- If you are an introvert and you watch this video,
you will be more magnetic,
you'll give yourself more permission
to unleash your true energy,
you'll own it more
and people will literally respond to you differently
if you apply what I share with you in this video.
Now, when it comes to introverts and extroverts,
let's understand first off what the difference is
so that we can then see what the secrets are of this
because if you,
maybe you've been on dates before with people,
maybe you've seen people with different types of energy.
And sometimes I don't know if it's in social media
or if it's in like movies and stuff,
but we'll have this belief
that like you have to be really outgoing and talkative
in order to be attractive.
And I will tell you from seeing,
working with so many thousands of people
in my challenges that I do,
my magnetic love challenges and other challenges,
I will tell you
that when people start to own their own energy
and they start to really give themselves permission
to be whatever is authentic to them,
which a lot of times
isn't talking and blabbing all the time,
that there's a very attractive energy to it.
Many of these people then feel different about themselves
and that leaks out into the people they meet in their lives.
Now, first off, what is the difference
between extroversion and introversion?
Now in general, extroversion is people that are extroverted,
very loud and outgoing,
but really what it means
when I was talking to my shadow work integration coach,
he explained it to me
and extroverts draw energy from the external,
so it's almost like the more they're talking,
the more they're interacting with other people,
the more energized they feel,
whereas a lot of times for introverts
that would actually drain them.
I know for me, even though I look like an extrovert
maybe because of how I talk,
I can be an extrovert in certain situations,
but I definitely gain more energy from being introverted.
So introversion is more so you gain energy
from being in your own energy and from the inside out.
So understanding
that maybe an introvert doesn't gain the energy,
doesn't take the energy from the environment
and use that and need that in order to feel energized,
that's a different way of looking
at introversion versus extraversion.
Now understand this about attraction,
whatever you feel about you
is projected out and other people feel that.
So sometimes what happens
with shy people or introverted people
is they feel like they shouldn't be shy,
they feel like they shouldn't be quiet,
they feel like there's something wrong with them.
Maybe they go to a party
and it's like they feel like they have to try to engage
with every single person there versus just being themselves
even if that means being quiet sometimes.
So the first secret and magnetic secret for introverts
that will completely transform your life
is simply learning to own your own introversion,
accept it about yourself, there's nothing wrong with it.
The more you accept it for yourself,
the more other people will see and value it in you.
Some of my best friends are introverts.
My friend Victor is very much an introvert.
And the cool thing about him
is him and I are like best friends,
and one of the reasons it works out so well
is actually I do sometimes talk a lot
and he doesn't talk as much as I do
so there's more polarity, there's more balance there
to where it's not just us talking all the time.
It's interesting how it works,
but I'll tell you,
I've seen Victor
go through his own transformation with this
where he used to feel like,
we do these retreats in Costa Rica,
and at these retreats, it's like, they're like a week long,
sometimes he would feel obligated,
like I have to be extroverted
and I have to go out and talk to people
and then he would feel drained
because he was trying to be
a way that wasn't natural for him.
But then something interesting happened
a couple retreats ago.
We do these retreats like three times a year,
something switched like two retreats ago.
He started to just accept the way he was
and he would sometimes be in the big group, we'd be talking
and then he would just go off
and just chill by himself for a little bit
without needing to give explanation, without feeling guilty.
And when he came back, he had more energy
because he owned it.
He wasn't feeling self-conscious about it.
He wasn't feeling like there was something wrong.
And he started,
and I told him this too and so did some other people,
it's like when he speaks, it has so much power
because he's not speaking so damn much.
And I talk a lot, right?
If I only said like,
I don't know if this was like a 12 minute video
and I just said like three words,
it'd be the most powerful three words,
but having a lot a lot, a lot of stuff
sometimes can be overwhelming.
I was watching this show called "Final Table" on Netflix
and it's this competition reality show
and there's like this amazing food that they make.
And the thing is
is you can make very simple foods and very little of it,
but the thing is is that little food
that little amount that is made,
must be delicious in order to win
whereas sometimes plates will be overwhelmed with flavor,
overwhelmed with like stuff on it,
which can sometimes hurt it, sometimes it's okay,
but it's interesting because less can be more.
And when you're aligned in your heart
and you're choosing your words,
it's something that people will really appreciate about you.
I can tell that in Victor's energy,
he's much more accepting of himself,
he much more owns himself now,
and he carries a very different energy now.
And every single one of you, if you're an introvert,
you can apply this energy.
And you'll notice that by doing it,
it makes you feel more attractive
and feel more accepted.
And remember, this is a game
of you feeling accepting of yourself,
of you feeling magnetic
because you give yourself permission to be yourself.
The second secret for introverts of magnetism
is understanding
that introverts draw their energy from within,
extroverts draw their energy from the external.
Guess what?
It is very attractive
to draw your energy from the inside out.
It is attractive to be in your own energy
and to get filled up by that.
It is attractive for you to fill up your own energy.
So realizing that,
you could start to appreciate
the introversion that you might have
knowing that the introversion you might have
is a way that you fill up your own cup.
But the key is the awareness
of the time and the space you might need
to fill up your own cup, maybe even the boundaries you need.
Boundaries can be a very attractive thing for introverts
to apply.
One of the reasons being
because sometimes introverts
may feel guilty about being introverted.
So when their friends are like,
"Come hang out, come do this, come do that"
and introverts are like,
I don't know if I want to do that
but they feel guilty and they do it anyways,
that drains their energy.
Don't have any shame in just saying,
"No I don't want to do that"
because the weird thing
is that that actually makes you more attractive
because you're realizing your own sense of value
and your own sense of energy.
When somebody doesn't need anything from somebody else,
they don't need to go out and be extroverted
and like draw energy from the environment,
that can be very attractive.
Remember, anything we need,
it's saying I lack and I need from somebody else.
You being introverted is a very attractive thing.
The more you own it, the more other people will own it
and the more you change your story about it too.
We all have a story about introversion or extroversion.
We have a story about our relationship with our parents.
We have a story
about how we relate to the people we're dating.
We have a story.
These stories remain on autopilot
until we become aware of it.
But if we believe there's something wrong with us,
it dims our magnetic vibe.
We're playing small.
When you own who you are,
that's the most attractive you.
When you are even more polarizing, maybe you say,
"I don't want to hang out.
I just want to go do my own thing."
that is attractive for you to claim your own truth.
So realize that for this whole dynamic of magnetic energy
it is about owning, reframing the story,
reframing the story.
The old story may have been there's something wrong me,
I'm shy, blah, blah, blah.
Instead, own it.
Just own it and be like, this is a good thing.
It is a good thing to be in my own energy.
It is a good thing to be introverted.
It is a good thing to be more shy
because that also leads me
to my third magnetic secret about this
which is actually very simple but this,
now the thing with this
is you don't want to do this third secret to get the result.
You have to do it just because it's who you are.
But they find,
I've heard this from many different women too
that talk about,
in these challenges that I do,
these 21 day magnetic love challenges and stuff,
I hear what women are attracted to.
So many of them like the quiet person that is,
there's a level of mysteriousness to it
because you don't know
exactly what they're thinking and doing
and that can be very attractive.
So being quiet, holding your energy
and being safe and comfortable in your own frame
is one of the most magnetic things you can do
because it's not all on the surface for people to see.
It makes people come up to you and go,
what is it with this person?
What is there more about this person?
I want to know more.
But it's not like you're just being quiet
because you're like okay I'm gonna be quiet now
and I'm mysterious, ooh, no one understands who I am.
It's more so just being in your own energy,
enjoying the moment,
that's another thing about introverts,
a lot of times, introverts
will be way more present than extroverts
because extroverts many times
are thinking about the next damn thing to say
whereas introverts, they listen.
I should have made this a whole point in and of itself.
Introverts tend to listen more than extroverts.
And I will tell you that in the process, a lot of times,
especially when like dudes go on Google and they're like,
how do I pick up chicks,
they think they have the talk, talk, talk, talk,
and it screws it up for them.
If they were just to listen, ask questions and listen,
they would be like 10X more attractive.
Same thing for just about anybody.
When you listen, it is attractive
because it shows curiousness, it shows empathy,
it shows that you're interested.
So for this, the mysteriousness means to other people
like there's more to find out here.
And one of the things I highly recommend you do
is you start focusing more being on present to the moment
and then understanding you can own if you're quiet
because it is a little bit more mysterious,
it does make people curious,
it does make them want to prod a little bit
and see what is going on with this person?
But don't be mysterious because this is a tactic.
I used to work with this guy
when I had that nine to five job at Barney's and he would,
he was trying to develop an Australian accent
because he realized a lot of girls liked Australian accents.
So he spent weeks watching YouTube videos
trying to do Australian accents and it was just,
I could tell it was very challenging for him to do
but also he even told some customers sometimes,
he's like, "Yeah, I'm trying to learn,
I'm practicing my Australian accent right now
because I'm trying to learn
because I noticed that girls like it more" or something,
he would like tell customers this,
I thought it was so interesting.
But when you're doing something to get a result,
people feel that.
So if you're like trying to be mysterious
and trying to be a little bit more awkwardly quiet,
when I was a kid, one of my tactics I learned
was how to pout.
I would pout,
if like I wasn't getting attention from somebody,
I would pout and be like quiet like this
because I want your attention.
One time, my brother, he was in the yearbook and it said,
my last name's Douty,
it said Zach Pouty on it
and he was like pouting in the corner like this,
it was so funny.
So over the years I would always bring that up to him,
anyways, but you don't want to do these things
to get a certain result,
you want to do them because it's who you are.
Now magnetic energy is really about being in your own frame,
feeling safe in your own body,
knowing who you are, living by certain values.
Confidence is straight up about your own integrity
and trust with yourself.
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People feel what you feel about you.
The energy inside of our bodies are contagious.
And based on how we feel about ourselves,
that energy is being emanated out
and other people are responding to us based on that energy.