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So how do narcissists contradict themselves?
They constantly do.
They constantly contradict themselves
and you know, it's kinda crazy
snd when you go to negotiate with them,
you can actually use this as leverage
and that's why I wanna make sure
that you watch all the way to the end
and take notes because you can actually use
this as you're going to negotiate with them,
strategize with them and make sure
you hold this close to the vest
because this is what you're gonna be able to use
against them when you are negotiating with them.
This is your leverage they constantly contradict themselves.
They think that they're so great all the time.
They really do contradict themselves constantly.
So one of the ways that they contradict themselves
They'll go around telling everybody that they're truthful
and they'll actually condemn people who are liars.
They'll be like, ‘‘oh, that person's a total liar’’
and and they'll actually tell everybody
how much integrity that they have
and they'll even tell people that integrity
is their their number one thing
but they are pathological liars
like, everything that comes out of their mouth is a total lie
and here's the thing If people have to
constantly tell you how amazing they are,
how much they are not liars,
how much everybody else is a liar,
how much if they're truthful.
They're probably pathological liars
and they constantly contradict themselves as far as the truth.
Here's the crazy thing about narcissists is that they lie about
things that they don't even need to lie about.
Things that are even small things.
Things that are insignificant
and things that are readily verifiable
that's the thing that's like crazy to me.
Here's an example during the
Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial,
she lied about the fact that she
wasn't allowed to make movies that
were where she was in relationships with men.
She couldn't get close to men and
you know, she was afraid of that
and it was super ruddly verifiable
that she was in this magic mic
movie and her face was in the crotch of the guy
and she was doing these interviews and saying
how great it was and how comfortable she was.
I mean, so readily verifiable.
I mean why would she lie about that on the
stand when it's readily verifiable.
That's the kind of thing that you know,
blows my mind and by the way, I
have a whole video on all of Amber Heard’s lies on
the stand if you're interested in checking that out.
But that's the kind of thing that I just you know,
really blows my mind and even on a much smaller scale
you know, I've seen that as a lawyer where
somebody will send an email to somebody,
you know like, I've had a situation where
a client was had a meltdown with her son
through her son out of house at 2 o'clock in the morning
and then send an email to the husband saying,
you know, this is probably better
for us to take a little bit of a break.
Why don't you call the bus service?
Have the bus service start coming to your house for a while?
Have him stay at your house for a while
and then two weeks later files emotion saying
that the husband is wrongfully keeping the child
and she never agreed to having the child
be over at her at the husband's house.
Yeah I mean, when there's an email saying
that he should call the bus service.
That's the kind of thing
it's readily verifiable.
Crazy things.
Constantly be demanding respect
and then constantly interrupting you.
they'll say you need to lower your voice
and then they'll be yelling at you
while they're saying lower your voice.
You know, those are the kinds of things.
You know, they're constantly disrespectful
while they are demanding respect
and they're super hateful
while they are hating on you.
You know, that's the kind of thing that's really,
really contradictory and if you wanna
know why the narcissist hates you,
I do have a whole video on why the narcissist hates you,
and you can definitely check t hat out if you would like.
I mean, they're just you know,
they're hateful inside.
So can definitely check that out.
Covert narcissists are the worst of this.
You know, say that they're gonna do things
and then never follow through pretty much inherently lazy
and you know, they take credit for
other people's ideas all the time.
You know, they're really just fakers a lot of times,
you know and if you agree with me,
just put ‘‘TOTAL FAKERS!’’s
in the comments right now
And you know, you've seen it just put
totally in the comments right now.
I know that you guys have seen this before.
Right?
‘‘Oh, I can't believe you did that to me’’
and ‘‘you hurt me’’,
and ‘‘I can't believe that person did that to me’’
and I can't believe that person did that to me and,
you know, ‘‘I can believe you're against me.’’
‘‘You're either for me or you're against me.’’
You know, they act like they're victims but
they act like they're so strong all the time.
That's another way that they contradict themselves.
Oh you know, you didn't take the steel,
you know, you didn't take it quickly enough.
Now, I'm moving the goalpost.
Again, something that they constantly do in negotiations
and if you wanna know why narcissists move goal posts.
A whole video on that as well.
Definitely wanna check that out as well.
Something they constantly do in negotiations.
I have to be seen.
I have to be heard.
They have to have attention on them all the time but yet,
they wanna be seen as independent.
I don't need anybody very,
very, very contradictory.
There's so many different ways that they contradict themselves
and these are just a few of them
but as you can see, they are ways that you
can actually use against them in negotiations
and start stacking them up as
leverage as part of your strategy
because once you understand the mentality,
then you can start building strategy around that
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