This is Tripp from Tripp Advice.com and today, we’re going to talk about how to
avoid awkward silences with girls.
Has that ever happened to you before?
It’s happened to me.
You’re talking to a girl and your mind just goes blank and you have no idea what to say.
And you get so stuck in your brain, your head just keeps spinning and spinning.
And soon enough it’s been almost ten seconds of silence and you feel extremely awkward.
Maybe this even causes you to leave the conversation altogether because you just can’t handle
the pressure.
Trust me, I get it.
This happens to guys all over the world.
What I want to teach you today is how to avoid this.
You can prevent this from ever happening again and then I want to teach you a technique.
If it does happen, you can escape the awkward silence immediately.
Before I go into that, one of my free courses is called “The Magnetic Conversation
Course” which will also help you with awkward silences.
This quick and easy course teaches you how to talk to girls, keep a conversation going
and how to ask a girl out and get her number.
If you want to learn how to do all that, I’m sure you do, click here on the screen
right now or in the description below to get that right away.
Let’s get into it.
First off, to avoid an awkward silence you have to make sure that you can keep a
conversation going.
But most importantly, an interesting conversation.
One that actually gets the girl engaged and wants to continue talking to you.
There’s one conversation topic that ever single person likes to talk about.
It’s me.
No, not me as in Tripp.
But me as in them.
They like to talk about themselves.
We all do.
Get them talking about them.
Show an interest in who they are as a person, ask them deep and meaningful questions to
keep things going.
For example, you can ask them what their biggest project is that they’re working on right
now.
Whether it be something that’s personal or in their work.
Whatever.
Or you can ask them the last thing they did that was really awesome and exciting.
Get them talking.
Remember to keep this conversation smoothly going back and forth between the two of you
and make sure that you’re interjecting in the conversation.
Don’t just keep asking them questions, but make statements about what they’re talking
about in order to prevent the “interview mode”.
Which is basically just you asking them questions like they’re on an interview.
Which they’re not.
Likely the reason why you're not able to keep the conversation going is because you’re
not listening, which is the number one most important thing you need to do if you want
to avoid awkward silences.
Most people think in their head about what they want to say next and then all of a sudden
the girl stops talking and you had no idea what she said and then you’re stuck in a
silence.
Listen closely to what she says so you can work off of her to talk more about the
topic.
Add in your two cents.
Ask her questions.
Tell a story.
Or bring up a whole new topic that’s connected to the one that you’re already discussing.
Now what happens if you do enter an awkward silence and for whatever reason, you just
couldn’t prevent it?
What I want you to do is this; every time you go out to a party, a bar, or somewhere
and want to be social, I want you to have a question or statement on hand and ready
to ask just in case things go silent.
It’ll be your little tool.
An example can be something you read earlier in the news or something with current events
or TV.
You can say something like “Oh man, did you hear about x, y, and z?” or “Did you
ever see the blah blah blah last week?”
Or you can say something regarding their opinion.
Whatever it is you want to get an opinion on; maybe it’s what you’re wearing or
something happening with a friend, ask her so you can kill the awkward silence.
You’re probably thinking “Tripp what if it happens a second time?”
Well if this keeps happening, a second, third, or fourth time, then you have to keep practicing
keeping the conversation going and working on your improv skills to be able to keep things
flowing.
I have some great videos on my channel on how to keep a conversation going so check those out.
But here’s another technique for you.
If things go silent again, quickly revert back to another topic of conversation that
previously came up when you two were talking.
Try and make it about a topic that wasn’t hit too hard so it doesn’t look like you’re
going on and on about the same thing and what you can do is use that topic again to talk
about other topics by looking for words she’s saying and going on tangents.
Some other ways to avoid the awkwardness are to comment on something she’s wearing or
holding or comment on something going on around you.
These are observational and ways of avoiding an awkward silence.
The key here is to be present and focus on her.
What’s going on around you and the conversation at hand.
Of course, not all at once or you’ll go crazy.
But take everything in so you’ll have a whole arsenal of things to say if the conversation
dies out.
If you want to get even deeper into how to have a long quality conversation with a girl,
then check out my “Magnetic Conversation Course” which you can get right here on
the screen or in the description below this video.
Of course, it’s free and it’s gonna teach you how to keep conversation going and how
to attract a girl with specific topics of conversation to get her interested in you.
Check that out right now.
Don’t forget to subscribe to the channel and I will see you on the next video.