OK so, my name is Mel Robbins, and for the last 17 years I have done nothing but help
people get everything that they want.
So, we're gonna be talking about how you get what you want.
And frankly, getting what you want is simple.
So why don't you have what you want?
There are probably free tools online that allow you to start a business or join a group
or do whatever the heck you want.
It all comes down to one word.
The F Bomb.
It's everywhere.
And of course you know I'm talking about the word "Fine".
"How you doin' " "Ah I'm fine."
"Oh really?
You are?
Dragging around those extra 40 pounds, you're fine?
You haven't had sex in four months you're fine?"
The bigger issue with fine is that you say it to yourself.
That thing that you want, I guarantee you - you've convinced yourself that you're fine
not having it.
That's why you're not pushing yourself.
In any area of your life that you wanna change, any- there is one fact that you need to know.
You're never gonna feel like it.
Scientists call it "Activation Energy" That's what they call the force required to get you
to change what you're doing on auto-pilot to doing something new.
So try this test tomorrow: Tomorrow morning, set your alarm for 30 minutes earlier.
And then when it goes off, stand up and start your day.
And the reason why I want you to do it is because you will come face to face with the
physical force that's required to change your behaviour.
The activation energy required to get your ass away from your computer and out your front
door to go on the walk you said you were gonna go on is the exact same amount of force that
it takes you to push yourself out of a warm bed and into a cold room.
It's very very simple to get what you want but it's not easy.
You have to FORCE yourself.
And the problem with your mind is that any time that you do anything different from your
normal routine, guess what your brain does: Emergency Brake!
So when I say force, anything that's a break from your routine is gonna require force.
So, one more thing that you can use: I call it the five second rule, if you have one of
those little impulses that are pulling you, if you don't marry it with an action within
five seconds, you pull the emergency brake and kill the idea.
Kill it.
If you have an impulse about you're inspired by somebody's speech today and you don't do
something within five seconds - write a note, send yourself a text, anything physical to
marry it with the idea - you will pull the emergency brake and kill the idea.
Your problem isn't ideas, your problem is you don't act on them.
Experiment with it and I think you'll be shocked about what happens.
Thank you