so does she just came out with a video titled bye and he kind of quote-unquote
exposed ksi and right now deji is getting
subscribers more ksi is losing subscribers but there are definitely
some valuable lessons that we can all learn from this situation what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewind so where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do let's
take a look at what's going on in the YouTube community and take this mess and
turn it into a message so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and
ring that notification bell alright so just to give you a quick recap of what's
going on I know people IP deep I already touched on this and some other
commentary channels by anyways ksi and og they're brothers they're both from
the UK you might remember them from their brothers boxing match with Logan
Paul and Jake Paul all right many ways dad she just came out with a video
basically you know talking about a lot of stuff that he's been dealing with
with ksi who's his older brother and I think a lot of people out there who are
a sibling like the younger sibling can definitely relate to what Deji is
talking about and there's a few things that I hope everybody can take away from
this situation all right so the first thing I want to address is like it's
it's awesome that desi came out and he talked about this stuff and got
vulnerable like when I was watching it but when I was watching this 45 minute
long video I'm like dang dude because especially when it comes to like men
right like it's it can be difficult to open up about your feelings and you know
and talking about the things that he's talking about like his older brother
bullying him and things like that like I'm sure there are some crappy nasty
comments on that video even though it's largely had a good reaction from the
community I'm sure there's some people out there who are just like man up bro
man up you know what I mean and like it's it's really awesome that Deji like
God vulnerable and was able to do that and if any dudes out there or watching
this like I hope you can see other men doing stuff
like this know that it's like yo it's okay to talk about how you're feeling
alright now the next thing I want to talk about is like when when people were
like requesting me to talk about this and I was like looking at the situation
looking at the community's reaction looking at ksi losing subscribers will
get all the crazy stuff that ksi has been posting on Twitter and like the
other thing that's interesting is that if you check out a social blade like
usually what these numbers mean is that he's been deleting videos so I'm
wondering what that is or what which videos they were like my guess is that
they're like videos of ksi bullying Deji talk about you baby girl what is anybody
really surprised is anybody really surprised I didn't really take a 45
minute video from Deji for everybody to be like oh you're right ksi is a dick
like this dude has built his entire brand off of being a dick alright so I'm
a little confused because this dude got to 20 million subscribers and this is
like his entire brand like he started out on YouTube and vegies showed clips
of this in his video of him like you know hitting his brother and doing these
little like you know gaming contests and everything but ksi has had his share of
controversies over the years and how he talks to women and things like that and
now all of a sudden everybody's like oh my god like we're so surprised that this
information is coming out like really people like I think what we need to do
as a community and as a society as a whole like why why are these type of
people being propped up why does it take so long for somebody to make a video
like this then everybody realizes what's been happening all along like this is
just something that I always think about like everybody's okay with something
until they're not okay with it right like why did it take Deji making this
video for people to open their eyes like Desi's talked about except for a few
things were public knowledge like anybody seen this everybody has seen
chaos eyes videos like heating Deji everybody has seen chaos eyes videos
like telling people to unsubscribe from Deji like these are all things like and
this is why independent thinking is such an important thing that we all need like
it's something that desi touched on he talked about like this comes like
subliminal messaging and my manipulation which I agree it is definitely
manipulation like getting people to unsubscribe from desi and saying look
here's what I'm doing you want to be cool like me ksi then unsubscribe from
desi as well but like this was all public knowledge everybody like open up
your mind to say like wait like no maybe I like daddy's content but that's the
other thing with all this like kind of drama happens you start to see people
unsubscribing and subscribing over here and things like that it's like it feels
like in the YouTube community we're no longer in a place in these cases where
people are subscribing to somebody because they actually enjoy their
content they're there like subscribing out of support or unsubscribing to show
that they don't support somebody that's just something very fascinating to me as
I kind of watch like the behavior of people in the YouTube community
but anyways some things that desi talked about like there were some things that
have been you know offline and things like that and one thing that desi talked
about was very reminiscent to the Logan Paul Jay Paul situation was that Deji
you know was you know attracted to a young woman it's not clear you know how
the extent of their relationship was but then dad she's not dead she but K s I
hooked up with her and dad she talks about how he cried for days and that was
like one of those you know one of those things that just was like a stab in the
heart like having your brother like sleep with somebody who you fell in love
with right but I gave I I think it's really interesting looking at the the
relationship between Logan Paul and Jay Paul
and then looking at the relationship between like ksi and Deji and you know
when I look at these situations like all of a sudden he has a little brother not
my kid but my son's mom had another kid with her new husband and I look at this
and like they're both boys and I understand you know boys are gonna do
certain things and you know you know whatever but Mike there's this is
definitely in an instance and you know the Logan Paul situation with Jake we're
like that from the competition like it goes way too far like way too far I'm
just like ways that you should not treat a family member right and if you're
somebody who's in this situation now it's not about a family member hooking
up with somebody you know you were in love with but like it's important to
know that you can set boundaries with your family members like you don't have
to hang out with them but you don't have to talk to them on the phone you can
tell them straight up like hey listen like I do not appreciate the way that
you talk to me I don't appreciate the way that you treat me no I don't want to
hang out with you like this is something that all of us can do now it's easier
said than done and a lot of us you know we we have concerns like openness family
so with this this voice in my head says we have to hang out with him or we have
to talk to him like my message to anybody who has that voice in their head
like the hell you do if it is affecting your mental and emotional well-being no
no you don't like yeah it might make some family functions have one less
person there but we need to prioritize our mental and emotional well-being
because if we're not in a good space we are more likely to maybe have an
argument and you know some like family dinner start a fight we can't be of use
to other people in our lives because we're letting that toxic behavior into
our lives so we have to be able to set up those boundaries the last thing that
I want to talk about and this is the situation's I referenced in my Thomas
Halbert video is more and more we are seeing youtubers who are attaching their
self-worth to the numbers right to the subscribers to the
viewers and desi talks about how we got into a dark place and was questioning
like his purpose and talking about how depressed he was and the possibility of
just ending it all and that is so so so sad to me right because like this is
this is a bigger problem than just YouTube but now we're seeing it in the
public spotlight like so many people when they lose their job they wrapped up
so much of their identity with that job so when they lose that job right they
they no longer find this meaning or purpose and that's why we need to find
like our own purpose on this planet that has nothing to do with our job our job
is a part of us but it is not us you know what I mean and I really hope
people are monitoring what is happening with youtubers because if something's
not done or if youtubers don't start realizing how it is affecting their
mental health like I fear that we're gonna see some
really tragic things happen in the next year or two so at the end of the day
like I'm I'm proud of Deji for making that video but like if you know me I
think everybody needs therapy so like if you can relate to this like I hope you
get therapy family therapy is an option like Deji and ksi and their parents have
heavily involved like hopefully they go to family therapy family therapy is so
beneficial because you get an outside perspective on this situation you get
somebody who's coming in and they will teach you ways to communicate with one
another they will teach you ways to set up boundaries with one another hell you
know it would be a sick series for Kati Morton start doing family therapy for
some of these youtubers out here who are just in constant conflict and starting
beef with each other because we've gotten to a place where things can't
even be settled offline even anymore like they're all happening in
front of all of us so if we're watching this thing we need to take something
away from it so if you're struggling with family like
here's my recommendation see if your family would be open to getting therapy
doing family therapy but something I was taught a long long long time ago and it
is stuck with me and I hope it sticks with me until the day I die and it's
this it is a lot easier for us to fix ourselves than it is to fix other people
and what that means is although other people in our lives may not want to fix
things they might not want to change they might not want to do family therapy
we we can take action we can take the steps towards getting better so although
they may never change we can begin working on how we react and respond to
those situations and how those situations affect our mental health all
right but my suggestion to you if you can relate to any of this stuff and
you're dealing with these toxic family situations like talk to your doctor see
if they can let them into therapists talk to your insurance company see if
they can recommend a therapist talk to family friends see if they they're
working with a therapist that they think you might like as well I personally use
better help online therapy they help support this channel I have an affiliate
link down below so if you would like to do online therapy go ahead and check it
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you sign up it helps support the channel as well I've been using it most of this
year so far and my therapist is the bomb but anyways let me know your thoughts on
this subject down in the comments below let me know if you've had to set up
boundaries with a family member or even a friend in your life because it was
drastically affecting your mental health alright but anyways that's all I got for
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