The Most Seductive Trait
Welcome back to the Otter Half Course where I teach you everything you need to know in
order to find your other half.
Today I'm going to teach you about the most seductive trait in the world.
This is something that people of all genders, all races, and all cultures find attractive.
If you can cultivate this trait you can literally cause people to become addicted to you.
Now if you think about it - the most common forms of addiction in modern society are all
related to the internet.
In fact, a study conducted in 2019 found that we currently spend, on average, 6 and a half
hours every single day surfing the web.
There isn't a single other behavior that we are so attached to.
But what can we learn from this addiction of ours?
Well if you look closely - all of the things on the internet that we get hooked on share
a common trend.
When we surf the web we are exposed to new videos, new pictures, new people, new music,
new drama, new conversations, new interactions, new games, new news.
Do you see what I'm getting at?
The greatest addiction in the world is fueled by novelty.
And this is because we humans are designed to seek novelty.
It was crucial for our survival back in the day.
We've evolved to crave novelty because it incentivized us to explore the world.
To find new foods, new mates, new pieces of vital information – all things that allowed
our species to survive longer.
And this innate desire for novelty is still within us today.
It's the main reason why we are so hooked on the internet.
And that's why novelty is the single most seductive and addictive trait in the world.
Now at this point in time you're probably thinking – how exactly do I incorporate
this into my life?
How does one become more novel?
Well, all you have to do is put in the effort to spice things up every once in a while.
Not everyday or every week, but maybe every couple of weeks or even every couple of months.
And there are 4 ways that you can go about doing this.
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The first is the most obvious – it's through visual changes.
This is when you change something about the way you look.
You can change your clothing, your jewelry, your hair style, your hair color, the way
you do your makeup, basically anything related to your looks.
Now this doesn't mean that you have to spend thousands of dollars on a wardrobe and have
a new outfit for every single day of the week.
You only need to make subtle changes every once in a while in order to bring visual novelty
into your life.
For example if you always style your hair one way – then simply trying on a cap or
a beanie would be enough for people to notice.
An even more effective thing you can do is take care of your body.
If you go to the gym and start eating right then you will start to see physical changes
in the way you look.
This is a form of novelty as well and it also makes you more attractive overall.
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your life and relationships is by changing the world around you and the experiences that
come with it.
This is best done by changing the location of your interactions and also the activities
that you do when you're there.
This is extremely important when it comes to dates.
Off the top of my head, here are some of the dates that I've been on in the past year alone.
Playing games at the arcade, bowling, cooking class, the movies, eating at a restaurant,
partying at the club, making pottery, relaxing at the spa, the amusement park, fancy night
at the opera, casually walking and talking in a park, go kart racing, the museum, and
even traveling to another country.
Notice how all of these examples offer a completely different experience in a completely different
location.
Now this doesn't mean you can only go to the movies once and then never go again.
Just don't go to the movies 3 weeks in a row with the same person.
You got to put in some effort to change up the environment.
Now if you don't have money – that's totally fine – you just got to be a little bit more
creative.
I remember back in the day when I was broke - I would bring my girlfriend to Taco Bell
and order something from the dollar menu (cheesy fiesta potato), or I would bring her to the
park and play on the swings, and I even brought her to a rooftop high up on a building to
check out the view of the city.
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The third way to bring novelty into your life is by bringing change to your intimacy.
This relates to how you and your partner talk to each other and also how you make love.
Now I'm not going to dive too much into the love stuff here.
It's not really PG, so I think I'll make another video dedicated to just that.
But for now, just keep in mind, that you need to be spicing up what you do in bed.
You never ever ever want to become too predictable in bed.
You should also try to change up how you flirt with your partner.
Don't always give the same type of compliments.
If you tell someone that their the most beautiful person you've ever seen, every single day!
– it starts to lose it's punch.
You should also change up the frequency of which you give compliments.
And should learn to show appreciation for things that you've never shown before.
And finally the last way you can bring novelty into your life is by changing your personality.
What I mean by this is that you should not be the same person you were 5 years ago.
You should have some new beliefs about how the world works, you should have some new
stories under your belt to share, you should have new things that you are interested in,
you should be growing as a person.
This is primarily done by being open to challenging your existing beliefs, and being open to experiment
with new ideas.
Luckily for you, the pursuit of self improvement is all about this – so many of you are probably
already bringing novelty into your life in this form already.
If you can master the art of novelty by incorporating it into your life in these 4 ways – then
you will become someone that is always interesting to interact with.
People who have not seen you in a while will always wonder what new things you have in
store.
They will crave interacting with you because it will bring a breath of fresh air into their
life.
Your very essence will become addictive.
Now you don't have to do all 4 of the things all at once.
Like I said before, you only need to spice things up every couple of weeks or months.
And when you do, you can just do one or two of the four things that I mentioned at a time.
Try to do what's natural for you.
If you're someone who doesn't really care about fashion, but you like big ideas – then
you can express novelty in the form of your thoughts instead of visuals.
Play on your strengths because it will make the experience much more enjoyable.
And remember never become too predictable.
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Recently I've been listening to “Skin In The Game” By Nassim Taleb.
Which mainly talks about why you need to have some skin in the game for the things that
you are trying to pursue.
It's a very interesting read so I highly recommend you to check it out.
Besides that guys, stay tuned.