NLP eye movements got you confused in this video I'm going to show you how to
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I've been studying and teaching neuro linguistic programming for years and
I've found that eye movement patterns often confuse a lot of students and I
was one of them so what I'm gonna show you in this video will teach you more
than what most people know about NLP eye movement patterns so that you can use
them effectively let's start off with the standard I've movement patterns and
what they're supposed to mean so when someone looks up into their right
remember their right it means that they're constructing an image or
constructing a movie if they look up into the left that means they're
remembering an image are remembering a movie if they look to their right
directly across like they're looking at their ear that means they're
constructing a sound or imagining a sound and if the person looks directly
to their left that that means they're remembering a sound it could also be a
voice if I look down to my right that means I'm accessing my feelings that
could be both emotional or that could be actual sensations in my body and we also
carry emotional feelings in our body so we tend to look down when we're
accessing them if I look down to my left that means I'm talking to myself it's an
inner monologue so I'm not hearing someone else's voice I'm hearing my own
voice coming back at me now how many of you out there have been trying to track
you know p.i movement patterns and you found that it doesn't the people that
you're watching it doesn't follow their eye movements don't follow those exact
patterns if that is so please type yes right here in the calm
because this happens for a lot of people what they'll say is when I practice them
if I sit down with someone and I say can you remember what your mother's face
looks like and they'll normally go up into the left and then you say something
kind of strange like what would it look like if you saw a combination of a horse
and an elephant and so they have to go and look up to their right because
they're you have to construct that image that's not something they've actually
seen and can recall from memory so when you sit down and practice with someone a
lot of times it will follow all of these traditional patterns and you can have
someone like recite the Pledge of Allegiance to yourself and a lot of
times they'll look right down into their left and as they're reciting it so the
eye movements will follow the patterns when you're practicing them and when
you're asking people specific questions that direct their attention directly to
what it is that you want them to think about so what do you do when you're not
practicing and you're working with someone say they're a coaching client a
therapy client or you're in a sales situation and you're tracking the eye
patterns but they don't seem to be following the right places whenever
you're asking them specific questions what do you do then and why does it not
follow the pattern like it's supposed to the answer to this is people are far
more complex and we can't put people into these patterns expect them to
function in these very simplistic patterns when you're practicing you're
you're very specifically and precisely directing that person's attention to
think of what things the way that you want them to think of but when you're in
an interaction with someone who doesn't know what you're doing and while you're
tracking their eye movements there there's a lot more going on here than
just them thinking of a simple image or a simple sound for example if I ask
somebody to think about something and they start to picture it or they
actually picturing the object that you're talking about from memory or are
they imagining it so for example if you said think of a baseball I have seen a
baseball before however I might actually construct an image of a baseball in my
mind and it will be an image of a baseball not any baseball that I've ever
seen before just a baseball because I can construct that
from what I know of what a baseball looks like so would I look up into my
right to construct it for that or would I look into my left it could really go
either way another thing is some people are really
associated into memories when you ask them to remember something they actually
step into the memory so instead of seeing an image to their right or to
their left which it should be to the left if it's remembered or hearing
sounds to the left what they might actually what I would might actually be
happening is is they're in the scene they're in the memory and they're
looking around it like okay well here was my desk and then here was another
person sitting to my right so they might actually be seeing things around them
and hearing things around them as if they were actually there and that's
going to affect where their eyes move and then the same thing is true for
timeline if my timeline stretches across and somebody else's timelines goes
through them or in we call that in time where the timeline actually goes through
and they can see their future out in front of them and their past is behind
them this may also affect their eye movements when they're recalling things
from the past or seeing things into the future so there's lots of reasons why
the eyes can move in all different directions and not follow these specific
patterns so again people just aren't that simple especially when they're
talking with you and they're thinking about probably several different things
rapidfire their eyes are going to move in a lot of different directions so they
just might not move in a direction that you would expect them to one thing you
can you can be certain of though if a person is looking up there usually this
visualizing if they're looking down it's usually feelings are they're talking to
themselves and you'll see this happen where their eyes will bounce back and
forth down they're usually talking to themselves and then checking in with how
they're feeling about themselves now you might be asking okay so why is this even
useful at all what would be the effectiveness of it if I can't track it
well you can and this is where you go from being just a kind of a textbook and
up here - a real practitioner a real artist a real scientist and artist I
like to think of NLP as being a combination of both science and art and
so that is to relax and to build this skill and to not think of people as
being fitting into a certain pattern no the person is going to give you the
patterns their patterns and this is a much better way to approach this so as
you're sitting there and you're watching someone's eye movements
don't make any judgments about it don't say oh they did this pattern or they did
that pattern or they must be doing this or they must be doing that as soon as
you start to try to push people into a pattern or try to fit them into a
pattern you're gonna miss lots of wonderful wonderful information that
they're going to give you about them and you're also going to break rapport with
them if you're constantly trying to fit them into a category so relax and just
absorb this information what you want to do is just notice what you're seeing
notice where their eyes are going when they're saying certain words or notice
where their eyes go when you ask certain questions and just absorb this
information without judgement without trying to categorize them and you can
ask the question while you're doing this you can ask the question what does this
mean you want to put yourself in a state of curiosity and then as you watch this
as you watch their eye movements and you're noticing what else is going on
when their eyes are moving in certain directions some magical things are going
to start to happen first of all you're going to you're going to build rapport
with this person really quickly because they're gonna feel that you're paying
deeper attention to them than what they're used to they won't know
specifically that you're watching their eye patterns but they will feel that
additional attention that you're paying to them and as you're just letting this
information come in you're not your focus of your attention is not on
yourself it's all on them and people feel that as you start to notice
patterns and you will it's not about trying to lock them in and it's not
about trying to figure it out but the patterns will start to emerge and you
will start to see how they're constructing their reality around them
and that's what a lot of what eye movements tell us and once you've
gathered enough of this information and once you've allowed the patterns to
emerge without you trying to like pinpoint them you'll notice they'll
start to emerge and as they start to emerge then you will know how you can
use these patterns to direct the person to influence the person you can do this
on yourself too you can you can start to turn this on yourself and use NLP iPad
when you're working sit with a problem and when you're working with that
problem you might notice that your eyes go in a certain direction then you could
say okay well I'm gonna look over here rather than here well I think about this
problem or maybe I'm gonna think about this problem and I'm gonna run my eyes
around my peripheral vision not move my head just move my eyes like this and
you'll start to notice something that you get you're opening up your neurology
you're accessing other parts of your neurology that you weren't paying
attention to before and what would often happen is new newer resources will start
to emerge from this and new solutions that you hadn't thought of will start to
emerge from this as well because a lot of times when we have a stuck feeling or
we feel like we can't do something or we have an internal obstacle that we can't
overcome that's because we're just not accessing the right neurology that has
that resource in it and your eye movements are one way to affect that
neurology so when you move your eyes in different places and this is also how
EMDR works as well when you move your eyes in different places you're opening
up that those portals of new information new channels of information that can
come through into your nervous system so use eye movement patterns and observing
eye movement patterns as a way to connect with someone on a much deeper
level than you could then you would possibly do just listening to their
words and then you will also start to see how you can influence them how you
can direct them with my coaching clients even when they when I ask them a
question and they look in a certain direction and I notice that something
freeze up in them like they loosen up or they smile I will tell them go back and
look in that same direction where were you looking and I'll have them look back
there and I'll ask them okay I know this is unconscious for you and I know this
might seem a little strange but what are you seeing there there's an image there
that you saw because I'm tracking them and I could see that they definitely saw
an image in a certain place and I'll say what are you seeing there and then and
if you look for long enough an image will emerge this is normally happening
very unconsciously for most people but you can bring this into their
consciousness or you can bring it into your consciousness and so if I see
somebody looking down into their to their left I'll say something like what
are you telling yourself right now you can ask that question without somebody
you're trying to read my mind you can say you can say that to someone because
you can tell they're talking to themselves and they won't even skip a
beat they'll just go - oh yeah I'm saying this to myself or some and they
might even say how did you know I was talking to myself
most people are whenever they're thinking they're usually saying
something to themselves but it can seem almost like you know what they're
thinking or how they're thinking about it here's a bonus tip for you I've seen
a lot of people make claims and I've even seen YouTube videos of this where
people are making claims that you can spot a liar by watching their eye
movements for example if I ask you a question and instead of looking up into
your left to get the answer you look up into the right people will say oh you're
constructing that answer you're coming up with that answer you're imagining
that answer so it must be a lie that's not true and it's not true for some of
the reasons I've already mentioned there's a many reasons why we could be
looking in different directions and I would never call someone out as being a
liar just because their eyes moved up into the right - visual construct that's
not fair it's an it's not true you can spot Liars by noticing nonverbals
nonverbal communication we call it an NLP sensory acuity and calibration you
can start to spot deception and that could be deception where the person is
actually trying to lie to you and it could also be deception where the
person's lying to themselves and what happens is is their body or their
unconscious has to reconcile the lie and that usually comes out in some sort of
nonverbal response it can come out with eye movements it can come out with them
you know there could be a lot of different things it's usually some sort
of asymmetrical gesture or posture so my warning to you about this is if you go
out and about thinking that all these people are liars just because when you
ask them questions they look up into there right that's really not fair and
that's going to harm your communication because you're gonna start projecting
onto so many people who are not lying to you that they're liars and that's going
to create a lot of problems for you so like I said you need to observe more
nonverbal cues than just eye movements to detect deception now you know a lot
more about how to make sense of NLP eye
movement patterns and NLP i accessing cues but you can't take this as deep as
you need to go unless you have more sensory acuity and calibration skills
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