flew all the way to Bali Indonesia
in order to put together a meditation
course that's built for people like us
the a lock serves once it's ready anyone
who's interested in acquiring this
valuable skill should be able to go from
understanding the basic to actually
using meditation in their daily lives
for progress number four the ability to
verbalize what you think and feel you'd
be amazed how few people can put into
words what they believe what they feel
and what they think about an issue this
is one of the biggest downfalls of
relationships one of the partners is
unable to tell the other person what's
wrong and instead they choose to bury
that feeling of Sora within themselves
until it builds up to the inevitable
collapse of the relationship this goes
beyond romantic relationships it's even
between friendships co-workers and
family members people are so often
scared to speak up when they feel in a
different way and that's how you end up
with living a mediocre life because the
path is no longer dictated by what would
be sustainable for the long run and
instead it's written by unsatisfactory
compromises if you are not 100% honest
and involved in the process it will be
easy to let it go in the hopes that
something better comes along
none of these parties win and you're all
just wasting time number five the
ability to sell and negotiate everything
you do is a sale or a negotiation
process if you want a girlfriend or
boyfriend you need to sell them on the
idea of you being the right person for
them you want a job then you need to be
able to sell your skill set over that of
other potential hires even to yourself
you have to sell the idea that you can
be and do better than you're doing today
selling is not a synonym for lying
selling is a rational process in which
you break down why your solution will
add value to the other party selling is
pursuing others to join you towards
career
a better outcome for you both this feeds
right into the ability to verbalize what
we mentioned earlier life is a constant
negotiation with others with yourself
and even with time itself remember what
we taught you about trading with the
future that is a negotiation with time
it's a negotiation between effort and
satisfaction under the umbrella of time
by doing the things that people won't
right now you are negotiating a future
where you can enjoy a life that is
unavailable to many others selling can
be taught and it'll prove to be highly
useful to have it in your utility belt
if you want to go deeper with this we
recommend you pick up Daniel Pink's book
to sell is human in it you'll find out
what it takes to make children act in a
way you desire how to understand what
the other person is thinking and come up
with a solution that satisfies both
parties we know the audio book is rather
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start getting what you want in life then
it's time to start selling number six
knowing how to shut up listen and learn
from the person you're talking to isn't
that right a lack sirs how many people
do you recall that never know when to
shut up if you're the one talking you
are not growing because you're the one
putting out what you already know the
only way for you to improve is to
actively listen and we mean really
listening to someone else because it's
different from just hearing them it
involves paying attention creating a
mental blueprint of the information
which you can access if you need to
always assume the person you're talking
to knows something that you don't don't
get blindsided by arrogance it's more
important to grow then give the
impression that you already know
everything that right there is what
differentiates the
from the pretenders number seven the
ability to self-motivate there will
always be days when you don't feel like
getting out of bed there will definitely
be days when you don't feel like getting
out of bed a lot of them there will be
days when you don't want to get back to
the grind there's going to be days when
you feel like you're not making any
progress those are the days that make
the difference between those who are
going to make it and those who will find
excuses for their failures how you make
it happen how you convince your body and
mind to move in accordance with what you
know is better then whatever alternative
might be on the table resides in
yourself and it's called willpower the
level of self motivation someone can
deploy is directly correlated to the
following his or her level of confidence
the positive outlook on the outcome the
quality of the goal and the environment
they created for themselves number eight
discipline building up from that
previous point and we end up with
discipline if you've been following this
channel for a while you know that
success is the sum of small actions
repeated over extended periods of time
no matter how small of a step you make
every day give it enough time and you'll
reach your destination people are not
consistent they don't run the course
they don't play the long game and get
distracted by shiny objects the
temptation is big to jump on a new fad
and start over but even if you start
making some progress there another shiny
object will pass by and you'll want to
follow that instead that's what keeps
people from making real progress we
believe everyone's life can be
dramatically improved for the better if
they get better at discipline that's why
a while back we made one of the most
valuable videos on this channel it could
have easily been put behind a paywall
because of the value in it yet we choose
to give it to you our community for
three the video is called 15 steps to
master self-discipline and you can watch
it by clicking in the top right corner
the 50 day challenge will change the way
you live
number 9 time management success in life
is determined by the ability to make use
of the resources you have on hand and
time is one of those resources we all
wake up with the same 24 hours in a day
but when we close our eyes at night some
people have made more progress than
others
simply put some people use their time
efficiently while others choose to waste
it the first person will live a great
life while the other one will get angry
at God for making life unfair every day
you vote with your time of how you wish
your life to be do you choose to watch
TV or pursue your goals it's a simple
choice and your current reality is the
reflection of the choices you've made
with your time we hope that when you
look around you you're pleased with what
you see number 10 the ability to read
understand and memorize to this day we
still can't believe how few people are
aware of the power of books the fact
that you can learn from someone's entire
life experience in just a couple of days
is the biggest knowledge leverage
available around it's never been easier
to get access to valuable information
strategies and advice a single book can
change your life one page can spark an
idea in you that will transform your
entire existence read more but read to
understand read to comprehend and store
that knowledge make use of it in your
life read for self development not for
entertainment find books that have
someone's struggles embedded in the
pages and the solutions they use to
overcome them in years time the average
American will spend over 42 hours in
traffic alone
that's more than one workweek sitting in
a car looking at miserable people use
that time to listen to podcasts and
audiobooks use your downtime to make
yourself better don't know where to
start we've made several videos with
lists of books for specific situations
you might find yourself in in life just
search for a Lux books and start
figuring out what you need help with
even better because of the deal we have
with audible when you go to a lacks calm
/ free book you can get one audio book
for free that's free knowledge for you
to have right in front of you it's just
a matter of choosing to act on it the
average CEO reads over 50 books per year
while the average person barely reads
one how many books did you finish this
year number 11 the ability to break a
process down into smaller steps this is
one of the reasons why we've managed to
build a successful company most people
look at the end result I want to have a
million dollars but never break it down
what does it take to get there how many
sales do I need to make what needs to
happen every month every week and every
day so at the end of the year I can hit
that goal that's what successful people
do they do the math they start breaking
down their goals that is what plans are
if you're not breaking down a goal to
milestones you're just dreaming it's
just wishful thinking that's why people
in STEM fields are massively
outperforming everyone else because they
are taught how to deconstruct an issue
and solve it in a step-by-step manner
you never learned this from studying
literature it's a distinct type of
thinking which gives you an edge over
everyone else number 12
self analysis you can only improve what
you can measure
almost every successful person is
tracking their progress no matter what
field or industry they're in you want to
lose weight
tracking your food and documenting your
weight everyday pretty soon you'll
realize the impact of what you eat and
your level of activity has on the number
shown on that scale once you see what's
good for you you'll do more of it and
less of the bad things it's pretty
obvious yet most of you do not track
anything in your life
we have analytics for everything we want
to improve the analysis shows that you
have a clearer picture of what you're
dealing with from your actions to your
feelings it can all be analyzed number
thirteen emotional intelligence and
empathy like it or not you will have to
deal with people we are all part of a
giant social mechanism that relies on us
working cohesively together emotional
intelligence allows you to have a smooth
ride while navigating these dangerous
waters
people who lack emotional intelligence
grow frustrated think everyone hates
them and believe other people are
unjustifiably getting promoted in life
emotional intelligence is a skill is
your ability to interact with people to
understand them talk to them and
motivate them we are not machines we
have good days and bad days we have
different sets of values and respond to
different triggers emotional
intelligence allows you to see and
understand the differences between
individuals people with high EQ actually
outperform those with high IQ in life
because of this others simply want them
to succeed more number 14 self-respect
and having a backbone speaking of values
do you know what you stand for who are
you as a person
once you do you can start acting
accordingly
you'll stand your ground you'll not let
others walk all over you people treat
you the way you treat yourself not the
way you treat others those who have a
high degree of self-respect also happen
to be
the ones society respects the most it's
always fascinating to see someone who
speaks out when things aren't going in
the right direction someone who calls
out the unjust these are the people who
influence the world and through their
actions change it for the better
Martin Luther King Malala yousufzai and
people like them all act by having a
backbone and not selling your ideology
for thirty pieces of silver number 15
the ability to generate ideas that have
value we've already established that
your mind is the most powerful weapon
you have in your arsenal think of your
mind like a large piece of fertile land
in which you can plant crops the mind
doesn't care what you plant in it it
will do its job and grow that crop some
people plant useful trees while others
fill their mind with weeds if you can
take care of your mind you'll be able to
fruit quality ideas that will bring joy
success and fulfillment in your life
however the same with a tree it will not
bear fruit overnight it will take time
and nourishment for the tree to grow
keep watering it and giving it what it
needs and soon you'll be able to come up
with more and better ideas ideas are
free and a single idea can make you rich
successful and happy a string of good
ideas can make life easier for you and
can slowly move you in the right
direction but the goal is to focus on
ideas that have value
none of these skills are easy to master
but once you do you'll reap benefits for
the rest of your life from them so it
pays greatly to invest in acquiring as
many of them as you can which of these
15 are you currently trying to master
let us know in the comments and we'll be
sure to join you in the conversation as
a reward for sticking with us for the
entire year and watching this video all
the way to the end you get a bonus skill
which made one of the biggest
differences in our journey
number 16 the ability to simulate
outcomes this one is as close to
cheating at the game of life as it gets
it's like a superpower in which you can
look into the future and decide which
version of it you want to live every day
you sit at the crossroads of life you
can change pick between options and
adjust your course if need be that's
where this skill comes into play let's
say you're undecided between becoming a
doctor or an engineer for the sake of
the argument all you have to do is
simulate what your life will be like if
you pursue each of these paths and see
which outcome you would rather live and
then commit to it the more detail you
can simulate in your mind the more
accurate of a prediction you can make
resulting in a better decision for
yourself what will your life be like if
you continue to date this person will
you be happy or are you just scared of
being alone simulate your circumstances
for both the near and long-term futures
the more things you simulate the better
you are at predicting what will happen
after simulating all the possible
arguments you can have with someone
you'll be able to pick the one who gets
you the best result with the minimum
downside to many of you jump into the
fight without analyzing the situation
first and then complain that the outcome
isn't what you wanted that's why people
relive moments of their lives in their
heads thinking if only I did it this way
instead well you can but you have to
simulate the situation beforehand so you
don't end up living with that regret if
you think you can use this skill in your
life please write simulate next to your
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