in his International best-selling book
The Art of Seduction Robert Greene wrote
your greatest power and seduction is
your ability to turn away to make others
come after you delaying their
satisfaction do you think playing hard
to get works best or do you prefer to be
direct
it can be difficult to figure out the
best way to attract your crush by the
end of this video you'll learn tips
backed by scientific research that will
teach you how to step up your game and
keep them interested here's how to
attract your crush and leave them
wanting more
to smile or not to smile
when you're flirting with your crush you
should smile to come across as
approachable and show them that you're
interested or should you research shows
that it might not be that simple smiling
can be perceived as either attractive or
unattractive and this depends on your
gender but there's one expression that
seems to be universally attractive
regardless of gender and it's probably
not what you think
in a 2011 study published in the journal
emotion women were perceived as most
attractive when they were smiling and
looked happy for men the results were
the complete opposite smiling was their
least attractive facial expression so if
you're a man the cool and mysterious
Persona may be more seductive to your
crush but there was one facial
expression that was perceived as
relatively attractive regardless of
gender
shame when someone had their head and
eyes tilted downwards and narrowed their
posture expressing shame they were rated
as attractive whether they were male or
female when you're with your crush see
how they react when you innocently look
down or avert your gaze every once in a
while it just might help attract them to
you
the right approach imagine your crush is
sitting in an empty table at school now
is your chance to make a move
when you go up to your crush to talk to
them should you approach them from the
front and sit across from them or sit
beside them turns out like a lot of
other attraction strategies the answer
depends on your crush's gender in a
study published in the Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology
participants were approached by a
researcher who sat either beside them or
directly in front of them results showed
that male participants had a more
negative reaction when a female
researcher approached them from the
front on the other hand females didn't
like being approached from the side by a
male researcher according to these
findings if you're trying to attract a
man the best way to approach them is to
sit beside them rather than across from
them but if your crush is a woman go
with the head-on strategy and sit in
front of them it's such a subtle move
they won't even know you're doing it got
jokes does your crush have a good sense
of humor more importantly do you
philosopher William James once said
common sense and a sense of humor are
the same thing
moving at different speeds a sense of
humor is just common sense dancing
however researcher Eric Bressler at
McMaster University found that men and
women Define humor differently knowing
this can help you step up your seduction
game wrestler found that woman defined
someone with a good sense of humor as
someone who could make them laugh and
they preferred men who have a good sense
of humor 62 of the time conversely men
thought someone had a good sense of
humor when they appreciated their own
humor AKA loved other jokes they
preferred women who laughed at their
jokes 65 percent of the time the
takeaway if your crush is a man you can
pique their interest by laughing at
their jokes just a little more and if
your crush is a woman you can attract
them by making them laugh rather than
laughing at their jokes the Magic Touch
combining physical touch with the other
tips we've mentioned will make you even
more attractive to your crush key is to
keep it subtle a 2007 study published in
the Journal of Social influence had male
researchers either ask women for their
members or ask them to dance in both
cases they found that if they touched a
woman's forearm for just one or two
seconds before asking her she was more
likely to say yes light touches on the
arm are an innocent and simple way to
attract your crush of course this
technique depends on your relationship
with them their boundaries and your
cultural norms but if you and your crush
are comfortable with it giving them a
soft touch on the arm every once in a
while might be the perfect way to arouse
their interest
thanks for watching psych2goers we hope
you found this video helpful remember
these tips shouldn't be used to
manipulate your crush at the end of the
day the best way to attract someone if
you want a genuine relationship with
them is to be yourself will you be
trying any of these tips do you have any
of your own attraction tips to offer
that have worked for you in the past
share your ideas in the comments below
keep in mind that because scientific
research has focused primarily on
straight men and women some of the
studies in this video Don't reflect
everyone's experience if you have a
perspective to share that hasn't been
mentioned we'd love to hear from you and
start an open and inclusive conversation
please share your thoughts in the
comments thanks for watching and see you
in the next one
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