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do you think you're in an emotionally
abusive relationship according to one
love organization emotional abuse is any
abusive behavior that includes verbal
aggression intimidation manipulation and
humiliation does your partner friend or
family member show signs of emotional
abuse here are 14 subtle signs of
emotional abuse in relationships one
they blame you for things it's a sign of
abuse if your partner blames you for the
things they've done the avoid
responsibility and say things like you
made me do it or it's your fault this
happened to they avoid certain topic
does it feel like you're walking on
eggshells around your partner it's a
sign if you have to stay quiet about
things that bother you and fear it will
trigger your partner 3 they control how
you act abusers might control how you
act by telling you that they're just
being helpful
even if it sounds like they're being
supportive they're still trying to
manipulate your behavior or they change
your plans abusers will change your
plans without telling you to keep their
control over you it may surprise you
when you're supposed to be meeting your
friends so you have to cancel in time
you might find yourself dependent on
them on what to do 5 they're emotionally
available one moment and distant the
next is it hard to talk to them because
they keep shifting from being
emotionally available to unavailable
they don't offer any explanation or they
deny their behavior it keeps you
guessing and in fear of them sakes
they say hurtful things as a joke it's a
sign of emotional abuse when they say
things they know will hurt you but then
play it off as a joke they ignore your
feelings and make you doubt yourself and
your self-worth 7 they make you guess
what they want you're not a mind reader
and having a partner that expects you to
know what they want all the time is
childish and immature a healthy
relationship is built on open
communication not assumptions 8 they
ignore your feelings instead of
recognizing when something hurts you
they say that you're being too sensitive
or emotional this form of abuse may
leave you feeling
used and you may start to doubt your own
feelings 9 it gas late you gas lighting
is when someone lies about what and how
things happened so you doubt your own
reality they may say things like this
never happened or you remember it wrong
to confuse you this form of abuse will
leave you dependent on your partner for
everything 10 they act differently when
you're with other people there are two
ways your abuser may act they may be
caring and considerate in public to fool
everyone or they might be distant and
unloving as a way to control how you
behave with your friends and family 11
our love is conditional saying they
don't love you when you disagree or
argue is the sign of emotional abuse it
bases the relationship on validation
instead of connection and implies that
you're only worthy of love when you do
what they want 12 they ignore your
accomplishments abusers may feel
threatened by your accomplishments and
so instead of recognizing the work
you've done they downplay or even ignore
it altogether they might say things like
that's easy anyone can do that or it
isn't a big deal
13 they imply you're not helpful abusers
will tell you what to do and what to
think to control your thoughts and
behaviors they hide this by making it
seem that you aren't helpful or that
you're selfish and 14 they need to know
where you are but they constantly ask
you where you are and who you're with
constantly checking up on you is a form
of control since they want to know all
of your movements all the time it shows
that they don't trust you or your
judgement do you see any of these signs
in your relationships let us know in the
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