In this video, we're going to be covering five signs that your ex will never come back.
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Now, we are going to be talking about an emotional connection with your ex and really showing
them that there's a compelling future for the two of you in this video. If it is something
that you want to learn more about, we do have our course called the Ex Solution Program.
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The first sign that your ex is not coming back is that they refuse to talk to you. Now,
obviously this isn't necessarily an indication that they're never, ever going to talk to
you and that the two of you are never, ever going to work things out, but if they're not
even open to talking to you, it's probably a good sign that you should maybe just take
a step back from trying to get back together with your ex right now. Things might be different
in the future, there might be some sort of new information. The two of you might get
back in contact with one another at some point, they might have a change of heart and decide
they want to start talking to you again further down the road, but until some of those things
start to happen, I probably wouldn't push things too much further aside from maybe one
or two contacts just to make sure that they're totally non-responsive to you.
If they really are non-responsive to you, you don't want to keep pushing and pushing
and pushing because then you're just going to drive them further and further and further
into this place where they have more of a wall up against being in contact with you.
You want to cut them a little bit of slack when it seems like there are non-communicative
with you so that when the two of you do start testing the waters to see if you can get back
in communication with one another, they're going to be a little bit more receptive to
you because you haven't pressured them so much.
The second sign that your ex will never come back is if they'll basically be walking back
into the same relationship that they walked out of in the first place. Now, obviously
none of us want to go back into a relationship that didn't work. We don't want to go back
into the same problems that led to the breakup in the first place. Whatever those may have
been for you and your ex, I don't know. Maybe it was a of trust, maybe it was communication,
maybe it was arguing, maybe it was something else, I don't know, but you have to demonstrate
to them that they're not walking back into the same relationship that they walked out
of. That's not a very inspiring thing for someone to want to do.
I'd recommend that you demonstrate to them that there's been some real, meaningful and
legitimate change that's occurred so that they feel a compelling reason to actually
start wanting to maybe explore what's possible between the two of you. That's not going to
happen if they think that it's just going to be back to whatever what wasn't working
in the first place. You've got to get whatever caused the breakup resolved to begin with.
The third sign that your ex will never come back is if there's really no compelling vision
or future for the two of you together. Now, what do I mean by this? Obviously, we need
to resolve what wasn't working in the relationship, we just went over that, but beyond that, we
have to actually show them that there's going to be some value, some benefit, some positive
aspect about why they should get back together with you. What is going to be better about
their life when they get back together with you? Are they going to be stepping into some
sort of deep values that they hold dear to their heart? Are they going to be going on
some sort of great, wonderful adventure with you, either literally, if you're going to
travel around the world, or figuratively, if it's going to be some experience of life
washing over you or something like that. What exactly is going to be the compelling reason
that they might want to get back together with you?
You have to get clear on this and you have to be able to show them and demonstrate this
to them that, hey, there's going to be some very real benefit to your life if we get back
together. I mean, it's not just enough that it's like, "Oh hey, you're lonely. Get back
together with me and you won't be lonely anymore." I mean, I guess that could work, but it's
a really sad situation to be in and nobody's going to be super excited about it. You hae
to, like we talked about, show them that they're not walking back into the same relationship
and show them that they're walking toward something beneficial, amazing, wonderful,
and something that they can get excited about. You have to be able to do this otherwise they're
not going to feel very compelled about wanting to see what's possible between the two of
you. The fourth sign that your ex will never come
back is if you're not willing to listen to them. Now, oftentimes when it comes to breakups,
people will find themselves in this state of mind where they want to really sit down
with their ex and say, "Hey, let's get through this. Let's work this out. Let's get back
together. We have so much potential, so much possibility. There's just so much good things
that could happen if we get back together," but if you're not willing to listen to where
they're at and what their concerns are and what their hesitations are and what their
challenges are and what their experiences, none of these things are going to be able
to get through to them. You have to start by empathically listening to where they're
at, understanding what they're going through, understanding what their challenges, their
concerns, their frustrations, all the things that are sitting with them that are genuine
concerns for them might be. Now, they may not be genuine concerns for
you, maybe they're just trivial things for you, but to them, these could be a very big
deal. Until you actually show them that you're willing to listen to them, understand them,
connect with them, hear them, they're not going to really be very receptive to anything
else. We have to start with empathy, we have to start by showing them that we care, that
we're listening. Obviously, don't fake this, be genuine and sincere about all of this.
Don't just be like, "Yeah, uh-huh (affirmative), uh-huh (affirmative). Okay, yeah. Are you
done venting so I can get back to explaining to you why we need to get back?" Don't do
that, but actually genuinely take an interest in whatever their concerns, whatever their
hesitations, whatever their fears, whatever their hang ups might be, because when they
feel heard and seen and understood, that's when they're going to start to open up and
be a whole lot more receptive to anything that you might have to say or offer or communicate
to them. It starts with empathy, it starts with understanding.
The fifth sign that your ex will never come back to you is if they are building a real,
meaningful life with someone else that isn't just a reaction to your relationship. Now,
we've talked about rebound relationships before. We have a whole playlist on rebound relationships,
it's right up there. But if your ex is clearly not in a rebound relationship and they're
moving forward and building some sort of real, meaningful, substantial life with someone
else, and it's not just a reaction to the relationship that they had with you, so it's
not any of those rebound qualities that we've talked about in other rebound relationship
videos but it's them actually genuinely moving towards something that they want, then chances
are pretty slim that the two of you are going to get back together, at least right now.
Again, I don't like the idea of something definitive, like you will never get back together
with your ex if this happens, but it just might not happen right now.
If you can understand that, that like, "Okay, just because it's not going to happen on my
timeframe or the timeframe that I would like it to happen in doesn't mean that it's never
going to happen. It just means that, okay, maybe we just need to spend a bit of time
apart, grow a little bit, let go of some things, put a little bit of emotional distance between
whatever happened and whatever hurt feelings there might be or whatever. Maybe we can circle
back to this, come back to this later after they've worked through some things and all
of that." If your ex is moving forward and getting married
to someone else, chances are pretty slim that they're going to get back together with you
right now. Maybe after they've had a little bit of time to settle in and see that like,
"Okay, this isn't all it's cracked up to be," or after they've had some time to sit with
and be like, "Oh wow, this is actually kind of a rebound thing and it's not really me
getting married to someone for real genuine reasons," then they might be able to be able
to let go of that and be able to entertain the possibility that there might be something
possible between you and them. But if they are genuinely forming some sort of new connection,
some sort of new, meaningful relationship with someone else, probably not going to happen
right now. This is if it's not a reaction to something that happened between the two
of you. If it's a rebound thing, that's an entirely different discussion, but if this
is a genuine, meaningful, sincere relationship, then it's probably not going to happen, again,
right now. Anyway, I hope this video has been really
helpful. If you do need some further help to navigate through some of the challenges
of connecting with your ex and navigating through their emotional world, you might be
interested in our course called the Ex Solution Program. You can find info on that down below
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series right here, or you might want to check out this video over here. But once again,
my name is Clay. Thank you so much for watching and I'll talk to you in the next video. Please
take care.