♫ Where in the world is Superwoman today, eh?
Chicago. Chi-town.
Windy City. Deep dish pizza. Mm.
What up eveyone? It's your girl, Superwoman,
and I'm losing my voice, but that's not the point.
Today's video is gonna be a little bit different.
It's probably not gonna be funny, but I can guarantee you,
it's gonna be straight from my heart.
Now, I'm gonna be honest with you,
I've been having a really tough time recently.
I'm in the middle of my world tour, and it's been
mentally, emotionally, and physically overwhelming.
As a result, I'm finding myself unhappy sometimes,
A-K-A, right now.
And because I'm a pretty spiritual person,
I've decided to analyze my feelings,
not only in hopes of making you maybe feel better,
but kinda to make myself feel better too,
and hopefully by the end of this video
we can both smile together.
Now, everything I'm about to say is based
off my own experiences and things I've learned,
and I feel like I'm making this video
just to kinda remind myself.
So, welcome to five things we do to make ourselves unhappy.
I think that's the title. Was that the title?
It's something like that. Are you ready?
Because it's honesty hour.
Number one: Expect to control people and situations.
Now, I'm gonna be real with you,
I'll be the first to say, I'm a huge control freak.
Like, I'm on tour right now, and every time I'm onstage,
I want to control everything that's happening.
And even in my personal life, I find myself
expecting people to do certain things.
But what we need to remember, even though
it's really hard to accept, is that
we will never control people and certain situations.
For example, if I'm on stage and the microphone
stops working, nothing I do can fix that.
The only thing I can control in that situation
is how I react, so I can either
a, get pissed off and throw the microphone
at someone's head, or b, make a joke about it
and hope people laugh.
And the same goes with people.
If we could control people, let's be real,
you would be dating your celebrity
crush and be living on a yacht.
Are you living on a yacht? I don't think so.
And if you's living on a yacht, then god damn it.
Now, the reality is you will never control people
and what they do, no matter how hard you try,
and it's okay to have expectations of people,
but understand that if you have expectations,
people will not always fulfill them,
and there's nothing you can do about it.
The only thing you'll ever be able to control
in this world is how you react,
so the key is to react like an effing boss.
Number two: compare yourself to others.
Now, i feel like in today's day and age
this is mostly the fault of social media,
because it's so easy to go through Facebook
and envy everybody else, but what you need to remember
is that we as humans have the tendency
to compare people's highlight reel to our blooper reel,
because no one's life is as wonderful
as it seems on social media, and how do I know this?
Because my life is not nearly as wonderful
as my Instagram makes it seem, okay?
I know I put seven filters on every picture,
and so do you, and so does everybody else.
Everyone has their own path because everyone is different,
and in a world where there's seven billion people,
it's stupid to think that everyone's going to
get from A to B while using the same road.
It's just not gonna happen, not to mention,
a lot of people aren't even trying to get to B,
they're over there chilling on Q.
Look how many people are on this planet,
everyone is so different, where it doesn't even
make sense to compare each other.
I suck at some things, and I'm good at some things.
You suck at some things, and you're good at some things.
This is everyone's story.
Number 3: View mistakes and hard times negatively.
This gon' be some real talk.
How do you know not to touch the stove when it's on?
Chances are when you were younger you burnt
yourself a few times and now you know
if you touch it, it's gonna hurt.
But how would you know that if
you didn't burn yourself in the first place?
As humans we learn through mistakes.
How do you know how to walk?
Because when you were a toddler
you fell on your butt a couple hundred times.
Now that concept doesn't change over time.
From the moment you were born,
to the moment you die, you will always
learn things because you effed things up.
Or because someone hurt you.
Look back, honestly take a second
and look back at every lesson you've ever learned
and I can guarantee you that lesson
is founded on strong mistakes, heartache,
tears, and a whole lot of other sad things.
If you've learned who to trust
it's probably because someone has lied to you.
And if you've learned how to be positive,
it's probably because you've been negative.
And if you have the app find my iphone on your iphone
it's probably because you've lost your iphone.
So when you make a mistake or you fail
or your heartbroken, yeah, cry.
Be sad about it, that's ok, but also
be 10% happy because yo this is
going to teach you something amazing
that will help you in the future.
There is a huge silver lining to everything.
Picture it as exercise for your soul.
Number four: Ignore your closest friend.
We're so busy idolizing celebrities
daydreaming about our crushes
prioritizing our besties and consuming
ourselves with media that we ignore
our closest friend, ourselves.
Now the way I see it, people are wonderful.
People are like the cherries on top
of an already delicious sundae. They're bonus.
But the person you should be relying on
most in this life, is you. Why?
Simply because no one knows you
as well as you know yourself.
No one can read your mind, no one
knows your greatest fears, no one can
hear all of the little voices inside your head.
And for that reason no one can
be a better friend to you, than you.
It's important to talk to yourself,
love yourself, be your own friend.
Be on the same page as yourself.
Have your own back because I promise
you no matter how popular you are
at some point in your life, you'll find
yourself alone in a room feeling super lonely.
It's in your best interest to be friends
with the only person in that room.
Number five: Surround yourself with negativity.
Negativity is like a contagious disease
if you hang around it, chances are you'll experience it.
It's really really simple if you don't want
to experience negative feelings don't
hang around negative people who talk negative crap.
Don't hang around people that gossip.
Don't hang around people that put you down.
Don't hang around people who hate other groups of people.
And you yourself don't speak ill about anyone else.
If the people around you don't make you smile
and inspire you then you are around the wrong people.
If you don't want to smell like crap,
then stop hanging around crap.
If you don't wanna be wet, then get outta the rain.
It's a very simple concept. If you wanna be happy
surround yourself with happy people and things.
Well that's all, I don't know if this video
was helpful or if you hated it or if ya loved it but
I'm feeling a little bit better and we all need
that reminder once in a while.
Let's smile, ready, one, two, three.
We're gonna be okay. We're always okay.
We, we're gonna be okay.
Comment down below and let me know
if I missed anything or if you just wanna
drop something positive maybe someone
will read it and it'll really make their day.
So go ahead and spread the joy.
If you liked this video and liked the stuff I said
I do a lot of this during my show.
I am on tour I got four shows left in North America.
The link is in the description
www.lillysinghtour.com, tomorrow I'm
headed to Vancouver BC, I've got Seattle
I got San Francisco and I've got Anaheim.
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I sincerely hope in some way, shape or form
this video has positively impacted your life.
Until next time, one love, Superwoman
that is a wrap and zoop!
We're gonna be okay.