- What is toxic femininity
and how do these women still get married?
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So without for what I do the toxic femininity
behavior number one, and ladies, please make sure
to stick to because it's the third behavior
of a toxic femininity but I will share
that men usually fall for and even marry these girls.
So the toxic femininity behavior, number one
is when a woman behaves desperate, when she behaves needy.
When she desperately wants a family
when she desperately wants to get married
and her desperation shows.
So when she goes on the date
she may be moans about her exes
how nobody married her, how nobody wants her
how she wants to get married, how she wants all these kids.
Just so desperate to have a family.
She's just so desperate for her husband
that it's all she's focusing on.
And it's all she's talking about.
And of course, when you talk about these type of things,
with a guy you just met, gonna run for the hills
because nobody finds desperate attractive
'cause same as maybe you have a fairytale in your mind.
Same a guy kind of has a fairytale in his mind.
Like he wants to fall in love with a woman.
He wants to see her as a prize.
He wants to see her as the one
and he wants to show off like, this is my lady.
This is my other half.
This is my wife.
I had to conquer her.
I had to fight for her.
I had to compete for her.
She wasn't that easy to get because she's such a catch.
Whereas if you are putting yourself on a plate
with your desperate behavior, nobody wants that.
There is attractiveness in that.
Number two trait of a toxic femininity
is when women think that we behave feminine
but we actually behave very masculine.
So what we do, we go for what we want.
So we actively put themselves out there and we actively try
to seduce men.
We actively try to pursue them.
They are the ones that kind of scan the room.
And when go for the guy that we find attractive.
Maybe we don't come across as direct.
Maybe we will think of some ways
on how to approach that guy so it looks like an accident,
but if a guy is somewhat wise and he's got some experience,
he will know that it was done on purpose,
that you had an eye on him.
And then you ended up being there.
Then maybe you started the conversation accidentally.
And then perhaps you very casually asked him out
and very casually confirmed the date,
very casually called him after that first date
when you are a month later, half a year later
or a year later crying that he still doesn't say I love you
or he doesn't see you as the one
or doesn't have any feelings for you.
Why is that?
Because you are behaving not feminine.
You are behaving masculine.
And by going after him as a target,
you are putting him off
and because guys are the ones that are born masculine.
Therefore they need femininity to compliment them.
And therefore we find femininity attractive.
Same as you find masculinity attractive also
as a feminine woman.
And now here comes the third one,
the actual toxic femininity that guys sometimes fall
into a trap that these ladies dig out for them.
And a lot of times they do put that ring on her finger
and they do marry them.
And then maybe after a few years they divorce
or they just get this very bad image
or idea of women in general.
So how do guys marry toxic femininity?
It usually happens when ladies are intentional with it.
So we are wise.
We are manipulative.
We are gamey.
We have strategies on how to get a guy.
And usually we go for men with money.
We go for men with wealth.
Also it a lot of times happens
because maybe somewhere along the line
we got our heartbroken, we are kind of angry towards men.
And same as many men are angry towards women,
but the reason men fall for our strategies.
'Cause the first steps that we women use
are somewhat high value.
Meaning we are faking their high value.
Think we are very smart.
And we think we are very manipulative
and they think everything is a game.
They kind of like doing the right thing
but we not genuine with it.
We are faking it.
A lot of times, the intention behind it is not right.
So this is where the guys kind of bite the hook,
the guy meets a girl.
She looks good.
She's very charming.
She's very bubbly, she's friendly.
She's like a people butterfly.
She's got this charming social aspect about her.
She sounds wise.
She sounds like she has a passion
or maybe she's got a big hobby
or maybe she's starting her own business.
But she knows just enough to present herself
as a quality woman in a social environment.
And because she's got elegant manners
and she looks good, she's not acting vulgar.
She lets men approach her, guys get intrigued by her.
Naturally guys start to come after her.
And as guys start to come after her,
she starts to create these jealousy environments
where men are aware of each other,
but she tries to make it look genuine
so guys compete for her.
Therefore she comes across as a prize
and when the right guy wins if he is good enough for her,
he gets the girl, right?
So on a piece of paper
and how these women present themselves
can come across really perfect.
It's very similar to charming type of guys
that just kind of BS a lot.
And then as I tell you girls,
watch his actions, not his words.
And date him for a long period of time in order to find out,
is he real?
Is he actually who he says he is?
Or is it just all fake?
And there is literally a clown hiding beneath all of that.
So it's the same with these girls, as long as these girls
have a power, they let the guy pursue them.
They let the guy chase them.
But when things start to not go their way
this is when all the red flags come out,
they start to invite drama,
they start to invite more jealousy.
They start to lie.
They victimize themselves a lot.
They cry, they put the blame on the guy.
Some of these girls even pretend to be pregnant
to get the guy to marry them
to get some financial support.
On the other hand, if a guy is more on a nice side
and he ends up with this type of girl
he's experiencing a dip where it's with his finances
or his health, et cetera.
And these women don't stay around for long.
And they kind of leave pretty quickly
because they don't see anymore benefit for themselves.
So ladies, as I said before,
I'm not trying to bash here any women,
and there are no perfect women.
And all of us have some of the traits that I mentioned
that we need to work on and aim to be the best versions
of ourselves.
Therefore, if you notice some traits that I shared here
that you can relate to, or you could say like, this is me
and you are wondering why your relationships
are not long term sustainable.
Why guys break up with you pretty quickly?
Why the things that the opposite sex don't work out
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