Hey everybody welcome back to let's talk and you are with me, Meera
Guys!
Today's lesson is going to be quite interesting today.
We're going to learn a few English phrases or sentences that
may make you look bad.
Well we're going to discuss these sentences which are quite normal
sentences and questions.
You think however, when you try to use them with different kinds of
people, there is a possibility that it can make you look negative.
It can kill your impression that you have been trying to build over a period of
time.
Well let's go and get started and take a look at these phrases wherever
possible.
I'm going to give you options where you can replace them.
However, I would like you guys to avoid these sentences or
questions wherever possible.
Just so that you don't make a negative impression of yourself anytime.
Let's see which are these phrases like a girl?
Maybe somebody's pushing a couch, you know, and you think it's a
week action?
Why are you pushing it like a girl?
Somebody is crying and you say why are you crying like a girl?
Now, here's the thing.
Guys think about it, why not?
Why are we associating or stereotyping any
action or emotion to a girl?
Why not?
Why not cry like someone, why not express your emotions?
Think about it instead of saying why are you doing it like a girl?
You can always ask them for help us if you want to offer help,
why not?
Why don't you do that?
May I help you?
Can I help you?
Can I give you a hand now?
That is a strong sign of a strong person, isn't it?
Alright, guys moving forward?
I totally forgot.
I know these people, I've had a few friends who had a habit of forgetting
literally everything.
Whenever we used to give them a task or an assignment.
Most of the times the answer used to be, oh I'm sorry, I forgot.
Did you bring my camera?
I'm sorry, I forgot.
Hey, I had sent you a reminder to get my charger.
Did you get it?
Oh sorry, I forgot you don't want to be called or be known as the
forgetful Fannie, do you?
Well, instead of saying, I totally forgot, why don't you
try making a list of the things that you want to remember and help yourself.
Get out of this forgetful situation.
All right next up.
So are you working?
Well, during the lockdown, particularly a lot of people lost their jobs
and during such times if you end up asking such questions,
people might feel really terrible about their own situation, they might feel that you
are interfering in their personal life.
Well, if you want to know if they're busy or not, you can simply ask
them, are you busy if you want to have some coffee with them or something?
Go for a simple question rather than asking an interfering question.
Okay, what does your dad do?
Well, well, well let's take a look at this question.
I know that some of you think it's absolutely fine to ask about the father.
However, that's not what everybody thinks.
You know, some people might think, how does it matter?
How does it matter if my father is working or not?
How does this change our relationship and why does it bother you?
Why do you want to know what does my father do?
Right.
Again, a quite personal question and an interfering question which
you might want to avoid from the next time.
Next up we have.
That's so stupid.
Well somebody has acted a little silly around you and you want
to tell them that that is so silly.
Instead of putting such a strong word and saying it
straightforward and directly to someone try to use a little
softer word which might make them understand.
It's a silly thing.
And I personally think this is much better
then.
Stupid, silly.
Now hear me 11 more time.
That's so stupid.
Is still okay with really thick friends or really close friends.
However, I would I would avoid this in a professional atmosphere
now that we have seen the first five, let's go ahead and see the next.
You don't love me anymore.
Think about it.
I'm sure you must have said this to your beloved, right.
However, it shows insecurities that you have when you say
it again and again to that person, it means you are
doubting their love for you now let's not put them in such a
pressure.
Right?
Instead, why don't you step up and arrange a lovely date night
for yourself, right for you and your beloved that way You'll also get a
nice rejuvenating time together.
Okay, next up, Oh my God, you have
put on so much weight.
Now guys, whether your friends or your in your professional
life, people have put on, put on weight or not, Maybe they're
going through some medications or they're going through something in their life that you're not
aware of.
Don't you think that you're putting them in such a position where they would feel
really terrible about it?
Think about it.
And the next time when you find such a change, simply say,
wow, you have changed a lot.
Isn't that simple and nice?
And don't you think that person will rather share their experience as to why?
So, right next up we have, how much did it
cost?
You know, maybe somebody has bought a new car or somebody is wearing an
expensive suit.
Not a lot of them actually like to talk about money
business and in such cases, if you're asking them, how much did it cost?
It might just make you sound a little too overpowering?
Well, you can just say that looks expensive or that looks
top notch, it is very classy and tell them
if they want to talk about the cost, they will otherwise let it be.
Don't you think so.
Can't you understand such a simple thing around you, There could
be a friend who who's not able to complete a certain task In
such situations?
You can extend a helping hand and say and ask do you want me to help
you out?
Can I make you understand it in a different way?
Right, okay.
You don't know you know how it sounds like you should be aware of
everything that is happening in the world.
Maybe they were too busy to know something that is to current or
you can simply ask, are you aware of?
So and so situation, are you aware of this new brand?
If you say it that way, that might sound much more decent than you
don't know.
Okay guys, now we have, I'm getting
late.
There is always one person in your group who's late for everything.
This doesn't work all the time.
Guys, you were supposed to learn the importance of time and respect
everybody's time around you and I'm getting laid is not that great a position
to be in.
All right.
That's just an excuse that you want to try avoiding from the next time and be on time.
Please do this for me.
There are a lot of people who ask for favor or for help,
but when that happens more often than not, then you sound
like somebody who is not capable of doing jobs or
tasks that you're assigned to do instead.
If you want somebody's help, always try to offer how much
ever you can from your end as well.
Would you mind doing this for me?
I will help you out with completing this file.
See that way there is a give and take relationship.
You got it guys.
Great.
You are irresponsible.
Again a rather direct and a rude way or an impolite way
to tell somebody that they're irresponsible and in such cases
you can give them options of how they can remember things put it in their
diary or these days you can you can have various alarms on your phone
that will help you become a little more responsible.
Can you pay for me now?
I forgot my vole.
It.
Oops a lot of times there are situations where there is one person
who never pays on time.
Well now that you have your U.
P.
I.
Or online or E.
Transactions so easy and at hand why don't you help them download the right
apps?
Right.
We'll avoid being the person who doesn't pay.
Be the person who is responsible.
Last and not the least guys.
How much do you earn Now?
This is a big no no again avoid entering someone's
personal life.
How does it matter how much they earn?
That doesn't change any relationship that you have between them, particularly
if you have recently met someone and then new to you completely avoid
questions which are really personal instead be that
person who's nonjudgmental, be that person that others like to hang
out with and try and avoid these questions as much as you can, so that
you never have to lose a drop on your impression.
Okay, guys, that's all for today.
This is me mira signing off until next time.
Bye bye.