Now it's time for y'all.
We did the fears in a hat.
And that sounds heavy, so--
It was heavier than I expected,
but it wasn't overwhelming.
There were some things said about you that I didn't know.
[LAUGHING]
Like what?
Hold on.
What did she say?
It was that you are, like, the messiest person in the world.
Oh, yeah.
STEPHANIE: You're in a relationship--
ERIN: Uh-huh. AMANDA: Uh-huh.
STEPHANIE: --and there are things in a relationship
when you go into marriage, you're going
to have to adapt and adjust.
Let's be honest.
We have to take some responsibility here.
Erin didn't do that by herself.
This is from, you know, her upbringing.
Your lack of responsibility growing up,
your lack of-- even something as simple as chores.
Oh, wait a minute.
Uh-uh, slow your roll.
AMANDA: --and that's what I wanted.
Uh-uh. Slow your roll--
OK.
STEPHANIE: --because I raised Erin.
AMANDA: Yes. - And I'm not a neat freak--
AMANDA: Right.
STEPHANIE: --but I instilled in both of my children
to pick up, clean up.
AMANDA: Yeah, but that's different than having
a responsibility--
STEPHANIE: No.
--for-- Erin's even told me herself
she didn't really have a lot of responsibility growing up.
My responsibility was to be a good kid.
STEPHANIE: To be a good kid. - And that's what I was saying.
So she's not coming at you saying--
STEPHANIE: Yeah.
--that you didn't raise me as the woman I am.
She's just saying that she's from a different background.
That's true, but that's not what I'm saying
really at the end of the day.
I'm saying you had a lack of responsibility,
and that's why--
That's what I picked up on.
AMANDA: --you are lazy today as an adult.
WILL: I will speak for my half.
I'd pick up after her.
I did all that because--
STEPHANIE: Oh, no.
[LAUGHS]
WILL: --I-- I mean, that was my little baby girl.
AMANDA: Yeah, but for anyone to sit here and say, well,
I don't know where that came from,
let's be honest-- it came from somewhere,
and Erin was with you the majority of her childhood.
I really want our relationship to be genuine--
Uh-huh.
--but it can't be genuine if you're just
not going to be transparent.
STEPHANIE: Oh, I am transparent.
Well, I never got that impression.
Well, we're gonna-- we haven't really
spent a lot of time together.
AMANDA: Yeah, but we spent the whole week
for Thanksgiving together.
STEPHANIE: We did. AMANDA: --overnight--
And that was--
AMANDA: --and that was great.
You see, that's what I'm saying-- our signals are mixed.
ALIYAH: So let's start there. Why wasn't it great for you?
AMANDA: Yeah, why wasn't it?
OK, it was great that I got to see you--
AMANDA: OK.
STEPHANIE: --but when the arguing and everything
that transpired--
But we never argued.
We did.
Yes, you did.
Oh, y'all had a big blowout--
doors slamming, y'all yelling.
It made me look at you in a negative effect.
ERIN: I feel like it was, like, a lot for a first day.
AMANDA: This is what we came here for,
and I felt like when we were talking about the things
that we talk about-- our home and your upbringing--
and I was like, well, why is Erin not confirming this?
This is one of the reasons why I was quiet is I've never
seen a dialogue like that.
It's like, Stephanie, Stephanie, Stephanie.
But that's because that's where the focus needed to be.
Sometimes your relationship with your mom is unhealthy.
She's not honest.
It was certain things that was a surprise to me.
We didn't have a good time in Atlanta?
Uh-huh.
And to me, that's so contradictory.
ERIN: I feel like she's taking the steps in a--
it's going to be a bigger break to have, because your mother--
your mother knows what's going on.
I don't have those talks with mine.
But you keep comparing my lack of relationship with my mother
as to why I feel so strongly about your relationship
with your mother, and it's no correlation at all.
If anything, I was honest, but do I
feel like anything was really accomplished
between your mom and me?
No.
ERIN: Tonight scared me to where I might lose my mother.
I know how she gets with emotions,
and how things will affect her.
AMANDA: But how do you deal with emotions?
That's-- that's what my problem is with your mother.
She didn't sit here tonight and be like, Erin, how do you feel?
How do the things that I'm saying make you feel today?
And she never does that for you--
never!
This isn't about her, or her religion, or how she feels,
or what you should be doing with your life.
I don't want to get on a plane and we're
right back where we started.