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All right.
We're back and it's enough time for another edition
of Hot Talk Panel.
Joining us today the hosts of the Steve Wilko Show,
celebrating 2,000 episodes,
it's Steve Wilko.
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I love it I love it,
also from a Morning Mash Up on SiriusXM,
give it up for Nicole Ryan.
Welcome back Nicole.
And for the first time on our show
from Revolt State of The Culture,
that's Remy Ma's new show,
give it up for Eboni K Williams, attorney at law.
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Thank you Wendy Attorney at law.
Thank you Wendy.
Okay so here's what's going on everybody,
all right so Jenna Dewan and Channing Tatum,
we talked about this on Hot Topics the other day
they're using a co-parenting app to help them
raise their six-year old daughter.
Their divorce is finalized,
they've both moved on with other people,
but people say that the app is helping them
track the things like school schedules,
regular schedules, expenses, the child's location.
Steve, is this a good idea?
I don't like it, I mean it's very impersonal right?
I know like sometimes divorces are a little contentious.
Theirs is.
Yes, so but you still you have a child involved
and I think-- A six year old.
Right.
I think it's good for the child to see
parents interacting even though they're not together.
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It's okay.
Nicole what I was saying the other day is that
they only have to interact for like 15 minutes.
You can't grow up for 15 minutes to fake the funk
in front of you child?
Unfortunately a lot of people cannot fake the funk
for that amount of time,
and I feel like what the app is doing,
tracking the scheduling and finances
and things like that,
I'm in a happy marriage and 75% of my arguments
with my husband are over those things,
so I could use this app and I'm not even getting divorced.
You know what I'm saying?
I just feel like this is something that is very helpful.
It's so helpful Nicole and like from a legal perspective
when you go in for a custody dispute
or a custody arrangement it's super helpful,
because now you can literally just take in the documentation
straight from the app right?
This was the visitation schedule, this is how much I paid,
also if both people have moved on Wendy--
Are you saying you like it?
I love it!
Oh I love it!
Oh I love it from a legal perspective,
and if both people are in new relationships,
sometimes people like to backslide
a little bit with the ex, okay?
And act like it's about the kid all the time,
oh yes honey absolutely
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Now it's on the app baby.
Get out of my DM's get out of my text messages,
keep it in the app.
And you can wanna be mature and act ya know
like everything is all rainbows and unicorns and butterflies
but it's not divorce can be very hard,
and so why not just try to save it?
Yes but for them this is an only child too,
so this child doesn't have any other kids to play with
or refer to, Steve I'm with you.
How do you convey emotions with what's going on with
your child through an app right?
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I mean there's things that it's not personal,
it's there's no human element to it, even like,
I don't like so much texting anymore
because nobody talk to each other anymore.
And you don't get the full range of emotions,
what somebody's feeling or trying express
through a text or an app.
And the app can also get hacked,
in which case everybody knows you information.
I like the personal touch Steve I'm with you.
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All right so.
The actress Emily Blunt used the Sneak Attack method
to move in with her husband when they were dating.
The sneak attack is, or this is what she did,
she started leaving more and more stuff with every visit
to the house at his house.
So eventually she was moved in.
Nicole, is this sneaky or brilliant?
I mean it's super sneaky,
and I'm not trying to hate on Emily Blunt,
but I feel like it reeks of desperation.
Like, I remember when you move in with your man
don't you want to move in because he wants you to move in
not because you tricked him into moving in?
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Right?
Yeah I didn't think of the word desperation
but just the sneakyocity of it all.
Eboni what do you think?
I think it's brilliant but risky.
So here's the thing Chrissy Teigen is actually on record
as to saying this is essentially how she landed John Legend.
I do remember that.
She's like I just,
we went on a date and I never went home,
and I think it's brilliant
but I'm a big "Sex in the City" fan
and do you guys remember the episode
where Carrie kept leaving stuff--
Yes. Being given the box,
and was like girl you left some stuff.
Yes. Then that's awkward.
Yeah.
Steve?
I mean, when I was single and if somebody ya know
I thought there was even a future,
maybe I'd let you leave a toothbrush right?
But If I was not into you at all and it was what it is,
just maybe a one.
Then there was like if you left your shoe string
I'm like throwing it outside, you know what I mean.
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Get out.
But clearly they got along and what a lot of times
people get so busy with there careers they don't even really
and depending on how big his house is.
He might not have even realized that her entire wardrobe
and shoes are still there.
I don't think he was minding that at all by the way, it's.
Well definitely Blunts, look at her.
Who's gonna kick her out of the bed?
Yeah but why wouldn't he,
why wouldn't they have a conference and ask like,
who pays for what.
Who pays for the electric,
who pays for--
You know what Wendy sometimes in my experience,
some men are not the best communicators.
Yeah that's true,
(audience clapping) None of them are!
Sorry Steve, except for you,
except for you Steve.
You know what I mean?
Sometimes they need a little help Wendy,
a little proding.
Well what happens when they when he finally realizes
all those things are at his apartment or at his house.
He was fine with it they ended up getting married,
but here's my deal,
at least they have enough money where hopefully she can
sell her house after this plan.
So she could always take her stuff
and move it right back to her own house.
I just feel...
Steve you said--
It's a level of comforts too right?
Like you get to smell somebody, you just,
some things don't have to be discussed all the time,
you're just feeling comfortable,
you leave something over it's just, it's organic.
I'd be the one to offer the toothbrush you said it's okay
to bring the toothbrush say,
I'd be like I really like you, I have extra toothbrushes.
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You want a toothbrush?
You know, Wendy do you know how much of a baller
and a player you have to be to have extra toothbrushes
laying around the drawer.
I take the stuff from the shelf.
That's great!
You're gonna take everything,
and my toothbrushes aren't the ones where you go like this,
they're those good sonic care ones,
oh yes, oh yes.
You'd offer a sonic care toothbrush?
Would. Brush head maybe.
A brush head.
And I got all the extra brush heads and all that,
do you wanna use
Crest or Tom's toothpaste whatever,
got all that stuff when you get your talk show,
let me tell you something, jackpot.
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Steve you know.
I used to take the little mini shaving cream cans
from guest wardrobe.
See?
They're cheap!
Okay there's a new survey that says,
companies should stop trying to prevent employees
from dating each other.
Over 50% of people have dated co-workers, including me,
and almost 30% have dated bosses.
Look, Eboni where do you stand?
Okay from a legal perspective Wendy it's a bad idea,
this is a me too era right?
The litigation is crazy
and you're opening yourself up to some liability issues.
However, I do think grown folks can be grown folks.
Steve here is a perfect example,
I used to work with Geraldo Rivera,
Geraldo has married three assistants okay?
It happened.
He has!
He's still married to one of them now!
Happily!
So I don't think you should like,
legislate grown peoples' behavior.
Steve was doing security at Jerry Springer,
his wife was an executive producer ar Jerry Springer.
They, now did people at the Springer Show
know that you were dating?
No we kept it quiet for a long time.
Look how cute it is. Looking beautiful.
And now, Steve has his own talk show
and his wife is the executive producer of the talk show.
It worked out for him.
You know what?
What worked for me was,
when my wife was working on the show
and I looked at her and said,
wow this is somebody I respect so much,
she works hard and I got to know her without dating her
and then I realized
she was the kind of woman I wanted to be with
so that's how it worked out for me.
But that's the thing a lot of us
spend so much time at work
and that's where you spend a good majority of your life.
So, how are you gonna take away,
make it an HR policy and take away one of my major
possible dating pools?
I mean where else do you meet people, out, at work.
No 'cause we're always working to try and pay our bills.
I understand co-workers dating.
I've done it before in my past,
this is before getting married, I've dated co-workers,
I married, my first husband was a co-worker.
Oo what a mess.
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But I can tell you one thing right now,
what I would suggest is something like,
when you go fill out your social security number and stuff.
Once you get hired for the job with HR,
it's a real simple one page thing that says,
look, if by chance you start dating somebody here,
we're all grown.
And you need to sign this and if you don't sign it
then you can't have the job,
because what this is saying in simple english is,
if you guys dating, if your love life presents a problem
and interrupts the work space,
then we're getting rid of not one of you but both of you.
That's fair.
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I don't care whether it's an assistant and a boss,
then both of you are leaving.
But you know Wendy, you gotta be able to afford
to be able to do this type of thing.
Because, if you date and it goes left
and you don't have a beautiful
story like Steve here--
Then act like an adult don't make a big deal over it.
But sometimes it's awkward Wendy and I don't,
like if it gets awkward I wanna be able to roll,
and you gotta, you gotta be able to-
No it's not because with that first husband they asked me
"What do you want us to do with him he was making trouble?"
And I said, "Don't fire him."
See, I'm grown,
I was like don't don't fire him I was on the radio
doing a good thing,
just like don't fire him.
That's boss moves Wendy, boss moves.
I feel like it's like the one stipulation should be
you can't marry someone who's your superior,
or you can't date someone who's your superior right?
You can date somebody who's--
Who are you gonna get turned on to
the man who mops the floor?
Well I mean maybe?
It could happen!
(audience clapping) No, no.
Love is blind Wendy, love is blind.
Not after a particular age it's not.
All right you all, well thank you so much for being here.
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Steve again congratulations on that 2,000 show.
Eboni, love you!
Love you Wendy
New friend to the shelf.
And as usual we've got Nicole and she's wonderful as well.
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