Okay empaths, you're going to get taken advantage of if you don't follow these
simple rules. Okay? You're going to get taken advantage of. So watch closely so you don't get
taken advantage of. Alright, let's talk. Let's talk about what how to
keep yourself safe as you have a gigantic heart and an open mind to reach
out to other people and now you feel like you're super connected to all these
different people. As an empath, you're going to get yourself in trouble because
you could let people in way too close. And once you start to let people in way
too close, you could be in a place of getting hurt or manipulated. So, let's
talk about how to keep yourself safe by taking a look at all of the different
layers of personal space that you have. You as an individual have more than just
one layer of personal space. The common person, the common person, if you stick
your hand out like this that distance right there is like your personal space.
And that personal space can expand or it can contract. But it moves based upon
feeling safe and it moves based upon trust level with people. Now, this
personal space actually has another line. Right here at your elbow, this is called
your intimate space. So right where your elbow is, intimate space. Right where your
hand is, is personal space. Like these 2 right here. Intimate space, personal space.
As an empath, you do not let somebody in your intimate space. Unless it's your
husband or it's your wife. That's the only person that gets into your personal
space and literally can be inside that space and you literally share all of
your emotion and all of your personal energy with that
person. What happens as an empath, you open up to be able to receive
information from other people. But what an empath doesn't understand is need to
keep this area around you closed. Keep it closed so that this person can't reach
in and take advantage of you. Because empaths have their hearts really open
because they reach out and sense and feel people and their minds are very
open. And these people out here there are people in the world that are actually
mean. They're mean and they don't do nice things to people. And I'd hate for that
to ever happen to you. Because you have such a big open heart. So, this space
right here is called the social space. This right here is called the casual
space. Personal space, intimate space. And so, I wanted to show you this picture so
that you can realize you have 4 different protective layers around you.
And these four different protective layers can alert you when something is
not right. When something's not okay. They can alert you. So, if this person began to
reach into your personal space and they cross this first line. If you have
yourself set up for alerts or cautions, your own energy field can warn you of a
person who could be a possible danger, a possible harm to you. And I'll show you
how to do that in just a moment. But instead of it being clear in here, where
you finally get a warning, it could be too late. And now, that person's too close
to you and they literally become like an energy vampire to you. I know I just said
that. But it's real. An energy vampire where they literally... Since you're open
they just literally suck the life out of you. And if you... Have ever had that happen
to you? You know what I'm talking about. And energy vampires kind of a weird
thing to say. And it's just a term we use to talk about people who suck the energy
out of you. And you probably all maybe you've met somebody like that. But
we got to be cautious of those people because before we know it, they've
drained us of our energy. And you literally feel depleted as they're
walking away. So, you set yourself up with some safety guidelines of how to
recognize when somebody is taking advantage of you. But to remember you
have 4 protective layers. Not just one. Not just 1, you have 4. And these
2 right here reach further out. They reach further out. So, how you activate
these 2 realms so that they can protect you and help you be super
sensitive about people. Is you need to decide who can connect to you and who
cannot. What type of person are you willing to emotionally, mentally,
energetically connect to. Meaning, because an empath, you reach out and you and you
sense and feel people. But what kind of person is a person you don't want to
engage with and what kind of person do you want to engage with? Here's an
example. If this person was a person who hurts people and has no interest in
personal development, that would be a person I would say goes on the do not
engage with. So, what this really looks like? It looks like a pad of paper with a
line down the middle and on one side, it says, "People I want to connect to or
engage with." And on the other side it says, "People I don't want to engage with."
If you don't clarify where the line is then your mind is just gonna reach out
and connect everybody. And you're going to be reckless. And you're going to reach out
and connect everybody. And then somebody amongst all these people is going to do
something to hurt you. And that could be emotionally, mentally,
physically, energetically. But to help activate these 2 realms out here, these
two borders or boundaries around you, you need to decide who you want to engage
with and who you don't want to engage with. But you have to drop the guidelines.
Because if you have not done this, these 2 outer edges of who you are,
they don't have rules to govern how they're going to function. And they can't
give you the alert to tell you that there's some danger happening with this
particular person. We must set the guidelines. We must set the calibrations
so that our mind can warn us and alert us when those calibrations and lines
have been crossed. So, to activate these 2, you decide who and what type of
person you want to engage with and what type of person you don't even want to
even reach out or even touch into their world at all. So, hurtful people,
manipulative people, people are going to take advantage of you. People that are
going to suck the energy out of you. People that are going to make you feel
like you're the bad person. People that are not teachable. You can still love
them, you can still talk to them, you can still have a conversation with them. But
you don't open up your gigantic heart and let them in. That can hurt you. So, you
make a list of all the people the types of people you don't want to have those
engagements with. But then equally you need to write down the list that you
want to engage with. And that will help clarify how this outside borders and
boundaries can protect you and sense and alert you of good people. So, you want to
work with people that are teachable. People who want their life to be better.
People that are hurt but they're willing to recover and mend their life. People
who are responsible, people who are accountable. People who are willing to
try something new. So those are great people to reach out to. And to engage
with and to use your empathic abilities to support and help with. But notice I've
got 2 different lists. If you don't activate these 2 different lists of
who you don't want to engage with and who you do one engage with, then these
outside boundaries and borders for yourself, your personal space boundaries,
they don't know what to do? They just kind of let everybody in. And so then
this person comes in and now they're like, more connected and engaged with you
then you thought they would be. And then they might even get a little bit closer
and then your warning light goes off. But they're literally energetically super
connected to you. I found it could be too late, they could
say something energetically or emotionally hurts you, manipulate you.
Make you feel bad. Turn the story around on you. And now you got to deal
with them and they're that close to you. So, you're the one who needs to create
the personal rules. It's you. You're the one need to keeps creates the rules of
who can and who can't. Because up until now, you've only had one space that
you're governing. But activate these other 3 realms because you are
deciding what is allowed in and what is not allowed in. For you to feel safe and
for you to be able to use your empath abilities at its highest level, you need
to establish boundaries and rules. Because then you will notice that you
can fully engage with people who are the right type of people to fully engage
with. And you literally can be a type of person to sense danger. Be able to sense
danger way out there. And you could be in a room with a whole bunch of people and
you literally could pick out the people who are reckless and dangerous. And that
could that could turn into a way of protecting your friends or protecting
your family. Because you can sense and feel that. Because you're outside bubble
is literally that sensitive. And it can give you that warning and that alert so
you can take action and remove yourself. Get out of there or adjust things so
nothing happens to you. But I care about your safety and I care about your
experiences. And I've seen too many people get hurt and they come to me and
they're like, "Kirk, why did this happen?" And I asked, "Do you have boundaries
and borders that protect you?" And they're like, "What are you
talking about?" And I draw this picture for them and I said, "What governs this
line?" And they got nothing. They got nothing. If we don't have any rules and
boundaries that that govern the outside lines then the dangerous and the
reckless can walk in. I think just come right through that. And the closer they
get, the more dangerous it could be. So, it's about being safe. And it's also
being being able to sensitive to the right kinds of people so you can have
great experiences. You've got a great gift. You know, and the heavens have
blessed you with a great gift. Protect yourself.
Establish these types of conditions so that it can support you as you go around
and supporting and caring for other people. Your gift has been given to you
to help people understand themselves. Help them understand themselves, what
they're going through and what's happening to them. Because you understand
them, even sometimes even more than you understand yourselves. Well, let's
establish and wake up these outside lines so they can be a benefit
to you. hey empaths, really excited to talk to
you and be able to share this great information with you.
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