>>Erik: What have you learned about self confidence as you have faced some of those societal pressures
and challenges navigating through the creation of ``In Her Own Sweet Time``?
>>Rachel: What I`ve learned about confidence is that you must stick to your guns. You kind
of have to say to yourself over and over again, I have a purpose. I`m sending out a message.
This is my path. Find your passion. Find yourself.
>>Erik: You speak my language. That`s right. One thing that can be said about that is by
having the courage to put it out there, then you can discuss. If you donÕt have the courage
to put it out there, you never will be able to truthfully be able to discuss it with others
who have same or different views.
>>Rachel: I wrote a piece on my blog called ``Why I love conservative men.`` I think that
some of the most interesting conversations I`ve had about this book are with conservative
radio hosts because they really want to know why I`m thinking about these things. I think
that it really challenges some of their assumptions. There is an interest mixed with chivalry that
ends up being an interesting conversation.
>>Erik: What is an example of one of those conversations?
>>Rachel: I was talking with this radio host. I think he was in rural Alabama. He was a
military guy who got married when he was in his twenties, and traveled around the world.
In a very polite way, said ``I started earlier, I`ve had many travel experiences like you,
I have a family and am so interested in the choices you have made.`` It was an exchange
of different experiences. It was not judging, it was not condoning. It was just ``Here is
what I got out of it. Here is what you got out of it. Now we are having this conversation.``