if you have children or you plan on
having children and you want to raise
them in the most loving authentic and
empowering way what you're about to
discover in this video will transform
the way you think about parenting and it
all starts with this one question are
you raising your children or are you
raising the child inside you these are
the words of dr. Shefali Sabari she's
one of the world's foremost experts in
the field of conscious parenting she's
been on Oprah seven times I put her on
stage at mine Valley University and she
has wowed the audience and she has had a
truly powerful impact on my style of
parenting and thus on the lives of my
children you kind of popularized the
term conscious parenting but what is
that what does it mean to be a conscious
parent it's to realize that - every
moment in your life but mostly - your
parenting you are bringing your unhealed
wounds from your childhood so the
raising of the child becomes the eternal
question which child are we raising are
we raising the real child or the child
within each one of us because all of us
sitting here today and all watching are
just children just at more adult more
ready to pay a bill or two but really we
are tantruming screaming crying
desperate inner children one of the
cornerstones of Shapley's teachings is
that our style of parenting actually
comes from the unique set of beliefs
challenges and ideologies that we take
on as parents from our childhood and we
pass this on to our kids we fail to see
how the subconscious ideas that we took
on how the beliefs of the world that we
started to believe we were true from our
mothers fathers teachers preachers
educators in fact our mind and then we
pass these to our kids without bothering
to analyze are these beliefs really
necessary real and true in today's world
we fail to see how very often we pass
down
dysfunctional ideas beliefs morality and
concepts to our children and we do this
because we are unconscious of what is
really going on in the background of our
lives when I became a parent I laid down
all of these rules my children were
going to be well-behaved my children
were going to love school my children
are going to be the kids that brought
home the ACE they would hopefully get
into an Ivy League university they would
learn the value of money there would be
the kids that I would be proud of that I
that other parents would say they want
and I realize all of that was
dysfunctional yet don't we all do this
most of us approach parenting fully
unconscious we think we know it all we
think its genetic we think it's a
natural instinct but we are simply
taking on the ideas that we got from our
parents who got it from their parents
who got it from their parents who got it
from a world 100 years ago for example I
used to believe as a parent that my job
was to keep my children happy the
problem here according to Shefali is
that if we teach kids to avoid pain we
actually slow down their rate of growth
nature and life is filled with
challenges and obstacles they are gonna
be ups and downs instead don't teach a
child to avoid pain teach them to find
their inner strength this is a better
way this is just one tiny piece of what
I learned from Shefali and when you take
a closer look you'll start to see that
all her lessons connect but ultimately
it comes to one thing are you raising
your children or are you attempting to
raise a little child inside you the big
realization is that if you want to raise
a truly conscious empowered sufficient
incredible child you first have to fully
develop the child within it means
dealing with your drama dealing with
your subconscious programming dealing
with your dysfunctional beliefs this is
the core of conscious parenting it is
liberating I cannot express to you how
this has completely changed my
relationship with my children and if you
like these ideas and you want to go
deeper I encourage you to enroll in this
masterclass completely free with me and
dr. Shefali sabari you're gonna learn
some of the core ideas of conscious
parenting and in the course of one hour
you will gain transformative insights
that you can immediate bring back to
your life as parents and to elevate the
live and the possibilities of your
children I'll see you there
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