Welcome back to my channel, I am sharing with you the behavior indicators
that trigger the 5 major red flags in dating. Stay tuned and be sure to stay to the end.
Guys- in order for you to find the right woman faster, the first thing you need to do is to
check if the woman you are dating triggers any of the red flags I will be sharing today. When they
show these behaviors, you should eliminate them and move on as soon as possible. Your time, money,
energy and heartbreak are priceless and you should be cautious on who you choose to invest them in.
#1 Inconsistent Communication Every step of the way in the dating process,
you need to be consciously aware of the communication
pattern you have with each woman you go on dates with.
Men are usually the ones who initiate to communicate
and it is important to ensure the woman you are dating
reciprocates in a timely matter to move the connection in a forward momentum.
When you are dating someone, you can tell if they consistently reply to your texts,
calls, voicemails, etc.
For example, if you set a date to meet, you can send her a reminder text for logistic reasons
before the date, and she should reply to confirm. As a courtesy, that is a logical thing to do.
If she doesn’t reply, that should trigger a red flag. Everyone is busy in their own schedules.
Communication should not just occur on the day of the date but should be consistent in between dates
with good morning or good night texts or phone calls every other day.
You should at least seek to know each other more by initiating phone calls between dates.
If for any reasons, the woman you are dating isn’t as responsive,
you should confront her in a healthier way to seek to understand, and establish a better way
of communication pattern that works for both of you.
If problems continue to occur, then you should walk away and find someone
who understands the importance of communication in a romantic relationship.
#2 Insecurity
Although everyone has our own insecurities, if a woman you are dating shows overly
anxious insecurity patterns in her behaviors or communication
that should trigger a red flag. These behaviors can be illustrated in her verbal communication,
for example, if you are not exclusive yet and she asked a lot of questions
on how many women you are dating or talking or texting with.
If she oversteps her boundaries and shows signs of jealousy when the relationship has
not progressed to that stage yet, it is something that is alarming.
In addition, if she sends you an overwhelming number of texts per day that show her needy or
desperate behaviors obsessing over you, that should trigger a red flag as well.
The whole purpose of dating is to learn about yourself and what you value in a relationship
and what you cannot tolerate. If for any reason, the woman you are dating makes you feel
too anxious over this connection too early on, she may have deep rooted insecurity issues.
Please note that there is no amount of attention or love that you can provide for her
to make her feel secure. When that happens, please move on as that is forecasting
for a relationship that is not going to be well balanced in the long run.
#3 Inauthenticity
In the early stage of dating, even when you are on dating apps,
please be aware of scammers. I have so many clients who have experienced and
encountered bad incidents where they were involved with dishonest people out there.
Scammers may have fake profiles set up with pictures that are photo-shopped. Scammers
typically would ask you for your emails, your bank accounts or even nude photos of yours.
Please be aware that they may voluntarily send you nude photos of theirs in exchange of yours
then ask for money in exchange.
They may even ask you to wire them money or that their lives may be in danger
if you don’t help. Guys, this is serious fraud and it happens globally in business,
in banking industry, and everywhere- not just online dating.
Every online dating app we log into would always prompt you to not share bank information
or wire money. That is because so many people have been the victims of being scammed.
I have heard many cases that my clients or my friends told me
that they encountered not just on online dating apps
but they were approached randomly on What’s app, WeChat, Facebook, Line app, etc.
In addition, even the women you have already met in person. If they ask you for any financial help
in the early stage of dating when you are not fully committed to each other yet,
that should trigger a red flag of her intention of dating you. Is she
genuine in her connection with you? Only you can determine that.
#4 Disrespect
In early stage of dating, if a woman continuously cancels or reschedules the date,
this is a major red flag. I would advise you as men typically initiate the setting
up of the dates, to initiate the date two days before the time you intend to meet with her.
Thus, you are providing her at least two days in advance notice.
If she said yes, but later on keeps cancelling or rescheduling, this is an indicator that she
is either not interested in you so she doesn’t prioritize you or she is not a serious dater.
It doesn’t matter what her reasons are, it shows that she disrespects you and she disvalues your
time. Guys, we need to walk away when a woman doesn’t value us, it is as simple as that.
#5 The “L” word
Have you encountered the “L” word too soon scenario?
It just means that someone throws you the “I love you” too soon or they love bomb you with loving
words, physical affections, or even manipulative behaviors in attempt to make you commit to them.
If you are not exclusive yet, this is a major red flag
or if she pressures you into an exclusive relationship.
You cannot possibly have dated enough for her to feel these
emotions toward you. She is either transferring love from her previous relationship onto you,
projecting something that’s not there yet, or she is seeking validation through you
by possessing loving behaviors too early in the connection.
Be aware the intention behind all these “unearned” feelings.
The best way for you to know if her feelings toward you are genuine and authentic
is for you to ask yourself if you have developed these feelings toward her yet.
If not, please be aware that she may not have enough history or dating experiences with you to
have developed the “I love you!” These behaviors are very common in people who are narcissistic.
I hope you enjoyed this video on the 5 major red flags
that you should watch out for in the early stage of dating.
When you can navigate through these red flags and screen out the women who demonstrate
inconsistency in communication, insecurity, inauthenticity, disrespect
and who throw early “Love bombs” at you, you will be one step closer to the woman of your dreams.
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