-I haven't talked to you since you got engaged
to Alex Rodriguez.
Congratulations. -We haven't?
-No, no.
-We have. -We haven't talked.
No, I talked to Alex.
-Oh, you talked to Alex.
-I had -- Alex came on the show.
And he told me everything that he --
He was, like, really nervous about it.
But he told me his side of the story.
But I wanted to hear your side of the story.
Did he -- -I didn't know anything.
-You didn't? -No.
I mean, we had talked about it a little bit.
But I had no idea. -He was freaking out.
-Yeah. -And he had the ring.
He didn't know what to do.
-He had rehearsals and stuff with his assistant
and the housekeeper.
-And the way --
No, and, like, he Googled when the sun was setting.
-Yes. Yes. -So that he knew exactly --
-He wanted the perfect light.
[ Both laugh ]
He's hilarious. -He was so nervous.
Like, oh, my gosh. -He's hilarious.
-Did anything to tip you off or anything like --
-You know, it didn't.
And we walked on -- We were walking.
We went on a little beach vacation for a weekend.
He was like, "We should go away before you start to tour,
before you start everything. We have a big year ahead,
and just me and you, without the kids."
And I was like, "Okay. Yeah, let's do that."
And we went away for the weekend.
And, you know, we were walking on the beach.
It was just like nothing.
You know, when you're with somebody --
-You didn't have, like -- 'Cause I think my wife kind of --
We both knew that we were going to get married.
-I thought he was just trying to be romantic, you know?
Like, he set up us eating outside by ourselves.
And then all of a sudden, he's like, "Let's go by the fire."
There was, like, a little fire. I was like, "Okay."
-Yeah. -And he starts, like, saying --
-Romantic things? -Not romantic things.
I don't even remember now.
-Was it like a poem or something?
-I have to remember the story!
I didn't know you were going to ask me the story.
-[ Laughing ] Sorry.
-No, he was like -- he said something like,
"When did you know I was crazy?" or something like that.
Like, he was, like, almost nervous,
like, didn't know what to say.
-And I was like -- I was like --
-I screwed up my whole speech.
-I said, "Pretty much the whole time,
I know you're crazy."
-That's why we love you. We're both crazy, yeah.
-I said, "But I know what I'm signing up for."
-Yeah, of course.
-And he just goes down on one knee.
And I was like, "What -- What are you -- What are you doing?!"
-Yeah. -I was like --
-I did that for my wife,
and she thought I was having a stroke.
-Yeah. -She's like, "Okay, are you --"
And I go, "Will you marry me?"
[ Stammering ]
And she's like, "Yes, but do you need help?
I mean, blink if you want me to call 911.
What is happening right now?"
It was so not romantic. Oh, my God.
Just sweaty mess like I was dancing over there.
-Yeah, but it feels like guys get like that.
They get, like, all -- -I do.
Like, hyped up. I was too hyped up for me.
It was crazy. But it's a beautiful thing.
-But afterwards we were so happy.
It was like we were waiting for that.
We knew I guess eventually we were going to get there.
But -- -Oh, it's great.
I'm so happy for both of you guys.
-Yeah, it was awesome. -And then how do you end up
meeting with Ruth Bader Ginsberg?
Do you know what I'm talking about?
-Yes. -I just heard this.
-Okay so, funny you talk about the engagement.
That weekend, we were in bed,
and we were watching the documentary.
We just happened to watch her documentary.
I don't know if you guys have seen it, "RBG."
-Oh yeah, it's good. "RBG." -And it was fascinating to me.
First of all, she's an amazing woman.
-She's unbelievable.
-You know, been fighting for laws and justice
for so many years in our country, for women,
for minorities, for the underprivileged.
And she also had this amazing marriage to Marty...
-Yeah. -...who was a tax attorney.
I mean -- I'm telling you the whole thing.
But basically --
-You should watch the documentary.
-When I went on tour, and we were in Washington,
I was like, "I'd love to meet her."
Alex is like, "We should see if we can meet her."
And I invited her to the concert.
And she was like, "It's a little bit late for me."
[ Laughter ] And I was like, "Okay."
-She's like, "I'm not doing the lap dance part. Okay?"
I'm not doing that part."
-I was like, "Is it your birthday?"
So we -- She goes, "But come to my chambers.
Let's have a visit. Let's have a little time together."
And we sat there, and we talked, and --
-You asked her for marriage advice?
-I did. You know, he told her the story that we got engaged.
And that's how we, you know, kind of became so interested
in her and wanted to meet her.
We admired her so.
And I said, "Oh, yeah. You had the most amazing marriage.
Like, what's the marriage advice?
Give me the secret, please.
I need it." -Yeah. Yeah.
-And she was like, "You know, it's good --
I'll tell you what my mother-in-law told me
on my wedding day, which was,
'It's good to be a little deaf sometimes.'"
[ Laughter ]
[ Cheers and applause ]
-Actually very good.
-But it was so simple and wise, you know what I mean?
'Cause, like, you know, somebody says an unkind word.
-Sometimes you got to be a little deaf.
-Somebody says an unkind word.
She goes, "And I've used that not only in my marriage,
but in my job that I --"
-It's like, "I didn't hear that.
Yeah, I didn't hear that."
And what was her overall advice
on just any life secrets or anything?
-You know, we were really interested in --
I think there's a lot going on in this country.
There's a lot of divisiveness.
There's a lot of things going on that are concerning.
I said, "What can me and Alex -- somebody like me and Alex do?"
And she was like, "What anybody can do
is just do what you're doing, be your best self
and put out into the world what you're putting out,
inspiring people, doing what you do, living your life
in a way that is an example to other people,"
you know, which is a responsibility.
'Cause you don't want to, you know, think about
everybody watching your stuff.
But that was her thing.
It's like, you're not going to maybe be a judge,
but she was the best judge.
But you be the best you. -Yeah.
-And I thought that was amazing advice, too.
-And you are doing that.
-I'm trying. -You are.
You are doing that. -I'm trying my best.