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Do you struggle with sabotaging feelings of self-doubt?
Do you feel that this has ruined your chances
for happiness or success?
Are you worried that you're doing this to yourself?
Trust is when we have a firm belief in the truthfulness,
strength and ability of someone or something.
Learning how to trust yourself is the key
to creating a healthy relationship with yourself.
As it fosters a deeper sense of self-love
self-compassion and self-confidence within you,
but maybe self-trust doesn't come so easily to you.
So how can you tell if you lack self-trust?
Here are eight signs that you struggle to trust yourself.
Number one, you always second-guess yourself.
You have a hard time making decisions
no matter how small they might be.
You often find yourself wavering
between choices for long periods of time,
unable to make up your own mind.
Being indecisive and constantly second-guessing yourself
shows that you're struggling to trust your own judgment
and decision absolutely paralyzes you,
because the possibility of making a mistake
fills you with fear.
You feel overwhelmed when you have too much freedom,
because you lack the confidence to stand by your decisions.
Number two, you overthink everything.
Once you finally do make up your mind,
you immediately start wondering if you made the right choice
and more often than not you start seeing all the reasons why
you should have gone with the other option instead.
Anxiety, guilt and regret
follows behind everything that you do.
You overthink all your choices and behaviors,
because you don't have enough faith in yourself
to believe you can do well and succeed.
You're so convinced that you're windup
making some kind of mistake that it makes you hesitant,
timid and unsure of yourself.
Three, you trust other people's opinions more than your own.
Do you value the opinions of your friends
and family over your own?
Are you easily swayed by their opinions?
And can't make a decision
without asking for their input first.
Say for example,
you wanna buy something you've had your eye on for ever,
but because your friends tell you, they don't like it,
you change your mind.
You're easily discouraged from your own desires
and prone to pleasing others,
because the truth is you trust everyone else
more than you trust yourself.
Number four, you don't validate your own experiences.
Are you forgetful or do you easily get confused?
You often find yourself feeling like
you've left something behind
or forgotten to do something important.
If this sounds like you,
it may not be because of absentmindedness,
but because you don't trust yourself enough
to validate your own experiences.
Whenever you think to yourself,
I'm sure that I left it here
or I swear I remembered to do that already.
You soon start to wonder if it's actually true.
You often find yourself wondering
if things are the way you remember them,
because you have this unshaken feeling
that you've done something wrong or made a mistake somehow.
Number five, you're afraid to speak up.
You struggle to make your voice known.
Even when you're with a group of close friends,
you back away from being the center of attention.
Studies show that when you have a tendency
to be shy and quiet,
you most likely also have a hard time trusting yourself.
And this is what makes you so afraid to speak up.
You're afraid of being judged or ridiculed
if you truly speak your mind.
You don't like to share your opinions thoughts and feelings,
especially when it will contradict those around you,
because you lack the conviction, assertiveness
and self-confidence in yourself.
Number six, you try to control everything.
Has anyone ever told you
that you're too bossy or controlling?
You often find yourself taking charge of things
and planning ahead for just about everything.
Another common way a lack of self-trust can manifest
in our behaviors is through a strong need for control.
You try to control everything around you when feel upset,
when things don't go the way you expected them to.
This is most likely because you don't trust yourself enough
to handle the curve balls life throws your way.
Number seven, you struggled to recognize your worth.
When you have problems trusting and believing in yourself,
you undermine your own success
and belittle your own accomplishments.
And you struggle to see all the great qualities you have
and contributions you've made,
because you fail to recognize your own self-worth.
You feel embarrassed when people compliment you,
because you don't feel deserving of their praise.
So no matter how much reassurance and encouragement
people may give you,
you still keep selling yourself short time and time again.
And number eight, you're overly critical with yourself.
Are you overly harsh, demanding and critical of yourself?
This behavior, there is a definite red flag
and indicator that you need to work
on your own on self-trust.
Every time you make a mistake no matter how small,
you're always the first to point it out,
because you're your own worst critic.
You beat yourself up over your shortcomings
and find it hard to forgive yourself
for the things you done wrong.
You dwell on your past mistakes
and often find yourself grappling with self-doubt,
because you don't trust yourself enough
to be more understanding of your own flaws and weaknesses.
Just like with self-love and self-compassion,
it takes time to cultivate a healthy sense
of self-trust within ourselves.
Self-trust is the ability to believe in ourselves
in spite of our mistakes,
forgive ourselves past failures and still have hope
that we are strong enough to overcome
the problems we may face.
Do you relate to any of the things
we've mentioned in this?
I sure did.
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