- If you feel stuck, maybe you don't know what to do,
but you feel like you're stuck maybe in low vibration,
maybe you're in certain situations that feel toxic,
maybe there's somebody that's always get under your skin,
or there's some level of resistance
that you feel like you can't get out of,
the key to getting out of this resistance
is first off knowing that this is not permanent.
What you are feeling right now
is not what you will always be feeling.
The feeling and the emotion of feeling stuck
is a very temporary thing.
So knowing that can help you to first off,
put yourself at a little bit more ease,
knowing that very soon, you won't feel stuck.
You will feel stuck until you don't.
But the thing about feeling stuck
is understanding that the stuck emotion,
what it means is that there's some belief we have,
some definition we have that we are remaining rigid to
and that rigidity
is causing us to stay in the stuck vibration,
the stuck energy.
And sometimes this can also be a comfortable feeling
that you have.
Maybe growing up, you felt stuck,
or you felt like you were in this little box
and this little box that you feel like you felt
and you just wanna break out of it.
But the thing is, it feels comfortable
to sometimes to be in the box.
And that box,
even though it may be replaying childhood patterns,
even though it's familiar,
doesn't mean that you necessarily wanna stay there.
And the stuck feeling that you have is a gift
and is a gift that is showing you
that this isn't what you wanna stay inside.
You don't wanna stay inside,
you wanna break out of that box.
And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly
how to break out of the box, how to not feel stuck instantly
by understanding one simple idea that I share with you
and we're gonna get into it right now.
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Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron Doughty
and I help people expand their consciousness
and also expand out of their boxes.
And I know the box may feel comfortable
and it felt comfortable for me for a long time.
It felt so comfortable for me for so long
that I kicked and screamed to get out of it.
And actually I fought my way to stay in it for awhile.
And the patterns can be very addictive
because they feel familiar.
And for a long time, because of the ex stepmom situation
from seven to 15 years old, where I had no freedom,
wasn't allowed to have friends,
I had earned going to school.
Normally I was locked outside with my brother
and we were doing yard work,
we didn't get enough food to eat,
we were very malnutritioned, so we were definitely in a box.
We were under the rule of my old ex step-mom.
And at 15 years old, my dad divorced her.
And I remember the anxiety that came with that
because all of a sudden, I went from no freedom at all,
to have an ultimate freedom.
I could have friends, I could watch TV,
I could eat enough food,
I could do all these things that I wasn't able to do before,
and guess what, part of me missed the control.
There was a part of me that felt anxiety in the new.
It felt, they call that Stockholm syndrome,
but it literally felt scary for me to be in the new
and because of that, the first girlfriend I had
after that situation from seven to 15,
my first long-term girlfriend,
that was like a couple of relationship was very controlling,
very jealous, very similar to my ex step-mom
with the control dynamic.
Broke up with her, got transferred to a shoe department,
worked at Nordstrom Women's Shoes,
got into a better shoe department with a manager,
that was in the same personality as my ex step-mom.
I was addicted to being in that little box
and I didn't even know it.
And I felt stuck.
I felt up and I felt stuck.
Cause if it's up, it's stuck apparently.
That's what the music industry says.
And what I have learned is
that, that stuck feeling that I felt,
what I was doing is I was remaining rigid
with my beliefs about reality.
I believed that I had to be under the rule of somebody else
in order to feel safe.
And when I learned meditation back in 2017, no 2012,
I had meditation.
It changed everything
because I was able to observe my thoughts.
I was able to observe who I was.
And what ended up happening as I observed
that I felt trapped inside of where I was,
I felt the pain of my past.
I felt resentment towards my ex step-mom, and guess what?
That resentment towards my stepmom had me
having the manager in my life
that was just like my ex step-mom.
So really what feeling stuck is,
is there's a self fulfilling prophecy that we're unaware of.
That self fulfilling prophecy may be that all people are,
there's always somebody in my life that wants to control me,
but you know, the interestingly who it was,
it was always women.
Because my ex stepmom was a woman
and I had a belief that women
were trying to control my personality, who I was,
and I had to listen to them.
So I had this like this edge up,
and this is something that you can become aware of.
And a lot of times feeling stuck
means your soul wants to get out of the box
that you've been staying in,
the comfortability you've been staying in.
Maybe you've been at a job that no longer feels comfortable
and you feel stuck.
You think you have to stay at that job,
or you're in a relationship that isn't fulfilling
and someone's not treating you
the way that you believe you deserve,
well, guess what?
You're allowing yourself to be in this box
because maybe this box feels familiar.
But my message for you is that you can get out of the box.
You can shift it,
you can make a new choice about who you are.
You can wake up to the autopilot mind.
It's really just a choice that you make
and it's something that you can decide right now.
But the thing that it's gonna require you do,
it's gonna require you to have courage.
It's gonna require you to step into the unknown
because all magic happens in the unknown.
And the thing that keeps us
from getting out of the stuck box
is we're afraid to step into the unknown,
but we will always, and you will always remain in that box
until you have the courage to question your beliefs,
to question your reality, to then see that you can,
and it is safe to step into the unknown
because that's where all the magic happens.
I promise you that if you jump into the unknown
or you just take a little step into the unknown,
you don't have to jump right into the deep end.
You could just step into the shallow waters,
take another step, take another step
until eventually you're swimming.
But what happens is we believe
we have to jump all the way into the deep end
and then we end up not even getting out of the box
that we are in.
But the key is that anything magical in my life
that I've created and I've had to have courage
and I know you have that courage inside of you.
I know you have the courage
to say no to a relationship that is abusive.
I know you have the courage
to step out of a job that no longer is fulfilling,
but the hardest part of this reality is knowing
that you have to take ownership
that you've been agreeing to it.
You've been allowing it into your life.
Maybe you've been allowing it into your life
because it feels safe and comfortable.
I was working a nine to five job for years,
for 10 years, almost.
I worked at selling woman's shoes,
knowing I wasn't passionate about it, but it was so safe
because I was getting paid $60,000 a year, wasn't bad
and I was like, you know, there's enough.
But sometimes the enough and the reality we've settled for
keeps us locked.
And there's a beauty that you have
when you can be happy with where you are.
I was talking to someone the other day,
that's telling me that it's both their gift and their curse
is that they're so happy with where they are,
but at the same time
where they are isn't actually fulfilling.
Sometimes I wish I had that gift
because I'm always going for more.
I just moved into this house
and I'm like, oh, I love this house.
This house is awesome.
But already I'm thinking of like,
is there a more I want?
It's sometimes hard for me just to be happy
with where I'm at, because I'm always thinking of more.
I remember I was sitting here
after a month of living in this house,
I'm like, okay, I have this house,
but you know what, I could do that over there.
And I could add this over here
and I can make a deck over there
and I can have my cold plunge over there.
I've tried to change things around because it's not enough.
So it's either a trap that I'm feeling like,
I always have to get out to get somewhere else.
Or the gift that you might have
is be able to be okay with where you are at.
But realize that that gift is also a curse
if you are somewhere you don't wanna currently be.
And the key to this,
and the one thing that makes this so much easier
is knowing that you can shift
and that once you shift your belief,
you then shift your reality.
I had something happen the other day,
where I felt like somebody was taking advantage of me
because it was a contractor situation.
My house in Sedona that I'm selling,
there was this money that I overpaid him.
I overpaid him a lot of money
to get stuff done around the house, to do contractual work.
And his timeline got pushed out so much
that I'm now selling the house
and he wasn't able to get that work done.
So I'm like, okay, well I need that money I paid you back,
like $10,000.
And he spent the money, he doesn't have the money
and he doesn't wanna give me the 10,000 back.
He wants to give me a much smaller amount
because now he's tacking on on all these things
that he says, he had to do to the house.
And it may be an inflated price
because he doesn't have the money.
So he's incentivized to kind of do that.
I got very angry, and I got a frustrated
and here's what I realized,
it was a gift that that happened
because it made me aware that
I have this pattern where I don't trust people.
And because I don't trust people,
I had this also happen
with the house that I had in Las Vegas.
I had this house there and there was this guy
that the landlord was a complete narcissist.
And, why do I keep attracted to people like this
that take advantage of me?
Well, because there's a part of me
that believes I'm the victim.
There's a part of me
that believes that I can't trust people.
Therefore I attract people into my life that I can't trust.
So maybe it has to do with me.
Maybe I have to change my own beliefs.
Maybe I have to change my own perspectives on these things.
And as I became aware of that,
wow, it changed so much because it was so empowering.
The thing we feel stuck with is there's some definitions.
There's some story we have
that we are remaining consistent to
and until we break out of that story,
it will be on autopilot.
When I went through my awakening in 2012,
I went from ADHD, not being able to focus,
partying, drinking, smoking all the time
to all of a sudden meditating,
sitting in the corner, doing like Montrose.
And my family thought I went crazy.
Not all of them,
but a bunch of my family thought I went crazy,
friends thought I went crazy.
And all of a sudden I felt very alone.
I felt like nobody understood me, I felt stuck.
And I wasn't attracting people into my life that got me,
that understood me.
There were other high vibe try,
but you wanna know why that was?
One of the reasons, was because I did not believe
that there are people out there
that could actually like me for me.
I developed a spiritual ego and said,
well, all these other people don't get me
because I'm just spiritually woke and they're asleep.
And then all I would find is people in my life
that didn't understand me,
because I had a belief that people don't get me,
that there aren't a lot of high vibrational people out there
or that I can't get along with everybody.
And can't in a way adapt.
That belief kept me trapped.
So we are trapped in our own beliefs.
We're stuck in our beliefs,
thinking our beliefs are these rigid things.
They're flexible.
Not everybody out there can I not trust,
but I have a belief that says so,
so the universe is just giving me
a reflection of what I believe.
It's not there aren't other Hivite people out there,
it's just that I believe there aren't,
so I'm blocking them out.
What if you feeling stuck
was a part of your process of transformation?
What if you feeling stuck,
the only reason you felt stuck
was you kept saying, I'm stuck, I'm stuck, I'm stuck,
I'm stuck, I fell out, then I'm stuck, whatever.
If you think you're stuck,
it may just be that you believe you are stuck.
But remember in the word believe,
there's the word be, and then lie.
And it's a lie.
It's a lot of times the beliefs we have
are lies that we tell ourself
that feels safe to be in this little thing.
But remember like Cardi B says, if it's up, then it's stuck.
If it's up, then it's stuck.
If your belief is up on this pedestal
and you're really believing in it,
remember, that's what stuck is your belief.
Your belief is stuck.
The intellectual genius of Cardi B
is that she understands that beliefs create,
I'm just kidding (laughing)
I don't know what that will do,
I don't even know what the hell that means, actually I do.
Anyways, if it's up, then it is stuck.
But if your belief is up on a pedestal,
then realize that you're buying into it
and you can go beyond believing into bin.
You can be a version of,
what if there was a version of you
that did know that being stuck was a part of the process,
but you could let go
and become aware of this belief that you're stuck
and you could let it go
and then you could be this new version of you?
If it's up, then it's stuck.
If the belief is up on a pedestal, then it's stuck.
But what you can do
is you can take that belief off a pedestal
and realize you ain't stuck.
Or if you feel stuck,
it's a part of the process and it's okay.
And when you let it be okay,
oh, it's then changes everything.
So that really is the key to this process.
Now, if you didn't know,
there is a way that you can elevate your vibration
and get a meditation to raise your frequency,
to raise your vibration is completely free.
Go to whatsmyvibration.com
or click the link on the top of the description box below,
we just redid the quiz and done the quiz before,
is redone.
And you could do it and get a meditation
that will help you elevate your level of consciousness
or calibrate your level of consciousness,
get a meditation, realize if it's up, then it's stuck.
And it stuck because your belief system is such
that guess what, you're leaving your beliefs on a pedestal.
You think they're rigid and true, but they ain't.
And that's the part of this video I want you to remember.
With that being said, peace, namaste and much love.