- Heya, playa.
Do you have a crush on a girl that's a bit of a tomboy,
and it's throwing you off,
because you don't really know how to interact with her?
She's different from most girls.
Don't worry, in this video, I'm gonna share five things
that you need to know when it comes to dating a tomboy.
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Now if you don't know what a tomboy is
basically it's a girl who enjoys rough and noisy activities
that are traditionally associated with boys.
Nowadays, I'd say that's kinda disappearing,
because the lines are being blurred
as to what people actually like to do.
I mean, what is a traditional boy activity anymore?
Playing video games?
Girls do that.
Liking sports?
Girls do that.
I'd say the lines are blurred,
and I wouldn't get too hung up on the traditional
part of the definition.
So if the girl you like is a tomboy,
one thing you should definitely know
is just because she's a little bit more
physical and forward with you,
doesn't give you the right to be crude or rude with her
the same way that you would with your friends.
A lot of times,
people think just because a girl is a tomboy,
I can call her names and make fun of her
the same way I would with my friends.
But you have to remember that this is a person
that you're trying to get to know better.
So, if you're gonna treat her
like one of your friends from the start,
you're gonna start building up a friendship path
and not an actual romantic path.
So you can have that level of playfulness,
but don't have it be the central point
of your interactions with her.
Remember, you don't want her to see you
as just another one of the guys.
You want her to see you as someone that stands out.
So, you're gonna need to treat her differently
than how you do every other person you interact with.
The second thing you should know is that if she is a tomboy,
chances are the two of you have interests that overlap.
So that creates the perfect opportunity
for you to explore that with her,
to ask her questions,
to learn about her hobbies and interests
to see where you two see eye to eye.
It's important to know
that a girl doesn't even have to be a tomboy
to have similar interests with you.
People aren't one-dimensional,
so there might be multiple sides of them
that you can always explore and learn more about.
The third thing you should know is that tomboys
are a little bit more forward or outspoken
about who they like and what they want.
So, if your crush is a tomboy,
chances are she's gonna make that known,
so don't be a little intimidated or nervous
if she's the one that's actually pursuing you.
A lot of guys expect the normative flow of things
where they like a girl, they have to talk to her,
they have to ask her out.
But a tomboy might change that up.
She may be the one that pursues you
or asks you about your interests and hobbies.
Don't be intimidated, don't feel emasculated,
don't feel like she's doing the job that you should.
Remember, a relationship is all about two people
getting to know each other.
So, if she's the one taking initiative, go with it.
With me, for example, I like being forward with girls,
but I also like girls that are forward with me.
It shows that they care,
that they want to build something,
that they're taking the initiative just like I am.
So don't look at it as a bad thing,
look at it as an opportunity.
The fourth thing you should know,
and this is super important,
just because a girl is a tomboy,
it doesn't make her any less of a girl.
Not all girls look and act the same.
Some like to wear makeup and do their hair, some don't.
Some like to wear traditionally girly clothes
that are form fitting, some like to wear baggy clothes.
Either way, recognize that each person is an individual
that chooses their own style.
So, if the person that you like is a tomboy
and they dress one day,
and then all of a sudden they change
or wear something different
that maybe is a little more feminine,
don't call 'em out or make fun of them for it.
They're simply exploring and seeing what works for them.
I've seen lots of guys tease girls that are tomboys,
because they decided one day to start wearing makeup
or dresses or doing their hair or doing something different
about their physical appearance.
We are used to consistency as humans,
so whenever a person changes up that consistency,
we need to point it out, we need to highlight it,
and sometimes, we make them feel bad about it.
And if the girl you like is a tomboy,
don't make comments
about whether she should or shouldn't wear makeup.
Don't tell her how to dress and how not to dress.
Allow her to explore her own creativity.
See what she can come up for herself
and what she's comfortable with.
And you can always add compliments to that.
Compliment her on trying new things,
on being her best self,
because that's exactly what we'd wanna hear, right?
And the fifth thing you should know is that
just because the girl that you like is a tomboy,
that doesn't mean you should slack off
on being romantic with around her.
People still wanna feel valued and cared for,
so, just because she's similar to you who's more laid back
and doesn't really care about those things,
doesn't mean that you should actually just give up on them.
It might be super important for her
for you to actually ask her out on a date,
for you to actually ask her to be your girlfriend,
to take these actual steps that show her that you see her
as something more than just one of the guys
that you hang out with.
All in all, she still has feelings underneath how she acts.
She may act though, like she doesn't care about those things
or she doesn't wanna hear them,
but be open to understanding her specific personality,
because I can guarantee you, if you're kind,
if you're genuine, if you're romantic,
if you're caring, no matter who she is
and no matter how she acts,
those are qualities we want to see in potential partner
that we're gonna date.
But now I'm curious to know
what you do you think?
Do you like a girl that's a tomboy,
and do you run into any kind of specific challenges
that you don't know how to handle?
Leave your comments down below, and we'll talk about it.
The learning doesn't end there though.
If you wanna learn the initial steps of dating
for beginners, tap on the playlist right there
on your screen to watch more videos
that kinda go more in depth.
Also, you can check
on my 20 ice breaker conversation starters right above it,
which is gonna kinda give you things to talk about
if you ever run out of things to say.
It's gonna help you kinda help
the conversation move forward.
So, check out those two resources,
and ill see you guys next time.
As always, love and peace.