everyone wants to be attractive whether you're getting back into the dating
world or you want to move up in your career being attractive probably won't
hurt your chances of success when people feel attractive they generally feel
better about themselves and have a more positive outlook on life people go
through great lengths to feel more attractive plastic surgeons and dietary
supplements make millions of dollars other people who feel unattractive but
the key to being an attractive person is not weight loss of smaller nose or
bigger muscles attractive people come in all shapes and sizes the key to being
more attractive is the energy that you carry within and share with the people
around you if people are attracted to your energy they might overlook physical
flaws use the tips in this video to become a more attractive person inside
and out - number one accept your features and work with them an
overweight person who knows how to dress for their figure will always look more
attractive than a skinnier person who puts no effort into how they present
themselves so don't worry so much about whether your physical features fit
traditional beauty standards there are haircuts and outfits that fit every
shape and size if big curly hair frames your face better than a bob let your
frizz fly buy clothes that show off your shape no matter what your shape is you
might need to consult with an expert about this though personalized tips and
tricks can be found online in magazines and through the help of your
hairdressers or personal shoppers when you start to make your appearance work
for you you'll discover natural beauty and attractiveness that might have been
hiding before it also helps increase your own confidence
tip number two is to pay attention to details in the book the magic of
thinking big one of the world's most famous self-help books the author pairs
fears with simple actions that can put those fears to rest the first fear that
he lists is the embarrassment because of your personal appearance which is known
to a lot of people we have all experienced this type of embarrassment
and sought out ways to improve our appearance so what actions does the
author suggest taking you can go to the barber shop or a beauty salon you can
shine your shoes you can get your clothes cleaned and pressed and you can
practice better grooming now these are just simple actions that can make a big
difference because the best way to cure fear is through action not only will
your haircut look sharper or your clothes look neater but you'll also
spend some of that time consciously improving your appearance in the half
hour that you spend at the nail salon or an hour at the barber you will be
present in a space where you know that you are becoming more attractive putting
yourself in a positive and attractive mental state is just as important as
physically making improvements to your appearance remember from the book atomic
habits the more evidence you give yourself of believing that you're an
attractive person the more you actually believe in tip number three is
a little cheesy but it's to use attractive affirmations the more you
tell yourself something the more you'll believe it the more you tell other
people something the more they'll believe it when you tell yourself that
you're attractive you'll start to believe it and communicate your own
message to others but how can you actually do that without directly
telling people that you think you're hot well I'll give you an example in the
next section your actions shape your thoughts your
thoughts shape your reality you can use affirmations to shape a reality where
you feel confident and optimistic about your appearance and the energy that you
share with others so when you catch yourself feeling unattractive turn your
perspective around look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're an
attractive person even if you don't believe it say it again keep telling
yourself that you're attractive until you let go of the ego that's telling you
that you're not the sooner you open yourself up to the idea that you are
attractive the sooner you will start to believe it and the sooner that others
will start to believe it too even better than an affirmation is to do something
that you think an attractive person would do go get a haircut go to the gym
put some action behind your affirmation tip number four is pretty simple but it
might not be easy it's to project confidence the secret of being
attractive doesn't lie in the size of your nose or the cut of your hair the
mind contributes as much of a person's attractiveness as their face our body
the confidence and presence that a person projects with their attitude can
turn up 4 into a 10 just think about the classic rock stars and actors Iggy Pop
for example isn't a classically attractive man but at the ripe age of 71
you can go to one of his concerts and women will still be following over him
why because his stage presence and rock star status turns heads you don't have
to be a rock star to project confidence or to boost your attractiveness and you
certainly don't have to try to look more like Iggy Pop if you just feel like a
rock star you're confident energy will be felt by everyone in the room this
becomes more evident when you read Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life
chapter 1 about standing straight up with your shoulders back so are you
projecting confidence when you walk into a room confidence is just a state of
mind but it has an effect on the way that we carry ourselves take a look at
yourself in the mirror or maybe in a photo even a quick glance will be able
to show you whether or not you're moving with confidence or insecurity so to
improve your body language number one ask how is your posture standing up
straight with your shoulders back makes you a taller person that takes up more
space when you have the confidence to take up this space and walk tall people
will start to notice and conversely shrinking back into the corner with
slumped shoulders gives off a very sheepish and negative vibe no one was
ever attractive to someone because they were acting sheepishly well actually I
have heard serial killers are because they might be
searching for easy victims but all the more reason to stand up straight also
ask yourself are you present when people feel insecure they may retreat inside
their head it's not hard to recognize when someone is focused on other things
rather than being present in the moment it might have that dole stare when you
enter a room are you present and paying attention to what is actually happening
within the room if you're in a conversation are you actively listening
and engaged these qualities are seen as attractive not because they improve your
physical appearance but because they show people that you value them and are
genuinely interested in what is happening around you and another
question you can ask yourself about body languages are you smiling confidence and
optimistic people can't help but smile all the time
smiling is contagious and your smile can boost another person's mood also people
want to be around other people that make them feel happy and comfortable smiling
is another quick improvement to your appearance that requires less than two
minutes of your time even if you're feeling a little bit nervous a smile is
one of those things you can truly fake it until you make it pop in the bathroom
and smile in a mirror even if it's forced it won't take long before you
crack a genuine smile after all smiling at yourself in the mirror is pretty
silly let's move on to the psychology of Attraction how do we know that
confidence makes you more attractive well it's simple psychology the reason
that we're attracted to people with a larger posture or someone who puts
effort into their appearance goes back to the beginning of our species even the
features of our face that make us more or less attractive can be explained by
psychology people with a so-called baby face are considered more attractive
throughout many different cultures this phenomenon has been studied throughout
the world body language has been studied for the benefit of salespeople
matchmakers and life coaches even when you can't seem to find an explanation
for why you think a certain person might be attractive
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