hey guys my name is lydia thank you so much for
clicking on this video and welcome to another episode of deep chats in all black.
so i kind of held off talking about dating on this channel because i don't know i felt like
it was too personal but the more i have shared my life on this channel and on the internet i've
kind of realized that it's about having relatable content that really makes you stand out and i feel
like i do have a lot of things to share about personal growth in that area and funny stories
and disaster stories, so why leave this part of my life completely out? obviously i'm not going to go
super into detail but you guys really wanted it so here it is. basically one of the most popular
videos on my channel is about having the rarest personality type in the world which is intj for
women i have to reiterate. supposedly it's not the rarest in the world but for women it's you know
point eight percent of women have this personality type because it's a lot more masculine i would say
like having an intj personality means that you're super rational in every little aspect of your life
even dating, and so this video i'm going to expose myself and the weird things i do in a relationship
dynamic which i thought were completely normal until i started telling people how i am and they
were really shocked. so if you're trying to date a very rational woman good for you good luck
if you are a rational woman and you want someone to relate to hi we can be friends and otherwise
i think this is just kind of a hilarious discussion like it amazes me what i used to do in
my previous relationships and even what i do now like if i talk about it and i edit this video i'm
probably gonna be even more shocked at myself. so i think in general like obviously i'm gonna talk
about my experiences dating as a woman but i think that anyone with this overly rational personality
type who's a woman kind of stands out because women tend to be more emotional and more like use
emotions to kind of guide their actions and i think that i kind of benefit from being super
logical because i can understand emotions and i can definitely read people really well
but i can still be logical about everything i do so i just kind of feel like it's a plus on my side
i think that's also why i don't do hookup culture and i don't do flings and if you want to date me
it is a long process like it will take several months of pursuing and showing that you're
interested because i consider a relationship as part of my investment portfolio like where do
you fit in in my daily activities and in terms of business? what are the cost-benefit analysis
of our relationship if it were to happen? see the fact that i'm using these words to talk about
dating should already tell you something but truly it's like i expect somebody to put a lot
of effort if they really want me to date them because dating them is going to mean that i'm
going to contribute significant amount of time and energy so it's got to be worth it. in conclusion
i am only looking for husband material people and if you're not that it's not going to happen buddy
anyways so i would say my first relationship it was four years long and it started when i was 16
and i was in high school and i was studying a lot and this guy pursued me for several months finally
it happened and during our relationship because academics were such a priority for me i would set
timers for us having intimate moments because i was like i need to study after this or i need
you to leave so that i can have a good night's sleep so that i can wake up early and study
can you imagine i literally set like 30 minute timers and i was like all right buddy let's go
if it doesn't happen doesn't happen but like like you have to go after this like that's horrible
honestly i think me and him are still traumatized by like the iphone the first alarm on your phone
because that literally every time we hung out would go off and now that i look back and i'm like
i don't know how it lasted four years i honestly am amazed and then other things like me being like
why would we go out and spend money when we can cook at home and i already have ingredients or
why spend money on stupid date ideas? because that to me is just a waste of money it's not as fun
luckily now that i'm in a new relationship i've matured from that point and i'm a lot
more open um my current partner was like we should be more spontaneous and i was like
i feel like spontaneity doesn't really fit into my schedule. in my head i have my whole weeks
planned out you know from sunday to sunday it's all in my head so i've already scheduled you in
for tuesday night and friday night like i can't really change that. i think one of our issues now
is that he always wants to like sleep in and i'm like anxious when i wake up in the morning because
i'm like listen i could be doing something right now like it's nice spending time with you but
i could be working on something productive and so usually i'm like you know what we can go to 10 a.m
but after this i'm leaving. so yeah dating a very logical person's fun you know i think we have this
very chilled personality which makes it a very calm relationship but if there is an argument
i think it wouldn't go so well because i would be completely prepared with an entire legal
essay on why i'm right and i will never lose. i think in terms of like the partners we do seek
are the ones that are more calm and not as authoritative because if there were two versions
of me in the relationship there would definitely be a nuclear war like it just wouldn't be possible
so it's kind of nice having somebody who's more agreeable and more accepting of my ideas
because i'm just i feel like i have such a strong personality and strong ideas so yeah if you clash
try to be a bit more conceding i know you might not like to hear that but
i don't know it's interesting that as a girl in the relationship
i truly feel like i always wear the pants even if someone is a couple years older than me i'm
like how do you not know how life works? so yeah it's it's a fun time um i think in the
future i'll go into specific topics about dating because i have some wild stories and experiences
even though i've only really done really long-term relationships and very very few of them i think
there's a lot more to be discussed but this is kind of the basics of the basics and what it is
to really date an intj woman. i think it's fun we can be one of the bros because if you put
us in your group of guy friends we'll fit in perfectly because of our more masculine energy
but when all the guys start bringing the girlfriends like i actually get so annoyed because
i'm like you guys are acting so naive and so dumb for what? like you think that's attractive maybe
but like to me i just i just feel like that's making women look worse and like i i'm like i
don't identify as one of you guys even though i am clearly a heterosexual woman and uh yeah
anyways best of luck if you're dating somebody like me honestly and i'll see you in the next video