- Hey, everybody.
Welcome back to my channel.
So, here we like to talk a lot about sex and relationships
and sometimes that involves sex toys.
And today it's gonna be a very silly video
because we're going to be exploring
the world of
sex toy colours.
That's right.
And I've not let you down
because there are gonna be charts and graphs in this video.
So inspiration for this video came when I saw this tweet
from Beth Ashley, who's a journalist
who covers loads of stuff around sex and class.
And she says, "Why is so many sex toys purple?
Is there some sort of science behind purple and horniness?"
Great question, but also the people of Twitter
obviously had some very funny things to say about this.
"Pink equals off-putting to men,
green and blue equals too medical,
red and black equals scary,
yellow and white equals gonna look grubby.
That's my hot take."
"Perhaps the colour meaning for purple
is connected to power, nobility, luxury, wisdom,
and spirituality and orgasm is like meditation."
"I think it's because deep down
we all want to shove an aubergine up our butts."
"Isn't the top of a man's cock called his purple helmet?"
"Purple rhymes of nipple."
"Purple starts with the same letter as penis and pussy."
"Purple and orgasm have the same amount of letters."
"I see a pattern."
"Just saying, but the devil emoji is purple too.
By coincidence?"
I think not!
"Purple is synonymous with female power.
It's why so much witch stuff is purple too.
Like girly pink, but darker."
And then also a whole bunch of people shared pictures
of Prince, Barney and Thanos,
because obviously. (laughs)
So I want to dive into whether it's true
that purple is the most popular sex toy colour
and why that might be.
And this video is also a chance
just to get all fun and nerdy about some sex toy data.
And I'm gonna be going through my own sex toy collection
and seeing how the colours map out.
Are we gonna have a sex toy pie chart
by the end of this video?
Maybe, we shall see.
But first, let's try and answer Beth's question
about why so many sex toys are purple.
Purple, the colour of modern feminism.
It's been suggested that purple is the go-to
for modern liberal feminists because pink is a no go zone.
Too girly and too associated with the gender binary
and it being a colour for women.
But purple is still very much a colour
that is associated with women.
And so you still know who the toy is for.
Because we all know that the world would end
if a cis man used a purple butt plug.
What are we to do?
Also this suggestion on Twitter came from Anna Leah,
who is a sex toy engineer
and co-founder of the company Lioness.
Who were actually gonna have
on the Doing It podcast very soon.
But she said, "OMG, sex toy engineer here.
Historically sex toys have been
a male dominated industry..."
Like every industry ever.
"And they targeted cishet men to buy for their girlfriends
to 'spice up the relationship.'
So they were like, let's make them pink, purple,
sparkles and butterflies, women probably love that shit."
Thank you, Anna.
Because if you sit a bunch of straight cis men down
and ask them what do women want out of a sex toy?
The answer is obviously purple, right?
I really want to see more research
into whether or not purple is a sensual colour.
And if there's a link between purple and masturbation
or if we just buy a whole bunch of purple sex toys,
because that's what's marketed to us.
This article about why purple is the sexiest colour,
which I will link in the description, has a few ideas.
Purple suggests a departure from the binary, hetero norms,
a creative openness
and luxury/royalty.
It also talks about the cultural connotations of purple
tying it to queerness, the sixth sack,
the sixth, oh my God, (laughs)
the sixth chakra and its lack
of natural appearance in nature
making it inherently exotic.
But there is some research suggesting that
the colour of your bedroom affects how much sex you have,
putting purple at the top.
Does the colour of your bedroom affect how much sex you have?
A survey of 2000 Brits in 2012
shows that couples with a purple bedroom
had the most active sex lives.
Having sex an average of 3.49 times per week,
which to my little soul sounds like so much sex.
Too much sex, for me. (laughs)
The colours following purple were red, blue and then pink.
The colours correlated to the least amount of sexual activity
were green and grey which feels a little on the nose to me.
Because my bedroom is green and I haven't had sex in ages.
Okay, so now we've talked a lot about purple.
Let's talk about my favourite colour, yellow.
Yellow sex toys.
I love yellow and it makes me very sad
that there doesn't seem to be all that many yellow sex toys.
Lovehoney doesn't even have a yellow category
for vibrators on their website.
And in this article that I found
about how sex toy makers pick colours for sex toys
they said "Yellow always ranks low
in the colour preference hierarchy,
no matter what you're selling."
And I feel personally attacked.
So far, I have found just nine yellow sex toys.
Which may seem like a lot, but actually,
in the grand scheme of the entire sex toy industry,
that is but a drop in the ocean.
And if you're curious about any of these yellow sex toys,
I will link them all in the description.
One of those was Demi Lovato's Demi Wand,
which they released in November, 2021.
And so, you know, the of yellow sex toy representation
took a big step forward then.
It was a momentous occasion for us all.
So now it is time to gather some of my own data.
I'm going to go through my sex toy collection,
organise them by colour,
and see which colour I have the most of.
So here we are at my sex toy chest.
If you want a rundown of all of the toys in this collection
I have a whole other video about that.
Although things have somewhat changed since then
but today it's all about the colours.
We are going go through
all of the different colours of sex toys.
Dun dun dun! (magic sparkling)
Oh, the other one fell down.
Plonk!
There we go.
Very nice. (laughs)
As you can see, we already got a purple one going on here.
I also brought out my trustee bedside drawer collection,
'cause these are the ones that it get more regularly used.
Let's do this.
(fast-paced music)
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Of course if we're wanting to do
very scientific sex research,
we're going to need a sample size bigger than just me.
And so of course,
I asked you my audience
what colour sex toy do you have the most of?
Okay, it's time to find out what colour sex toys you have.
(fingers snap)
Let's do this!
Okay.
Oh, it's happening.
They you go, purple already at the top and black.
(laughing)
Realistic skin tones.
Oh this is fun.
Purple's still number one, by a long way.
Oh, I love that the teal turquoise is there
because like the sex toy, teal turquoise colour
is such a thing.
Ooh, other.
What could other be.
We were only allowed to have 12 options on this.
Oh the limits of (laughs)
doing not proper survey data.
It's fine.
Oh, is pink gonna overtake black?
(gasps) It did!
It did!
But purple's just still up front, out there, strong.
Why am I not surprised?
It's a real fight between black and pink
for second and third place.
Oh my God.
Wait, oh, no!
(gasps) Oh, for just a split second there,
black overtook purple.
Why am I getting so excited about this?
It's like a horse race.
I'm like (imitates ringing)
Oh, no, what, what?
Okay. (laughs)
This is ridiculous.
This is like watching horse racing, right?
This is the same thing.
Did we put bets on?
There are some yellow ones.
No green or orange yet though.
Purple back in the lead
and you know what,
I'm gonna leave it there.
Let's end on cliff hanger.
And then we'll will come back and see if purple prevails
or if pink and black takeover at that last second.
Okay, I'm going to tease you a little bit,
before we look into the results of my sex toys
and your sex toys.
Let's chat a bit about how sex toys are marketed
and how that maybe impacts what colours they are.
Toys for men versus toys for women.
When we look at sex toys designed for women
there's a lot of pinks, purples and soft pastels.
And a lot of sex toys that are for men,
tend to be less colourful.
You get a lot of black
with maybe a splash of red, white, or silver.
It's not designed to look cute in an Instagram post.
Companies are going for a more sleek
and technology like look.
That being said black silicone is very practical
for butt toys, because you're less likely
to see any poop on the sex toy,
which if we're being honest is a very real possibility
if you're engaging in anal play.
So the colour of sex toys are very different
depending on who they're being marketed to.
And sex toys are often marketed
along very cis heteronormative lines.
You'll often see sex toy websites divided up
like sex toys for him, sex toys for her,
sex toys for couples.
This not only ignores the existence of non-binary
and gender nonconforming folks
but it also makes the assumption
that all women have a vulva or all men have a penis.
I get that a lot of companies
are trying to cash in on that sweet, sweet SEO.
As a lot of people will search sex toys for women
but there are plenty of online sex toy retailers out there
who don't use gendered terms
and are able to be successful and make their money
and be inclusive and accurate at the same time.
If you're interested in any of these sex toy companies
who don't use gendered terms,
I will leave links in the description.
It makes much more sense to sort sex toys
in terms of body parts and function.
These are clit toys, vibrators, butt toys, penis strokers.
And even within those categories
there's still a lot of room to play.
Like wands are traditionally marketed to be for vulvas
but you can really use it anywhere on the body.
Also sex toys for couples usually assume
that the couple is heterosexual, cisgender,
and that they shall be partaking
in penis in vagina penetration.
But really most sex toys can also be used for partnered sex.
So now we come to another question of mine.
Why do dildos not look like dicks?
While dildos exist in every kind of colour,
a lot of dildos that are marketed to cis women,
rather than gay men, tend to be super colourful
and look nothing like penises.
When the subject came up on Twitter,
sex and relationships journalist and editor,
Paisley Gilmour, suggested that the lack
of flesh coloured dildos could potentially be
a layover from obscenity laws that meant that sex toys
couldn't look like penises.
Also speaking of obscenity laws,
Thatcher did try to ban all sex toys at one point.
Damn you Thatcher!
There's this idea that a cis woman fucking herself
with a toy that looks like an actual penis
is far more obscene and also
potentially threatening to cis men.
Okay, so are you ready to look at some data
on the most popular sex toy colours?
It is time for the results.
(hands drum rolling)
Okay, so I have a pie chart for my results
and I have a bar chart for your results.
So first with my sex toys, I have a total of 66 sex toys.
But let me remind you, this is my job. (laughs)
That's maybe not like your average person's collection size.
I had majority purple sex toys.
17 of them were purple.
Pink, a close second with 15.
And then everything else was just so much lower.
The next biggest category after pink
was the teal turquoise category with five sex toys.
And then blue, black, silver and multi-colored
all had four each.
Three sex toys each in the red category
and then the white category.
You don't see many sex toys in the colour red.
Which is kind of interesting
because we associate the colour red
with things like love and passion and romance.
But then on the flip side of that,
it's also associated with things like blood and danger.
And in terms of blood, also periods.
Although now that I'm thinking about it,
surely like a red coloured dildo would be great,
because then like you wouldn't be able to like,
see as much blood on it,
if you were using it on your period.
I don't know, just a thought. (laughs)
Then I had two green sex toys.
And one sex toy in each of these colours,
gold, orange, yellow, realistic skin tone
and grey.
So there you go.
We've got a lovely trusty pie chart to show the results.
Massive chunks for purple and pink and then everything else.
Very little, very little.
But now let's see how my results compared with yours.
In a shocking, shocking turn of events.
Pink is the number one colour of sex toys of you guys.
Purple in at a close second.
It was very touch and go there
at the top for pink and purple, but pink prevailed.
That's super interesting to me.
Over 2000 people took this survey.
So in third place we have black toys
and then in fourth place was other.
We could only put 12 options on this thing
and having a look at my sex toys,
I would make an educated guess
that in the other category is things like
silver, grey, white.
Kind of like those colours that I had a few of,
that we couldn't put on this list.
Then in fifth place, I'm not surprised here,
teal, turquoise, those classics.
And then just underneath it, blue.
Then seventh place, realistic skin tones.
Then red, then multicolor.
And then down at the bottom, orange and then green.
And then in the last place, yellow. (laughs)
I mean, I can't say I'm any better,
because I also do only have one yellow sex toy,
but it's not like there's a lot of choice out there.
But I do find that very funny.
After all of that, that I said, yellow is at the bottom.
(laughs)
But pink is our winner.
Pink is our winner today.
What is the most popular sex toy colour?
According to our very scientific research,
it is in fact pink.
However, I think I want to still say
that the most popular sex toy colour is purple.
Maybe lots of people have pink sex toys in their collection
that were maybe bought longer ago than purple sex toys.
But now I'm just hypothesising.
Question for you in the comments,
why do you think purple is such a popular sex toy colour?
And I guess we also need to ask
why is pink such a popular sex toy colour too?
And why is yellow so unpopular?
Answer me that.
And as a side question,
what do you think your bedroom colour
says about your sex life?
Because that is a Buzzfeed quiz that I would 100% take.
(laughs)
Thank you so much for watching.
I hope you enjoyed
this very silly exploration and experiment.
I hope that you're doing well
and I'll see you in my next video.
And now I need to put all of these sex toys
back in their bags and back in here.
Fun times.
Bye.
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