Individualistic with a perceived tough-exterior, INFJs may fool their observers into thinking
they’ve got everything under control, when the truth is that INFJs are much more sensitive
than they seem.
Not only are they easily overburdened with their empathetic gifts, but there’s some
things in their day-to-day lives that can end up throwing them into full-blown panic-mode..
8 of which we’ll be discussing in today’s video.
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Number 1: Keeping track of too many details Perfectionistic, big-picture thinkers, INFJs
are keen on conceptualizing information to the best of their ability.
They love synthesizing smaller bits and pieces of observed information to later form a cohesive
larger-picture image that serves as a guide in the grand scheme of things.
And while they love to examine and inspect certain information to better understand it
from all angles, this big-picture thinking makes having a multitude of details seriously
difficult to navigate.
Too many details and data thrown at an INFJ all at once takes the INFJ away from their
natural tendency to form their own master plan using their own approach.
They need to understand the ‘why’ behind the basic information rather than uptaking
every frivolous detail in order to successfully process it.
This is also true when it comes to an INFJ explaining their work.
Sure, they can come to a clear and fair conclusion but they may struggle to explain the specifics.
Number 2: Large social gatherings
It’s no surprise that the introverted and sensitive INFJ would avoid socializing in
large crowds to avoid absorbing a plethora of energies, however, that’s not the only
thing that gets to them.
Depending on the set and setting, INFJs can easily become overwhelmed by excitement, over-expressiveness
and even the simple act of a large group of people having fun.
No, they’re not total scrooges, but sometimes INFJs observe socializing as a little cringy,
especially when everyone has had their share of liquid courage.
And while observing from a far is usually quite enjoyable and not exactly overwhelming
for this analytical type, it’s when they get pulled into the crowd that it all becomes
a little too much for them.
And isn’t that the whole point of attending social gatherings anyway?
To avoid this, they much prefer to spend time on their own or with a few close friends to
avoid rapid discharge of their social battery.
Number 3: Doing something new while someone’s watching
One thing that almost every INFJ can relate to is the struggle of concentration when they
feel someone is watching them.
Whether it’s training for a new job, learning a new skill or even shadow-training someone
else, INFJs can feel seriously overwhelmed when someone is observing them or something
they’re doing without being able to observe back.
Not only does this put serious pressure on them, regardless if that’s the intention
or not, but being watched as an INFJ also takes away that sense of independence they
are always chasing.
They prefer to get things done on their own terms without feeling someone judging their
actions.
However, when it’s someone they love deeply and feel safe with, this is an entirely different
story.
Number 4: Having too much to do with such little time
There's nothing that compares to the overwhelming feeling of a tight deadline.
In fact, due to their perfectionist nature, one of the INFJ’s biggest pet peeves is
having too much to do with no time to do it.
Unattainable deadlines, last-minute changes in plans, and even spontaneous adventures
can throw an INFJ into total panic mode.
And since the last thing an INFJ wants to do is cut corners or have something that represents
their work-ethic as disorganized, their sense of concentration is replaced with overwhelming
anxiety.
When this happens, INFJs need to withdraw to a place where they have privacy and relief
from overstimulation to give their brains a chance to process the information and make
a stable plan.
However, with all that being said, there’s nothing worse than a tight deadline that they
have no one to blame for but themselves and their procrastination, which brings us to..
Number 5: Having things to do with no order
To-do lists and planners are an INFJ’s best friends.
While we can’t speak for every INFJ, most people with this personality type require
some form of outer task organization in order to feel composed and level-headed.
Especially in busy times when the INFJ has taken on a little more than they can handle,
when thoughts and tasks are free-floating in their mind you can bet they’ll become
overwhelmed before they’ve even started.
And with the feeling of being overwhelmed comes INFJ procrastination.
Unlike certain personalities such as the ESFPs and ESTPs, who are able to just do things
without too much calculation, INFJs need a foundation of organization in order to get
started.
When there is no order or structure to their plans, they’ll end up spending most of their
time task-avoiding rather than just going head-first into the multitude of tasks that
are expected of them.
Number 6: Emotional exhaustion
Most INFJs are not only known to be highly sensitive people, but they also have been
given the empath title because of their automatic tendency to pick up and absorb the emotions
of people around them.
We talk about this gift/curse often on this channel but how does it overwhelm the INFJ
in their day to day lives?
Well, an example of this would be if an INFJ’s spouse came home stressed about work, the
INFJ will absorb this feeling and begin feeling just as stressed, despite how well their day
went themselves.
Or if a co-worker is sad, they will start feeling extremely sad without first even realizing
why their coworker is sad in the first place.
Instead of just mentally acknowledging these feelings and emotions in order to separate
them from their own, this personality type actually begins to feel them for themselves.
And no one but the INFJ really knows just how emotionally exhausting and overwhelming
it is to carry around not only their feelings but also everyone else’s.
Number 7: Their own people-pleasing habits
Another quality of the INFJ that can end up overwhelming them is their people-pleasing
habits and tendencies.
INFJs hate to say no to someone in need of a helping hand or listening ear.
They hate feeling like they have disappointed others, and work hard to avoid this, yet because
of this, they have trouble setting boundaries and finding ways to turn people down without
feeling an immense amount of guilt in return.
This can cause the INFJ to become overwhelmed, and rightfully so.
Since they need to feel appreciated for their actions, if it goes on too long with them
feeling like a doormat, the INFJ will eventually reassess and might need to redirect their
affection back to themselves.
In fact, these people-pleasing tendencies not only cause the INFJ to end up taking on
more than they can chew, but it also can end up making them feel spiteful towards others,
especially when their gestures aren’t appreciated.
Number 8: Having to contribute to ego-centric goals
The INFJ personality type is genuinely kind-hearted, with the natural desire to navigate their
choices and decisions in life using their heart as their guide.
But, since they’re thrown into this world like the rest of us, INFJs are expected to
adhere to conventional standards just like everyone else.
And because of this, they can experience a tremendous amount of stress and overwhelming
feelings when they’re encouraged to chase after goals that only serve the ego over their
inner spirit.
In fact, INFJs can get overwhelmed by the simple idea of making ends-meets by doing
something that doesn’t fulfill them, day in and day out.
They hate the idea that people are deemed worthless or incapable unless they prove that
they can somehow be used to fill the wallets of someone higher than them in such a profit-driven
society.
Actually, if they were to dive deep enough the idea of egoistic motives over that of
love can overwhelm this empathetic type to the point of depression.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video..
So, how often do you feel overwhelmed in a day as an INFJ> Let us know in the comments
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