Everyone has an opinion about Meghan and Harry's relationship.
For some she's an icon of feminism; for others, she's the Apex Predator of the dating chain,
Some claim that Harry is absolutely submissive, and others affirm that he's the new gentleman
standard.
One thing is for sure: they have rocked the news this year.
And everyone wants to know if Meghan is either a Mexican Soap Opera villain or a victim of
an evil Monarchy.
Either way, their couple dynamics speaks for itself, and since you made my Oprah interview
analysis get to 10 thousand likes, we meet again to reveal the truth of their relationship.
Meghan herself has been the target of dozens of conspiracy theories.
My favorite one is about that photo in 1996 at Buckingham Palace, and people claiming
that she was some sort of mix between a Terminator and HELLO! magazine.
Patiently studying her future prey...
I mean, husband.
Anyway, I'm a huge fan of any kind of conspiracy, so this is my promise: if this Bonus Episode
gets to 25.000 likes, I'll do another debunking or confirming the most popular Meghan Markle
conspiracies.
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The first time the couple was seen in public was in 2017 at the Invictus Games in Toronto.
There are many photo references, but specially relevant is this 15 second clip.
There are SEVEN body language clues in here.
Let's see how many can you spot.
It's easier to read body language clues when they happen one after another, but some have
more weight than others.
Here, the most relevant is in fact, the last one: Their walking rhythm that matches perfectly.
When you're reading a couple's body language, the single most important factor is how are
they synchronized to each other.
There's another clip where you can see it even better:
The next one is how Harry takes the lead.
Just by a bit, that's more than enough.
And that's the natural intention that is programmed by evolution in all males.
Thousands of years ago we used to protect females from anything with teeth so it made
sense to walk a bit in front of them.
Of course, today is less common for a woman to depend on her man's physical protection
from wild beasts, but women still like to be with men that make them feel safe.
That's why this walking dynamic, with the man just a bit in front of her, is so common.
The next body language clue is the neutral hands.
Usually, when a couple is holding hands, the man puts his arm in front of hers.
It's the same protection dynamic.
Then, you either see both thumbs pointing forward or the back of his hand showing forward,
like hiding the woman's hand.
Some body language clues have both a positive and negative meaning.
It this case, that back of the hand forward's positive meaning is protection.
And this depends on the situation.
A good example to understand this is Ben Affleck holding hands with Jennifer Garner back in
the day.
You notice that they usually were holding hands in a neutral way, but when she was pregnant
he shifted to a protective backhand show.
Well, Meghan was not under the tabloids rainstorm yet, so that neutral holding hands was OK.
The next clue seems not as important but it will come in handy later on.
Harry was quite upright.
He was not exactly puffing his chest out, but that slight leaning forward is his normal
posture.
It's a common error to think that a person that excels in something that is very public,
it's automatically going to have a charismatic or outgoing attitude when they are not engaging
in those activities.
You might remember a similar phenomenon with my analysis of Britney Spears, it's like we
had two different people; the one that performs an the one that gives the interviews.
In Harry's case, he's got quite a record both in sports and his military career... but when
he shifts to interview mode, or social event mode, he shows a fair amount of shyness.
Just watch this 10 second clip from 2015 when he and Meghan hadn't met yet.
What can you spot?
- Well thank you for talking to us, in New Zealand.
In the plane over you said you always wanted to come to this country.
I never were kind of fit day in, but how you've found it so far?
- Eh, it's been fantastic, more than I could have been thought...
It's easy to see that he was not comfortable at the moment, even if there was no way of
telling why he was behaving like that.
But it just so happens to be the norm in other scenarios, like this one from 2013:
- Yeah... but it's no, so you...
no, four and a half months have gone very quickly, but I'm very happy to go back.
- And... how do you think that...
Well, in fact those emotional clues seem very odd since he was talking about coming home
from Afghanistan.
Maybe he preferred staying in the scorching desert instead of returning to Buckingham
Palace.
But jokes aside, it's well known that even if both William and Harry were deeply affected
by Diana's death, it was Harry who struggled the most with that tragedy.
Every person processes emotions differently, and maybe he was never able to fully recover
from the fact that everything around him was a constant reminder that their mother is no
longer with them.
And that's an important fact that is about to be useful.
But we had a few body language clues left from the original video.
He's got a tense face and she's way more relaxed, he displays some pacifying gestures, too.
I mention all this because one of the strongest arguments about their relationship is that
she's a dominant narcissistic woman that tricked him into doing all this.
Well, she had the benefit of the doubt right up to Oprah's interview when her credibility
went down just as Boris Johnson's eyebrows.
It was no coincidence that at that time, many people confirmed their suspicions that Meghan
Markle was a narcissist.
For instance, the tale of Kate making her cry.
I already ruled that out as a lie.
Meghan had already shown some ENvy when William and Kate Married.
This is what she wrote oh her now closed blog, The Tig:
- “Little girls dream of being princesses.
I, for one, was all about She-Ra, Princess of Power...
We're definitely not talking about Cinderella here.
Grown women seem to retain this childhood fantasy.
Just look at the pomp and circumstance surrounding the royal wedding and endless conversation
about Princess Kate.”
Yet Meghan herself had a fancy royal wedding costing $45M, babe!
And speaking of envy, the uncanny simmilarity between Kate's wedding reception dress and
Meghan's wedding dress when she married Trevor Engelson five months later... cannot be unseen.
I would not be surprised that she saw the royal wedding like this:
Well, some recollections may vary.
On the other hand, the media has found quite some instances when Meghan "copied" Diana's
dresses.
I plead guilty of having fed these memes too.
But let's be honest and do some math.
Diana was in the eye of the public storm for fifteen years.
That's more than five thousand daily possible combinations of dresses.
How is Meghan supposed to never match her at least a handful of times?
Heck, even Kate has done it! even the Queen has done it! with the difference that the
Queen has five poppies, because apparently she collects poppies just like Thanos collects
gems.
And before you run to blast me in the comments, yes, those black dresses are common in reMEMbrance
day, honoring those that died in World Ward I, and that's why they are wearing those poppies.
This is a good way to illustrate our confirmation bias.
When we want confirmation about our opinion, what we think, only a handful of proofs are
going to be enough to confirm our suspicions.
That is, until statistics hit us in the throat.
But I'm no fashion police.
But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very
long career.
Skills that make me a nightmare for people like Meghan.
And of course you remember this clip from Oprah's interview:
- I never looked up my husband online.
I just didn't feel I need to because everything I needed to know he was sharing with me, right?
Everything that I thought I needed to know.
But maybe it's a bit harder to recall that Meghan had used the "Harry told me everything"
line four years ago.
But back then, Harry was on camera by her side, so we have the advantage to watch his
reaction when she says that.
And trust me, you want to pay attention to his reaction:
- I think for both of us it was really refreshing, because... given that I didn't know a lot
about him, everything that I've learned about him I learned through him, as oppossed to
having grown up around...
- I think for both of us it was really refreshing, because... given that I didn't know a lot
about him, everything that I've learned about him I learned through him, as oppossed to
having grown up around...
That's quite a change in attitude in just ten seconds.
He goes from absolute delight about the woman by her side, the woman that he's engaged with,
to a microexpression of frustration right at the same time that Meghan says that she
didn't know much about him.
He even tenses his jaw in covert anger at the end, and that is not something that's
part of his baseline.
This is one of the things that confuse me a bit about Harry.
Everyone at Buckingham has said that he's always been a sweet and nice person, but there
are times that he shows extreme aggression, especially on those rapid changes of attitude.
There's even extremely rapid blinking so we know that he's emotionally affected by the
moment.
I don't think that he liked what he just heard.
Now, can you guess what happens when Harry is asked about Meghan being a future member
of the Royal family?
This is gonna be good:
- That you together represent something new for the Royal Family?
- Uhm, I think it's not something new, I think... for me it's an added member of the family,
it's another team player, is part of the bigger team, for all of us we all gonna do is...
carry out the right engagements, carry out our work, and...
A lot happened in just 20 seconds.
First of all, most important.
What did Harry say? he was talking about Meghan as an added member of the family, he was sure
that this was going to work and you notice that he talks with absolute confidence.
He keeps his chin up, he has a regular speech speed and most important, there's no rapid
blinking.
If there are no emotional markers or reactions then what the person is saying is coming to
them naturally.
This is something that Harry really believed.
But what was Meghan's reaction as he was saying that? and this requires a replay to spot the
split second when Harry says "it's another team player, is part of the bigger team":
- it's another team player, is part of the bigger team, for all of us we all gonna do
is... carry out the right engagements, carry out our work, and...
Yes, Harry looks at Meghan, Meghan fakes a smile, and how do I know that is fake? because
as soon as Harry looks away from her, she drops her eyes and relaxes her mouth.
Then she looks away from him, and tenses her jaw.
That looking away, that jaw tension, that's covert anger.
And what happens next? she looks back at him, but this time she's absolutely serious and
with her chin high up, almost defiantly.
This was a outright foreshadowing of what was going to happen three years later, right
on their faces.
And I'm really sorry for Harry because this is the moment that confirms that he was sure
that Meghan joining the Royal Family could work.
Now, what about Meghan's reaction?
what does it mean?
And this is absolutely critical if you want to unmask narcissistic behaviors.
Narcissists cannot stand being taken away from the spotlight.
Anything that barely resembles teamwork, anything that takes the attention away from them, anything
that makes them feel or look less 'special' will trigger them.
And when I say anything, I say it just like Amber Heard:
Amber.
- Anything!
Yeah! anything!
That's the reason behind Meghan's reaction when Harry affirms that she's going to be...
how did he say?
another team player, part of the bigger team.
That was a papercut with lemon juice for her, and a nice strategy that you can use if you
suspect that someone is a narcissist.
And that's why narcissists will stop at nothing to separate their partners, or their victims,
from friends and family; and guess what?
Meghan did it while gaining worldwide attention.
That's what I call the big leagues of narcissism.
I've wondered, could Harry be looking for a second mother?
Someone to fit in the void that Diana left? that would explain so many things, especially,
the awkwardness that he displays almost every time he is with her.
For example, look at this scene.
This clipr had originally resurfaced because people were claiming that Meghan had interrupted
Harry and was trying to steal the spotlight in the group.
But due to the very fact that the clip is edited, we cannot be sure that Meghan interrupted
Harry.
It looks like Harry was introducing her to the group.
But what be can see with no problem is the difference in attitude between them.
Meghan finds it easier to reach out, smile and connect, while Harry, well... stays slouching,
grabbing his own hands and covering his belly and doing funny things with his mouth.
It reminds me of James Corden's interview of Harry.
They spent quite some time together and even Corden went to the Mansion from the Prince
of Bel Air to prank Harry into buying it.
All the time Harry was laid back, relaxed.
Then Corden facetimed Meghan.
What do you think that happened right at that moment with Harry's attitude? it changed.
He crossed his arms.
He was looking to the sides as if ashamed.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with a power couple when both of them have a strong personality
and charisma.
But whenever there's a power imbalance, and that's what we are looking at here, no matter
how much chemistry they had at first, it would be increasingly harder to last.
I think Harry does love her.
He seems really infatuated with her, but not so sure if leaving his life as a royal was
the right call.
As for Meghan, there's stil so many questions like the one I made in my prior analysis,
why lie about Kate?
why make Harry confront and distance himself from his brother William?
Those are the questions that only match a narcissists' patterns.
And we also got a glimpse of that back in 2017:
- What was it like introducing Meghan to your father and your brother?
- Uhm... what was it like? it was exciting, I mean...
I've been saving for a period of time that I literally didn't tell anybody at all.
And then...
William was longing to meet her...
In body language is useful to notice the time of events discussed to create the relationship
with the nonverbal signals.
Previously Harry was optimist about how Meghan could join the big team of his family, and
now he's discussing a past event, that was telling his father and brother about her.
That's why you could think that the two reactions are contradictions, but they are not but one
of them refers to an optimistic view into the future and the other... maybe an uncomfortable
event.
We already remember from the Oprah interview that Harry didn't like to talk much about
his relationship with his father, and even if here is talking about Charles and William
at the same time, we could say that the Charles topic was a bit uncomfortable for him even
before getting married with Meghan.
But there are so many divergent points about their relationship, both with body language,
attitude and values that it's not hard to imagine that this is going to be a soft ride.
At least for him.
Only time will tell.
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