Alright. You know you're too busy and it's time to really find some balance in
your life. But you don't know where the glitches.
And I've got some things you may want to look at because if you don't find the
glitch and why you're busy, you're going to be busy tomorrow too.
So, you're trying to find balance. And you know what? You're just too busy. And you
feel caught in this trap of so many things you've committed to and so many
things you're responsible for. It probably feels like you just never are
going to get out of this. Because it's been going on day after day after day.
How do you get out? You know, you've made decisions and it's put you into a path
and you literally are to the point you are up to here overwhelmed with all the
different things that you're doing. Is this even possible? You know or are
people just saying this word because it's what we're all striving for but
nobody really has it? Well, maybe you need to rethink this. Maybe it's time for you
to take a look at what has caused you to be absolutely so busy. So, I'm here to
help you to be able to reevaluate. And at least give you some ideas and some steps
to take that can literally help improve you from going from busy to being more
balanced. Now first off, before I even get into addressing the whole busy
piece, something that I think you need to know that's super important is that no
matter what it is you are facing in life, your current status of your well-being
influences and affects how well you approach what it is that you're doing.
You know, so hold on I'm gonna just skip ahead here and share something else with
you before we get on to those 3. Let's say this is your level of problems.
Here's the problems you face, here's the schedule, here's your schedule. And you
got all these things going on but here's you. It literally feels like it's above
your head. Like it's on top of you squishing you. You know, really affecting
how you feel as a person. Like this so much
it's bigger than you. Now this is you. Did you know that you could change you and
improve you. So that you are like this. That you are bigger and taller than your
problems and your schedule. That you can handle this.
Where here, it feels like it's squishing you. Same problems, same schedule but
you're the one who's different. That's what I want to help you with today is
help you recognize what you might be missing out on that's helping you be
this kind of person. But you know what? Everybody has a schedule. Everybody has
challenges. Every has things they got to fix and alter and adjust. But why is it
look like other people are more balanced than you are? Well, first and foremost,
it's the way that they are taking care of themself. So, let's just lay out
a couple things here about how to take care of yourself. Number 1, how do you
go to bed at night? You know, if it's a pass out in your office chair or fall
asleep on the couch with the controller. That is not a healthy way in taking care
of yourself. You know, as an infant, you know or if you have had an infant before,
it's quite the process. You know, you feed the baby, you rock the baby until it goes
to sleep. So it feels fed, cared for and loved. And then the baby gets put to
sleep. But as an adult, you are stressed pushed and passed out. That's not going to
put you to bed very well. If you could... If you could the last 20 minutes before
going to bed turn off all the electronics, get your phone out of your
hand. Go plug it into the charger, put it over there. Get your phone out of your
hands, get away from electronics. And you gave yourself a 20-minute shutdown
process. You will wake up in a better place the next morning.
You will literally wake up in a bigger, stronger place than where you were
before. Your late-night activities and how you put yourself to bed is ruining
you. Because if you're not taking care of yourself, you're not giving yourself a
stair step down to be able to put yourself to bed. You're stressing and
you're going to wake up the next day feeling the same problems, the same
challenge of the same schedule over the top of your head possibly squishing you.
So, 20 minutes before bed. You are taking yourself into a nice step down zone and
going to sleep. You are putting your phone away, you're turning off the
computer, you're turning off the TV. As you go to sleep and you get into bed, you
then at this point, you start to review everything that you did good. Don't
review everything you didn't do because then you're going to fall asleep feeling
like a failure. You're going to fall asleep feeling like you're behind. But what you
do is you review what you did good. You review how you treated people in those
good times. But if you look at everything that's good as you're going to sleep, you
program your mind to see yourself as somebody who's doing good. And then you
wake up the next morning you feel better because you went to sleep the night
before in a good place. 20 minutes. And in that 20 minutes, you're reviewing how
your day was. It's a game changer. And you think that you have to first address
your schedule or first address all these other things. No ,it's a self-care.
It's a self-care experience in how you're putting yourself to bed. One other
little tip about self-care and helping you be bigger than the problems that you
have to face, this the busyness that you have to face. Create more balance in your
life. Definitely drink water and definitely eat your vegetables.
Doesn't that sound crazy? I almost sound like your mom, don't I? Go to bed on time,
eat your vegetables and drink water. So, I'm not saying to eat vegetables and
drink water right before you go to bed. But if you get more greens inside of you,
your mind can function better. Do you get more hydrated, your mind can function
better. Most people their stress comes from being dehydrated and and their
nutrition is way down the chart. So, their brain can't function very well and so
they feel busy, they feel stressed and they can't keep up with everything.
Alright, so let's go on to the rest of the training here.
Alright. So busy versus balanced. You have... If you're not keeping a schedule of
what you're doing each day, you may want to start tracking this on. Maybe you have
a hand printed calendar or a piece of paper of what's going on during the day
and during the week and during the month. Because a person who goes back and
reviews what has happened will find where the glitches are. You'll be able to
find where your over-promising yourself. But to review, you know, most of us are
caught up into planning our calendar out in front of us. But we don't know what to
change. Take a moment and review what's happened in the last 2 weeks. And if
you can go the last month, even better. But a review of the last 2 weeks will
empower you of how to plan your calendar over the next 2 weeks. But a person who
does not review is not going to have insight of how to improve. You review so
you can improve. But if you don't review, you don't improve. And you just keep
rehashing the same things over and over in your life. So, review the last 2
weeks. Look at where things overlapped. Look at where things failed and where
you ran out of time. Where did you miss calculate how long something was going
to take. And go back in your calendar and look at how long it really took. And
trust that information. That if you go to do that again in your life ,it's going to
take this long. Not what you thought it was going to take. Now, as a person, what's
happened to you, because of fast food, because of cell
phones, because computers, you have fallen out of the
ability to manage time very well. You've lost the skill. We today, we underestimate
how long things take. We tend to say, "Oh, it's just going to take a minute." And it's
20 minutes. We don't even pay attention to how long things take and so that's
why we mess up on our calendar. It's why you're so busy is because you're not
paying attention to how long things really take. One of my great mentors, when
he was in the military, his job in the military was to go around and literally
time to see how long it took to do everything on the base. His
responsibility was to go watch people eat and time to see how long it took a
man to eat his lunch. How long did it take a woman to eat her lunch. How long
did it take to make the bed, how long did it take for people to get out of the
building into the field. And so he had a time everything. And as my mentor, he
reminded me every day, "Track your time. Because if you don't track your time, you
can't change your life." If you don't track your time, you can't change. Because
you're caught up into this misunderstanding of how much time it
takes really for things to happen. So, review the last 2 weeks. And you're
going to find where you have underestimated time. And if you keep telling yourself,
"Oh, no. That should only take 2 minutes." But it took 30, you need to
course-correct. You need to wake up to reality of how long it takes to get the
kids ready and to get them in the car. And when it takes 30 minutes in your
next 2 weeks, you plan 30 minutes. And guess what happens? You're not so busy
anymore. Busy is an issue of overlapping commitments. Busy is an issue of
overlapping commitments that you underestimated the time that it takes.
You're the one who has to get better at time
management. And you will not get better at time management
if you don't review what has happened. Your predictions are way off. Your
predictions of time for this in time for that are skewed. They're messed up.
You need to recalibrate in how long it takes to do things. If this is you want
to make some changes and improve, what's going on in your life, then the next
thing you're going to evaluate is your yeses and no's. Over the last 2 weeks,
where do you wish you would have said no. But you felt guilty or pressured to say
yes. Where do you wish you would have said no? Go back in the last 2 weeks,
look at in your calendar of where you wish you would have said no and saved
yourself time. Because many times you commit to something, when you know you
should have said no. But because you felt obligated, you felt pressured, you felt
like you... You're losing time. Busy is an issue of not managing
and caring about your time. You only get 24 hours of the day. That's it.
You don't get 36. You only get 24. And when you say yes to everything, you're
spending your time. And a person who mismanages their time, also miss manages
their money. So, if you have money issues, it's because you have time issues. Every
day, you get a quantity of 24 hours. And how do you spend it? And you literally
give it to people. I hope you're getting something back from it. Or I hope it's a
good investment. But you're spending it. And so if you don't pay attention to
where you wish you would have said no, you're going to not have the power moving
forward to stand up for yourself and say, "You know what? No. I'm not going to do this
because I need to get my life in balance." But check in on your yeses and no's. And
you start to pay attention to where you're spending your time. Last one here
is to delegate. You know if you have kids, kids could be doing more. If you have a
spouse, is it balanced in the delegation of the house responsibilities? You know,
what's happening? Do you have a committee? You're part of and somebody on
the committee's not doing their part? And you're having to do their part? You need
to go have a conversation with that person so they do their part so you're
not overloaded. Remember and it's... You know, busy is an issue of overlapping
commitments or having to cover for somebody else's lack of involvement. And
I know if you're a soft-hearted person, you don't want to have to follow up with
people and tell them what to do and you don't want to have to go through that.
But guess what? It costs you time. And now it makes you busy. And now you're out of
balance. And now you physically, mentally and emotionally suffer. This is what
you're looking for. Everything I just shared with you is something for you to
look at. To get yourself to this point. But you got to own it. Your issue with
busy has nothing to do with anybody else. You get to pay attention to what's going
on with your time and bring yourself to the place of finding balance. I am glad
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