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Namaste, everybody.
Lisa A. Romano here, the Breakthrough Life Coach.
It is April 19, 2019--
kind of cool.
I uploaded a Facebook post today and an Instagram post speaking
about the throat chakra, speaking
to the idea about how many of us have a blocked throat
chakra and the many ways in which it can affect us.
And I wanted to create a quick video
to help encourage those of you who are experiencing maybe
difficulty in swallowing or maybe you
get frequent sore throats, maybe of a thyroid issue like I do.
Do you suffer from anemia?
Do you get a tickle in your throat?
Do you ever notice that when you start talking about something
that is really, really deep and resonates with you
and makes you uncomfortable, [CLEARS THROAT]
you have to clear your throat?
You know, most of the time when I do my one-to-one coaching,
if not all of the time, I'm listening
on the telephone for varying pitches
and for changes in breathing patterns
and tones with my clients.
And I'm very, very aware of when they have
to clear their throat, right?
Or when I say something, all of a sudden, they start to cough.
Those are all signs to me that there is an inner truth there
that has made them maybe a little bit uncomfortable
to face cognitively and squarely and consciously.
And their throat chakra is reacting.
So the throat chakra's really, in my opinion,
is tied to survival-- pain versus pleasure.
If I have learned as a child that what I think
and what I feel is irrelevant, and if I had been programmed
and brainwashed to understand and that pattern is now
in my subconscious mind--
to correlate speaking my truth with pain,
then my throat chakra's going to block.
That is so that I prevent myself from putting myself
in harms way.
I prevent myself from speaking up and becoming
more and more wounded.
So those of us who are in our 20s, our 30s, our 40s, our 50s,
our 60s, and our 70s, and our 80s, and so on--
men and women who are finding that this
has been our experience, where we have been shut down
and our body is now working to protect us.
And a flashback is a system of protection.
When your brain flashes back it's trying to warn you danger,
danger, danger danger's ahead.
And our body secretes all these amazing hormones
as a way to get us to move quickly
and out of this perceived fearful environment.
The problem is we have to learn how to relax the amygdala,
relax the hippocampus so that we can take information
from the now and put it into proper context
so that we don't continue to get stuck.
And many of us get stuck.
So the third chakra is part of that system.
In my opinion, that's the way I look at it--
it's a defense system.
My throat is going to lock down when
I've learned that speaking is going
to get me in trouble, right?
I remember specifically being a little girl
and sitting at the kitchen table with the characters
in my family and sensing my mother and father's mood,
and picking up that it was dangerous to say anything.
To say, I don't like liver and onions.
It was dangerous to let a teardrop out of your face.
It was dangerous.
So there was all this swallowing of my emotions
and swallowing and suppressing and pushing it down.
And that's why we say, swallow it or suck it up--
it all has to do with the mouth and pressing down, right?
So I just wanted to talk a little bit about what we
can do, those of us who were on the healing path
and who are doing what we can to consciously heal ourselves
from subconscious programming, which is a monumental feat.
That's why I think so often traditional therapy fails
because what's wrong is not us.
What's wrong is programming and that subconscious.
So having a conscious conversation
and relying on conscious conversations
to actually do the healing--
I think it's a little shortsighted.
In fact, I know it is.
So healing is a lot deeper than just having a conversation,
right?
Because what's wrong are our patterns and programs that
are subconscious and also neural wiring Our neural wiring,
we literally have to reprogram.
But we're moving in that direction,
science is moving in that direction.
And it's just a wonderful, wonderful thing.
And 100 years from now things will be different,
in terms of how we approach healing.
Trauma is going to be a very common household word.
Doctors, teachers, you name it-- anybody
that has any contact with the child
is going to know about trauma.
When you walk into a doctor's office and you say,
you know Doc, I have this pain in my neck.
They're going to ask you some ace questions,
they're going to try to figure out what your ace score is.
They're going to ask you--
have you suffered any type of trauma?
Domestic violence?
Have you witnessed it?
Have you experienced it?
What about sexual abuse?
What have you been exposed to in your childhood?
Addiction?
Were you put in foster care?
Were you bounced around a lot?
Did you feel safe in your home?
This is what we're working towards,
at least this is what I hope.
That we are working towards, that we better
understanding about why our bodies do what they do.
And we understand why our minds think the way they think.
And we develop the ability to become enlightened,
because if you want to heal, that it's
the path to enlightenment that will heal you.
Being humble and observing what's happened.
And getting out of resistance to what
happened so that you can clear it,
so that you can work in the now.
So some of the tips that I'd like to offer you are--
probably when you hear it you'll probably
be like, oh, that makes total sense.
You've got to get your vocal cords moving.
So some people just sing in the mirror or they sing in the car.
Very, very important to get energy
moving through the vocal chords.
But I also have found in my own life
and through my programs with coaching people
one-on-one, is a journaling prompts can
be a tremendous benefit.
So I believe in the head, heart, hand connection.
I write everything out longhand.
I don't journal on the keyboard although, some people prefer
that.
I do everything longhand.
And I tap into the trauma.
I tap into remembering what it felt like.
And I'll give myself like 10 or 15 minutes
if something comes up for me.
Go into my sacred space and I'll shut the door.
Tell everybody to leave me the hell alone,
I'm working something out, OK?
Just leave me alone.
Don't knock on the door.
Don't ask me for cookies.
Don't ask me where the ketchup is in the refrigerator.
Don't ask me where your socks are.
Don't ask me.
The door shut, I'm working something out.
Those of us with trauma have got to develop that type of respect
for the work that we have to do to get where we want to go.
Because getting where we want to go, we take everybody with us.
So when we respect where we have to go and we respect our time
and we respect that we've been traumatized
and we respect that would deal with codependency
and we respect that it takes time to work this stuff out,
we can work it out.
But we don't just benefit, our entire family benefits.
So developing that type of confidence
that you're on the right path is very important.
And it also teaches everybody else to respect your ass.
So I suggest you, if you're dealing with something deep
and you think that your throat chakra is blocked
or you're having some issues with it, what you want to do
is get into your sacred space.
Light a candle, close your eyes, get a pen--
get a pretty pen, get an awesome notebook.
Do it up.
Respect yourself and ask yourself,
what am I feeling in this moment?
And whatever comes up, you write it out.
I am feeling depressed.
I am feeling anxious.
I am feeling concerned.
I am feeling worried.
I wish I could say-- blah-blah- blah-blah- blah.
I wish I could feel blah-blah- blah-blah- blah.
I think I feel this way because blah-blah- blah-blah- blah.
You want to tap into these experiences that
are blocking you from being able to speak your truth.
So it's safe, right?
It's much safer than walking out to a roomful of people
who have gas lighted you your whole life.
It's much safer to get out a notebook
and begin talking about your trauma on paper.
That is allowing the energy of your truth to flow.
Because what's blocking your inner wisdom
is the inability to process trauma
and you keep swallowing it.
So truth really does set us free.
Now people who suffered from co-dependency,
they get a little screwed up right around that point.
Because they think, my truth is a truth
that someone else should validate.
No.
Your truth is your truth and your truth is true for you.
And that doesn't mean anybody has to acknowledge it
or validated it or even agree with you, which
can be very, very disruptive.
Because we have come to bond and we
have come to engage with others in a healthy, satisfying way.
We have come to be parts of tribes.
And so, when we acknowledge this truth in us
and we unconsciously think, well, my brother should agree.
He should remember when he abused me.
Or my mother should remember the day
that I told her my brother or my uncle
abused me and she told me I was making it up.
And she should acknowledge that that hurt me.
Maybe she should, but if you believe
that you're going to stay stuck and you won't have access
to the inner wisdom within you.
And it's not because your inner wisdom isn't there,
it's because you're in resistance to what is.
And you're operating your life by a faulty set
of belief systems.
The belief systems by which you are running your life
are negative and they're counterproductive, right?
And it's important that we recognize
that so that we can raise our consciousness around this idea
of what it means to be co-dependent
versus non-co-dependent so that we can access
the inner wisdom within us.
Because enlightenment is really going to set you free.
But before enlightenment, there's truth, right?
And before there's truth, there's
acknowledging what went wrong.
And then you have to know what to do
and how to heal what went wrong, which I hope many of you
are benefiting from the work that I do.
Because that's my work, this is my passion in life--
is to help people break through.
You have a breakdown, but then understand
that your breakdown is always going to lead
to a breakthrough, right?
And developing the resiliency to withstand what
happens in the now when you start
to confront your truth, right?
Really interesting stuff.
So you want to make sure that you're
singing, that you're speaking, speaking into your phone.
I've done that so many times--
when I was driving to the gym, I'd put on my cell phone
and I'd record myself.
Something was really bothering me
about a family member or whatever, one of the kids,
I spoke about it in the phone.
I just rambled into the phone.
This is unlocking your throat chakra.
This is getting true through your throat chakra, right?
So you want to begin speaking into your phone,
you want to sing out loud, you want a journal,
you want to gargle with a little bit of maybe some Himalayan
salt. You want to get the energy in this throat space activated.
Put your hand over your throat and ask yourself
for the permission to speak your truth,
even if it is just on paper.
Put both hands over your throat chakra,
put one hand on your throat chakra
with the other hand over your heart
and ask inner wisdom to guide you towards truth.
The goal is to be able to recognize what's
wrong, because you can't fix a hole in the wall you can't see.
And I know for me, one of the most despicable aspects
of co-dependency was this unconsciousness--
this unawareness, this living below the veil.
And when you live below the veil, you can do nothing else
but play with the tools that are in the basement.
That's it.
Those are the only tools you have.
And so not knowing that I was asleep was despicable.
It kept me stuck.
And I didn't know what was wrong because I
couldn't label what was wrong.
And then when I came to the understanding
that it was co-dependency and I did a lot of homework,
and I did a lot of history work, and I realized it wasn't me,
it was my programming.
I had been programmed to be co-dependent.
And I studied quantum mechanics, I
studied mind development, self development,
personal development, quantum mechanics-- studied all of it.
And it all began to make sense.
And that is when I really started
to discover breakthroughs.
But blocked throat chakras are real.
And I think it's one of the easiest things
that we can work on in the 3D world,
because you can do it right here right now.
You can start working on accessing your truth right here
right now.
And that doesn't mean you go shout it out from the rooftops
and you tell everybody, I hate you!
You know, you know.
You know, I think this!
You're a flying monkey!
You're a narcissist!
That's not what I mean.
I'm talking about how you feel about your experiences.
What are your emotional experiences
in relation to the experiences that you've
had by people, perhaps, who have invalidated you
or abandoned you.
How did you feel when you tried to set
a goal, and right before the finish line a collapsed?
How did you feel?
What do you think that was all about?
And what does that experience and what can it
teach you today?
This is the type of work I'm talking about.
So I hope that this has inspired some of you
to believe more deeply in your truth
and to understand a little bit more about the throat chakra.
And to know that you can, at any point in time,
begin to have energy flow through it
more easily, more gracefully.
One of the things I'd also do is I use essential oils
and I'll just dab a little bit on either side of my throat.
And I'm pretty convinced that a blocked throat
chakra, along with stress, blew out my thyroid.
And that's not my fault. I was below the veil
of consciousness, had no idea what the hell I was doing.
I was tired.
I was frustrated.
And I kept doing the wrong things expecting
a different result. I think someone
said that's the definition of insanity.
And that's how I felt. But today is a new day
and now there's no problem in my throat chakra,
as you guys know, right?
As you guys know.
So love yourselves, dear one, it's a Friday.
Make it a great day.
Know that you are enough because ultimately that is your truth.
You have no thing to prove.
You have no thing you must do.
There is nothing you need to defend, because you are enough.
Namaste, bye for now.
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