Hey guys,
there are some cringy
and really embarrassing ways
some men simp on social media
and in real life
and don't even realize it.
Simping is such a major turnoff to women
that if you do simp
then you're not even going to get past her gate.
Never mind into a relationship,
never mind even into a one-night relationship.
And the harsh truth is
if a woman starts to think of you as a simp
it's nearly impossible for her
to change her mind about you.
And when that happens
you might as well give up
and start all over with someone new
who doesn't even know you.
But then
you'll simp again with the next girl
and pretty soon
by being rejected
over and over again you'll start to think
that women only want
the Chad and Tyrones of the world
and that's simply not true.
Let's look at
the embarrassing way men's simp
on social media and in real life.
Why it's such an instant turn off to women.
The difference between being a simp
and a gentleman, you might be surprised.
And the counter-intuitive way
to know if you are simping
or if you are being a gentleman.
So, you can stop getting rejected
and start spending quality time
with the kind of women you want to be with.
Welcome to just the tip.
So, some of you might be wondering
what is simping anyway?
Well, simping basically
is putting a woman on a pedestal
and treating her like a celebrity
by either giving her
swaths of attention
or spending money on her
and just hoping
to win some little crumb of attention
or affection from her.
It's the new term
for thirsty nice guys.
Let's look at some social media examples
of what simping is
and then we'll look at some real life examples.
So, here are some embarrassing ways
that men simp on social media
and it's way too out of hand.
Liking every post
that she puts up on Instagram or TikTok
and using lots of emojis
like hot, drooling,
love struck eyes,
or he, he, he is this too much?
Exaggerated compliments on her appearance,
you're so hottt!
(Laughter)
Sorry, don't do that.
Inappropriate declarations
of love or admiration.
Marry me Ashley.
And you don't even know her in real life.
Even if you did
that's still simping but we'll get to that.
Acting like her boyfriend
when you don't even know her
like using pet names
or declaring date nights or invites,
sending long sappy messages
that beg for attention.
How about this one? Defending
her anti-masculine,
pro-feminism, man bashing posts.
Whether you're posting
publicly in her comments
or trying to slip in to her DMS.
Social media simping is an instant turn off.
And she may even reply
with a thanks but guaranteed
she has little to no respect for you.
Now that's not to say that
complimenting is always a bad move
indeed complimenting can be a good move
but it's when and how you complement
that makes the difference
and I'm going to tell you more about that in a minute.
But first, let's look at the embarrassing ways
men simp in real life
and some of you might be surprised by some of these
because you're probably doing them
and not even realizing.
Embarrassing ways men simp in real life include
multiple compliments on her appearance
in rapid succession
especially in rapid succession.
Double or triple texting her
when she hasn't even replied
to your first text.
Being overtly available
anytime she wants.
If you are starting to see her
publicly marking your territory
this translates to
insecure not proud of.
Apologizing when you shouldn't.
Definitely watch my video
on how not to simp your sorries
I'll put a link at the end.
Buying her gifts
when you're not her boyfriend
maybe you're just dating.
How about this one?
Being her emotional tampon
when she complains about her boyfriend.
There you are sitting on the sidelines orbiting
hoping to get something
meanwhile she's just using you.
Essentially simping in real life
is when you put her values and needs
above your own in every way.
But Anna,
why is that such a turn off to women?
You think they'd like that?
No, this is why it's counter intuitive.
Simping is a major turn off
because a high value woman needs to know
that you have high value oriented standards
not low shallow oriented standards.
Key point,
if everything she does
is perfect in your eyes
she knows you are not really seeing the true her
you love the idea of her,
and the fantasy
you've made up in your mind about her.
This brings us to the law of real love,
which I just made up.
So, the law of real love is
you can only really love someone else
this other person
if you can see
and appreciate, know and understand
that they have latent flaws.
What are latent flaws?
They are the hidden flaws
that are not visible on social media
or even visually in person.
And the law of real love
means that you need to be able to
not only see those flaws
but she needs to know
that you see those flaws.
And no, simping is not a flaw
that she's going to learn to love
because it goes against the law of true love.
So, how do you
show interest without
it being a turn off?
Let's look at what simping isn't.
Generally,
it's not simping you're more safe
if you focus on
character related comments
and or compliments.
Why? Because this actually shows
you have standards
high standards value-oriented standards
beyond the physical.
Limit complements
to one per interaction maximum.
Hint, interaction means
she's interacting,
she's engaging.
If she's not legitimately
reciprocating and engaging
stop you're only feeding her ego.
And generalize instead of personalize.
Example, social media.
You're the kind of woman
I would like to get to know in real life.
Kind of not personally not her,
but the kind of, I like some of your qualities
hope to meet someone in real life
who has some of these qualities.
Instead of you're the person for me, marry me.
When can I meet you?
Please answer my email.
That's simping.
In real life this might look like
so far you seem like
the kind of woman I'd like to get to know better
versus I've been looking for you all my life.
Simping.
And in order for you to have high standards
to be able to attract a high value woman
you have to have self-esteem.
If you don't have high self-esteem
that's when you slip into simping
and you'll never slip into her.
Now what about simping versus being a gentleman.
So again, simping
comes from a beta male place
of feeling low value
whereas chivalry
and true gentlemanly behaviors
come from a place of feeling high value.
And the main difference
is intention.
When you are in the mindset
of vetting her, not getting her
you're going to react and respond
in a whole different way.
And the chivalrous things you do
the kind and thoughtful and courteous things you do
won't come across as simping
even if some of those actions
are similar to
some of the simping things we've talked about.
In other words, chivalry can include
opening doors for her.
Not purposefully ignoring her text for days
if you're not truly busy.
complimenting her
particularly on her positive character traits.
Remember that shows her you have standards
and what those standards are
that are important to you.
Letting her borrow your
sweatshirt when she's cold.
Women are usually colder than men
unless they have a lot of extra insulation.
And yes, you can even
tell her she's beautiful
but it's not to get her validation,
attention, or approval.
In other words,
you're courteous and thoughtful
because that's the kind of man you are.
And as importantly
she deserves it
and reciprocates
attention, compliments etc.
Not because
you want something from her
or secretly want to win her approval.
So, some of you are wondering like
oh man, did I send in Anna's comments?
Yes, some of you have
but you didn't know any better
and I appreciate
your compliments except the ones
where you give me pet names,
I really don't like that.
I have to say I really, really don't like that.
That's something you should save
for your someone special
when you actually get her.
When she actually deserves you.
As well, I'm not here trying to win
your attention for my ego
I'm here trying to provide entertainment
edutainment know what?
Education and entertainment.
So, compliments on
my video content
are welcome
and your comments actually do help
my video reach other men
who need them as well
so thank you for your comments.
Now, while it's safe generally
to simp on my page
it's not a good idea for you to do it.
Find other ways to write a comment
because it's just a bad habit to get into.
So, how do you stop simping
and then how do you compliment a woman
without simping mindset.
Here's the key,
you have to have high standards,
you have to have any standards
but better if you have higher standards
then you have to actively
and openly vet for them.
Just because she's pretty or hot
should not be your only standard that's shallow.
Your mindset must be
she has character flaws, we all do.
She has character flaws
what are they?
And then you want to ask yourself
continuously as you're getting to know her
what are her character flaws?
Does she still qualify for me?
What other character flaws does she have?
Does she still qualify for me?
Does she meet my standards?
That's the mindset you must have.
And that's not to say you're going to
point out her flaws
to be mean or cruel
but you're certainly going to be aware of them
and sometimes yes,
you are going to call her out on them.
With this mindset
she will know that
she is under review for you,
which means she knows you have high standards.
What do high value women
need from a man?
She needs to know that he has high standards.
This means that
if she eventually does capture you,
your heart, your attention, your love, your care,
then she deserves you
and she knows
you deserve her.
Now, as I mentioned
women do love compliments
but there's a way to give them
that makes them intrigued
instead of instantly turned off.
So, you will want to watch
how to complement beautiful women
without being creepy or simpy
and in that video
I share my favorite compliments.
Thanks for being here God bless.
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